You see a lot of books on law of attraction which talk about focusing strongly on the reality you desire to create, and to stay in this focus single mindedly until it manifests. Scientifically this is very true, it takes a single minded focus for a seamless manifestation of a desired reality – if your focus is scattered, the energy movement required for the manifestation of your desired reality is also scattered and hence highly ineffective. However, this single-minded focus cannot be created “artificially” through effort, it happens naturally when your mind and heart are pinning for a certain experience/expression (desire) in your reality – the heart and mind have to be in sync to ensure that there are no inner conflicts, but once they are in sync their focus is tremendous. The signal created by this focus is unscattered and hence is highly powerful in shifting/orchestrating energy required to manifest that desire. But, like I said, this happens “naturally”, you can’t force your mind, or heart, to focus on a certain desire that you don’t really feel passionate about.
To sustain a reality requires the fuel of your interest, so anything you are not really interested in does not have enough impetus to orchestrate the process of manifestation or sustain the reality once it’s manifested. For one, your heart is a truth machine, it won’t support something that does not find resonance with it and without your heart’s support your mind by itself cannot sustain a strong enough focus to manifest a reality. Let’s take a situation where you train your mind to have the “discipline” to focus consistently on a desire (that does not really invoke a lot of passion from your heart), doing so, for a long period of time, you can manifest the life-situation of your desired reality but it would be rooted in a vibration of struggle, thus attracting more struggle, basically because the energy behind creating it was rooted in “force”/struggle – this is not really what you want to experience in life. So, in short, forced, or efforted, focus is totally unnecessary and is, in fact, highly counter-productive towards experiencing aligned, or abundant, realities.
So what’s “deliberate” about deliberate creation?
The only thing that needs “deliberation” is a conscious letting go of struggle or artificial force. You deliberately let go of using an efforted force on your mind, that’s how you become a deliberate creator – all that happens is you allow your mind and heart to sync up naturally and thus allow them to create a unified focus towards their joint desire, which is always in alignment with your natural make-up and thus with your natural expression. You don’t have to “create” force, the force is already being created by the natural movement of your heart/mind, you just need to get out of the way – you just need to stop all the opposition that you are unconsciously creating to your natural desires, and thus to your natural expression in this human form.
We feel so scared of letting go of “force” and yet in the letting of force, of any form, you automatically fall into alignment with your life-stream’s movement. Ultimately, our desire is for a life that’s free of undue struggle, so that you can have a smoother journey filled with appreciation instead of a constant fight. Is it not logical that the only way you can attract such a reality is when you let go of your fight with your mind/heart? Stop forcing your mind around, and it will automatically come to a harmony. Stop forcing your body around and it will automatically find healing. If you think that you will become “inactive”, or dysfunctional, when you let go of your fear-based force, you will be pleasantly surprised at how your life force inspires the actions in you with the right timing – just imagine, if life was dependent on your discipline to sustain this body, it would die in 30 mins because you won’t remember to breathe. It just takes a little awareness to trust the intelligence of life instead of trusting your conditioned force.
You will notice that a desire happens quite naturally, out of the blue. You can’t even know what new desire will pop up in your being the next day. In truth, desires are created from the natural makeup of your brain/heart as well as from the growth path that you intended in your non-physical perspective. For example, a desire to start a business dealing with sports equipment could be your expression, and you may not even know why you desire it – you may notice that your brain has a natural inclination for business. Just like how some people have an natural proclivity towards music or arts. You may even have a natural proclivity for a 9 to 5 job, it’s naive to think that everyone is supposed to be an entrepreneur. This is just a very small example of how desire works in the professional field – in the same way you can have a desire for a relationship that’s just really strong within you, without any clue on how you can possibly find such a relationship. Some people don’t have a desire for an intimate relationship, while some do, why? Because of their natural makeup. Our natural desires are dictated by our natural makeup, which by itself was created in the vision of the growth path, or expression, we intended in our non-physical perspective.
Letting go of opposition to your natural desires
Basically, the desires that your mind comes up with, that syncs up with your heart, are all natural expressions of you. It’s only when you doubt these desires, suppress them, oppose them, work against them or try to force them, that “resistance” comes into play, and the natural orchestration is severely disturbed. A single belief, externally conditioned in you, that opposes your natural desire is enough to block its manifestation, simply because the energy of your mind is not supporting the desire.
The deal is that you don’t even have to make an effort to sort out your mind or your beliefs, you just need to get to a space of total allowing, and you leave it to your life-stream to re-program your beliefs – you will amazed at how negative/resistive beliefs drop away automatically without requiring any “techniques” on your part, if you just stay abiding in this space of total allowing, this is how you come to inner wholeness. Life is far too simple, that’s why we don’t come in with a “manual” – we don’t need a manual to live life, everything you need is already programmed in your natural makeup, you will live an aligned life the moment you stop your struggle and become allowing of life. It’s similar to how you learnt swimming, the first lesson was to let go of struggle so that you float automatically.
If a specific desire is really important to your mind, and heart, it will be totally enamored with it naturally – no effort is needed, the passion creates the force on its own. If you don’t find any such desire in you right now, it’s fine, you don’t have to force create this feeling – it’s not mandatory to have a strong desire at any point. Your mind/heart has several general desires, the most general one being for comfort and well-being, and this desire is always being orchestrated for you unless you resist this movement, unconsciously, by holding on to a negative focus. However, if you do end up having a strong specific desire, just allow it fully, don’t try to get all spiritual by trying to resist it – it’s the worst thing you can do to your own well-being. Also, let go of holding on to any doubts about this desire, and don’t try to “force” it out of desperation, just let yourself go with the flow and observe the way life orchestrates this desire for you – when you let go of self-inflicted struggle you are moved by the force of your life-stream’s inspiration.
Techniques are not needed for manifesting a natural desire
If you are tired sick of working with your affirmation cards, journal or visualization boards, feel free to chuck them. None of these artificial techniques are needed to manifest a natural desire in you. How much technique does a plant employ to manifest a flower? It just happens naturally driven by the force of its natural makeup. Whatever is needed for the manifestation of your natural desire is already present in you, all that’s needed is that you let it happen by dissolving your inner resistance created through identification with limiting thoughts created from fear-based, and lack-based, conditioning.
If you truly have a desire for a certain reality, your mind, and heart, will be totally obsessed with it – it doesn’t need a second invitation. And if you are not clear about what you desire, it just means you are not clear, so don’t try to force create some reality because you think you “have to”. Just relax and let life happen until a desire becomes evident in you, it’s bound to happen, you can be rest assured. In fact, the more you relax the more evident your heart’s desires become to your mind, the more clearly your inner being is able to communicate with your mind.
The less conflicted you are (the less identified you are with limiting conditioning or negative beliefs) the easier it is for your mind to sync up with your heart – the inner voice. Once the sync happens, your natural desires come through freely and become the point of focus for your mind. Even the desire for understanding life is part of the journey towards the manifestation of your natural expression. You can see how your mind is obsessed with the desire for answers to your questions, it’s a natural obsession, it’s not forced, and if you let it be, the answers will come in – you don’t have struggle to get answers, when you relax the answers are guided towards you (either from within or outside).
Don’t be frustrated with your desires
A desire is an obsession in the being, and the stronger the desire the stronger the obsession. However, this obsession need not feel “uncomfortable” in your body – the only time the obsession created by a natural desire feels uncomfortable is when it’s opposed by some resistance in you (like a negative thought). When it’s not opposed the obsession created by the desire is felt in your body as a pleasant/sensual feeling, it feels very similar to sexual energy (because it’s the same creative energy). In this context, I am not using the word “obsession” in a negative fashion, rather it’s a highly vitalizing feeling of passion that’s felt in the body – it’s what creates a zest for life, it gives a meaning to your physical journey, and an expression for your creative nature.
The reason people try to suppress their desire is because they are not aligned with this energy of obsession that it creates within, rather they are trying to disconnect from it because of their own negativity created out of limiting beliefs, orthodox thought patterns, misguided conditioning and a general lack of self-love. Also, the movement of desire can feel very uncomfortable when your inner space is full of resistance, created by a high momentum of negativity in your mind and suppressed emotional energy in your body. So instead of trying to suppress your desires, what’s required is that you start releasing these factors of resistance. (Refer posts – Reducing mind momentum and Releasing suppressed energy). In the absence of these resistances, the force of obsession created in your mind/heart towards the object of desire is not felt as an uncomfortable force, rather it’s felt as a zestful feeling.
The reason why a lot of people find their life meaningless, or dull, is because they’ve buried their natural desires through an overdrive of resistance created through identification with negativity, usually in the form of lack-based thinking or identification with a negative self-image. When you don’t allow your natural desires to have a free flow, you end up creating “blocks” in your inner space – these blocks cause a disharmony in your body’s energy field, after that it depends on the robustness of your body as to how long it can sustain this disharmony before it starts breaking down. The usual reason we suppress a desire is because we don’t want to feel “foolish” about living in a false hope – it feels painful to anticipate a desire that we have no idea about how it will manifest, however, it only feels painful when we are trying to figure it out, we are trying/struggling to make it happen, instead of allowing it to happen. If you let a desire be, it’s own force is enough to orchestrate the whole process of its manifestation including inspiring the right actions in you.