There are many books, and websites, available today which teach about the potential to create reality using techniques of visualization. Basically, the technique is to visualize the reality you desire, in your mind, and emotionally create the good feelings that you want to experience through the manifestation of this reality. Such a visualization is what I would call an “unreal visualization” or a “half-truth visualization”, or basically a light-natured visualization which completely avoids the dark nature that’s inherent to that reality. And, it’s very obvious that such a visualization exercise doesn’t work very well because it’s not rooted in “wholeness”, it’s mostly rooted in a delusion. For a “reality” to manifest you have to be aligned with the reality as a whole, you cannot just be aligned with one-half of the reality while avoiding the other-half.
If you see kids drawing, you will notice that they usually miss out on the shadows. However, in real life, you can’t have light without shadows. It would be unreal to hope that you can step out in the light and avoid creating a shadow at the same time. Everything in life will always come in two polarities – light and dark, it’s unavoidable. If you only want the light nature of a reality, you are asking for something unreal and hence it can’t be manifested. You can call it a blessing or a curse, it’s your perspective, but the truth is that life-energy has two polarities in it, and everything that comes from this life-energy will always have both these polarities.
You will notice this in nature, if you consider birth as the light nature of reality, it’s followed by death which is the opposite polarity, or dark nature of reality – a flower that blooms is bound to wither away, you can enjoy the bloom but it would be unreal to expect that it won’t wither away. Nothing in life can ever exist in one polarity alone. So, when you visualize your desired reality be sure to align with its dark nature as much as you align with its light nature – when you do this you will realize how much resistance you really have to the desired reality, and you will then know why it’s not manifesting. Until you align with the dark nature of a reality, you are basically fantasizing, you are not grounded in reality – fantasies will just remain fantasies, they can’t ever manifest as a reality in life.
Making peace with the dark nature of a reality
Life is a movement, and this movement exists because of the force of attraction created between the opposite polarities. You can look at the current of life as being similar to the current of electricity, the only way electricity can be generated is by connecting two opposite terminals + (plus) and – (minus) -, and the force of attraction created between these two terminals is what creates the current. It’s simple physics. The same way, what we call life is actually a “current” or a movement, and the reason it can sustain this movement is owing to the force of attraction created between its light and dark polarities. You can take any reality and you will see that there are light and dark components to it, we sometimes call it the “pros and cons” of a situation, though to see the dark component as the “un-required”, or the “con”, is just limiting perspective.
To understand that life-energy inherently cannot exist without its dark nature, can come as a shock to many, especially the ones who had a delusion of reaching some explicit light natured state at some point. This is the reason why it’s said that enlightenment will always steal you of all your delusions of life – enlightenment simply means to “understand” life in its wholeness. The root of struggle lies in not making peace with the reality of life – anyone who makes peace with the dark and light nature of life is no longer in conflict with reality and hence is free of struggle. True freedom is not freedom from the dark polarity of life, but a freedom to allow it. The reason why some people get stuck as permanent “seekers” is because they are seeking a deluded imagination of a hitting a permanent light-natured state at some point, a point which can never arrive because it’s not real – when this flaw in thinking is finally understood there is an openness to allowing the dark nature within them, and make peace with this component of life, and in this allowing a state of balance is realized.
No one can argue that a physical life has its discomforts, but it’s also true that a physical life has its beauty. To enjoy the beauty of physical life you also need to make peace with the discomforts of physical life, degeneration and death being one of them. Anyone who understands life also understands the “ordinariness” of it, you see the limitless in all its limitations. Life is limitless in that there is no end to it, because it’s all there is, however it’s also highly limited in that it can only work in the realm of polarities – even if it really wants it can’t manifest a purely light natured reality. When you see this limitation of life, you understand how ordinary it really is, it removes your sense of “awe” in many ways, it robs you of any delusions you had of extra-ordinariness, this realization leaves you liberated and grounded at the same time. If your idea of liberation was some light-natured state of being, you will soon see how naïve such an idea was. Liberation is about aligning with the reality of life as it is, it’s not about holding onto some delusion about life.
Every desired reality has a dark side
You can see how flawed the technique of visualizing a desired reality, in its “good feeling” aspects alone, is. Visualizing in such a manner gives you a very deluded perspective of reality, an incomplete picture, and hence you don’t get to see your real resistances. It’s only when you see the whole picture can you start seeing all your inner resistances to your desired reality. Of course, the way we desire itself is flawed in many ways when our mind is not understanding of life. Our desires are all “half-truths” when it’s only projecting a light-nature of a reality. A mature mind is the one that understands life to the extent where it does not hold on to a deluded version of a desire. If a reality is not manifesting in your life, it’s mostly because you are yet to make peace with its dark side – you are constantly visualizing its light side, and feel that you are totally resistance-free to having it (of course anyone would be resistance-free to having the light side) but you will be shocked to realize the amount of resistances you may have to the dark side of the reality when you start coming to terms with it.
To cite an example, consider that you desire to have a new car. If you follow the “rose tinted” visualizing technique, of just focusing on the good feelings you will get while cruising in the car, and other enjoyable aspects of it, you are only looking at 50% of the reality. Enjoying a cruise in the new car is the “light side” of this reality and you will certainly get to experience it when you get the car. However, let’s consider a few aspect of the dark side of this reality,
1. You would now need to make arrangements for doing away with your old car. If you are a male (or a female for that matter) you may have some serious attachment to your old car, and the thought of doing away with it can feel “painful” to a part of you.
2. Usually there is a mechanical process involved in the whole exercise of doing away with an old car, or buying a new car, which involves some paper work and other details. You may have some resistance towards such chores.
3. Buying a car involves shelling out the required money. You may have some resistances around spending money towards a luxury. We usually don’t face up to such resistances because we feel that “Once I have the money, I can spend it”, but if you see, it takes a mindset to be willing to spend on luxuries . If you lack this mindset you may well be disallowing luxuries in your life (which is not a negative, it’s just a question of whether you want it)
4. You may have a fear around driving a new car, possibly about denting, or crashing, it. Some may have a feeling of unworthiness towards driving a new car, or a certain luxury car.
5. There are new cars which keep coming into the market every year, nowadays. There can be a lot of resistance around going in for a car while holding the thought that you might get a better one next year. This state of indecision is usually rooted in the mindset of not understanding the dark side inherent to any reality of life, and thus holding onto some deluded idea of a “perfect deal”.
6. You may draw the attention of your neighborhood with your purchase. Basically, what’s called the “fear of success” may be a strong resistance within you.
7. You will soon start finding the experience of a new car fading away
The above train of thought will naturally ensue the moment you stop trying to force yourself into looking at the “good feeling” images alone. These are not “negative thoughts”, they are just the natural “shadow” of the reality you desire. Negativity is about not allowing yourself to align with the dark polarity of your desired reality. Most of your true resistances will be towards the dark side of a desired reality, and unless you can dissolve these resistances you will stand in the way of manifesting this reality. The only way to dissolve a resistance is to face it in yourself, allow it to come up in your consciousness, don’t try to suppress it or sugar-coat it. The more allowing you are, the more the resistance starts losing its grip on you.
You will notice that once you have a desire, and you are allowing of it within you, your “inner being” (or your life-stream’s intelligence) will automatically start generating possible scenarios of the “dark side” of your reality. Your mind may try to resist these thoughts by labeling them as “negative”, and may try to keep forcing itself to just hold a rose-tinted vision. If you catch yourself doing this, just let go of this mindset, and be totally allowing of the scenarios of the dark side which are being presented by your life-stream’s intelligence – only in this allowing can your inner resistances, to the actuality of your desired reality, start surfacing. You have the choice to hold on to a resistance and disallow the reality, you may realize that you are not really ready for your desired reality in its wholeness or possibly you don’t really want it (now that you are cognizant of its dark side aspects). However, if a desire is really important to you, then simply allow these scenarios, of its dark side, to play out in your mind, you will soon come to terms with them, and thus lose resistance towards the wholeness of your desired reality (especially when you understand that life has no choice but to play out both polarities).
Is it possible to only manifest the light nature of a desire?
It’s not. Simply because a reality can only be sustained by the movement of life-energy, and the movement to life-energy requires the force of attraction generated between the dark and light polarities of the reality (like the + and – terminals of a battery). You may now wonder if a person who has a higher awareness of life is at a disadvantage, because he/she can see the dark side of life so clearly that he/she may have resistance towards any desired reality. This is true, and that’s why it’s important that once you have a higher awareness of life, you need to complete your realization by becoming aligned with “wholeness”, where you are fully allowing of the dark and light nature in you, and in life. If you get stuck in the “limbo”, where your awareness is high but not high enough to transcend your resistances, you enter a state of feeling negative about life, with a sense of meaninglessness. As they say, half-understanding can be more dangerous than total ignorance – however one does have to go through a phase of half-understanding before coming to full-understanding, it can’t be helped, the quicker the transition the better.
A person with low awareness may be unconsciously fearless, but this state of unconsciousness also puts him/her at a disadvantage that he/she may be totally driven by deluded thinking. The truth is that you can’t stay at low awareness forever, your awareness is bound to grow as you journey through life, through life-times, and hence it’s inevitable that you will reach a point where you have to consciously transcend the influence of fear/resistance and see life as it is. So there is no point in arguing if it’s better to just stay in low awareness forever, it’s like arguing if its better to just stay in infancy forever – it’s not possible to do so, you are bound to grow with time. Once you start becoming aware you can’t go back to a low awareness state, your journey should be forward-oriented towards growing in awareness, and then using your awareness to transcend your resistances and thus become a conscious creator of reality.
Ask yourself how you would feel if your desired reality were to manifest the next day – if you feel that you will be over-whelmed by excitement there is a good possibility that you’ve not really made peace with the dark side of this reality, and you are only aware of the light side of it. Anyone who sees life in its wholeness stops getting driven by joy alone, a different factor comes into play – a factor of wholeness, it has a greater depth than joy, and there is an integration of dark and light nature in this place. You create simply because it’s your nature to want an expression/experience, not because of a delusion that it will get you into a permanent light-natured state.