One of the misguided understandings people have, especially those who are learning about law of attraction, is that – “exhilaration is the highest vibration to achieve “, and that the more exhilarated they stay the quicker the manifestation. In truth, exhilaration is simply a state of transition when you are moving from a low vibration to a stable vibration – it’s a transitory state.
You feel exhilarated when you have been on a low and are moving towards a state of relief, this transition is experienced in the body as that “blissed out” feeling. So in truth there is no such thing as a “high state”, there is only a state of relief (which is akin to wholeness), and what you define as a high state is a temporary transitory feeling as you move from a low vibration to the vibration of relief. The stable state is always ordinary and feels more like wholeness than exhilaration.
Also, a lot of people have this delusion that once they reach their desired reality they will be exhilarated all the time, which is not only an unreasonable thought to have but it also disconnects you from the reality of physical life where excited states (or high states) are not permanent.
The more time the body spends in a high state that more time it requires on the low state to compensate for it (that’s why over-excitement is always followed by some depression). The steady state for the body is one of wholeness, which actually is a state simplicity or ordinariness, it’s not a dull state, it’s just a state free of extremes (over-excitement or depression).
When you reach a point where your desires don’t over-excite you but just feel “whole” or ordinary, you are far less resistant to their manifestation.
Visualizing the ordinariness of your desire
A lot of people focus on pumping up their excitement levels, which they equate with a high vibration, and try to visualize their desires in this state of excitement.
However, a desired reality when it manifests would always feel “ordinary” – you can see it in all your past life experiences that every time a desired reality manifested it felt so ordinary, it felt like the next thing, and usually it manifested when you were no longer making a big deal about it.
The truth is that “reality” is always ordinary, and it’s usually when we have some deluded, or hyped up, imagination about the future that we feel over-excited. And as long as you are not looking at your desire from the context of the ordinariness of reality, you will always have some delusion of big dealness about it – and thus you would indirectly be in resistance to its manifestation.
Of course, you can’t “pretend” that a desire feels ordinary to you (you can’t fake it), it’s basically a natural state the mind reaches, with respect to a desire, when it has seen through all the “extra-ordinariness” that it had been associating with it. In a simple sense, a mature mind (you can read the post – moving towards a mature mind) is able to see through its delusions more easily than an immature mind.
It’s just reasonable, and logical, that if something feels extra-ordinary to you it just means you are not in touch with reality. And when you are not in touch with reality, with respect to a desire, you’ve not really aligned yourself with the circumstances, which you will end up in, when your desire manifests.
A desire becomes a fantasy when you are holding extra-ordinary imaginations about it, and projecting a lot of big-dealness to it. Reality on the other hand is far removed from the fantasies of the mind, it’s far too ordinary than what the mind imagines it to be. The hallmark of a mature mind is that it does not associate fantastic imaginations with respect to a desire and is willing to see the desired reality in the context of ordinariness.
There is a place for feeling excited and exhilarated about a desire, especially during the initial few days when it’s hatched (and it’s an enjoyable experience), but if you don’t allow yourself to see through all your excitements/delusions and thus be rooted in the ordinariness of reality, you would just end up holding onto a fantasy which removes you from being aligned with the true vibration of your desired physical reality – which directly means that you are not a match to attracting it.
Get in tune with reality
A new desire always fills you with excitement or exhilaration, because for a while you are looking at it purely from the dimension of joy/love/sexuality in your mind. But soon enough you will start seeing it from the dimension of fear (when you have doubts about it), and then you will start seeing it from the dimension of hatred (hating the desire for not manifesting), which are both low vibration states of being and hence highly resistant to manifestation.
However, the problem is that you keep trying to get back to feeling exhilarated about the desire instead of allowing yourself to naturally move into a place of nonchalance about the desire (where you see it as ordinary, from the dimension of boredom in the mind). You can read about all the dimension of the mind on this post – the 6 dimensions of the mind.
It’s important to understand that “pure” exhilaration about a desire is always felt only the first time it’s hatched, after that you are only trying to “re-create” the feeling of exhilaration about the desire. This is because you feel afraid of allowing the desire to feel ordinary, because you think that if the desire feels ordinary it will lose its importance in your mind.
But if you allow yourself to just stay “natural”, you will see that the desire naturally starts feeling ordinary after a while and this is what allows a resistance-free manifestation of it. The state of exhilaration is only a primary/preliminary state, and it’s not meant to be “maintained” to manifest the desire.
The natural phases/transition that a mind goes through with respect to a desire are – Exhilaration (joy/love) – Doubt (fear) – Frustration (hatred) – Nonchalance (boredom). When it reaches the final phase of nonchalance, it’s least resistant to manifesting the desire and hence the manifestation starts unfolding with ease.
A lot of people either get stuck in doubt or keep trying to re-create the exhilaration (which basically creates more frustration), instead of allowing a natural transition into nonchalance where you are no longer making a big deal out of the desire – this is when you really get in tune with the ordinariness of life, and thus see your desire from the context of reality, this is the stable place from where you allow a smooth manifestation to unfold.
Sen-
What if this “desire” you speak of is our life goal. Our dream in life. Are we not supposed to be passionate about it? I know in my personal case every time I think about my dream i get very excited sometimes even to the point of getting goosebumps. Now this is not all day but just when I am visualizing myself as already having attained that dream.
Is it wrong of me to do this? I feel like it is only right to be passionate and get excited about our goals, what is the point of trying to manifest something if you are not excited and passionate about it. it seems to me like that is what makes it fun.
By the way in my case the feeling of joy/exhilaration is not forced at all it comes completely natural when my mind seems to focus on this goal.
Please explain a little more on this subject as i am interested in finding out your point of view on this
Robert, as I mentioned in the post, a lot of people imagine that “passion”, or exhilaration, is the highest vibration of physical life to the point where they start avoiding the stable state of wholeness mistaking it to be a low state. However, excitement is an unstable state and is usually not conducive to allowing wisdom and maturity required to allow for a harmonious reality. It’s enjoyable to experience excitement and passion, but it’s also required to come to a “balanced state” from where you can allow for wisdom and stability to bring forth a smooth manifestation to your desire. If you are honest, you will see that underlying your excitement will always be “fear” because there is very little difference between the vibration of excitement and vibration of “fight or flight” fear. It’s also very common for excitement to turn to depression making you a highly volatile person, who lacks a stability in their energy space.
Your desire, even it it’s your life goal, is still just an expression of life and it’s highly ordinary from the perspective of wholeness. If you are lost in the excited output of your expression, you will soon lose touch with your wisdom and may even start ignoring the needs of your “body” and be subjecting it to an over-drain due to your restlessness or hyperness. When you do this, your body ultimately finds someway of attaining a balance by either getting sick or by slumping into a depression or stark low cycle.
Excitement is natural when your mind has a deluded imagination about reality, when you feel that your desired physical reality is going to give you some permanent state of bliss or fulfillment or superiority, and it’s fine to experience this excitement for a while. A relatively immature mind is far likely to be stay rooted in the deluded ideas regarding the “achievement” that your desired reality will bring you, and thus it feels exhilarated every time it imagines the desired reality. A mature mind allows for a wholistic view of life, where you allow yourself to see your desires from a simple place of ordinariness. This does not make you lose interest in your desire, it just makes you more stable in your approach to your desire, and it also allows for a harmonious and wholesome unfolding, where you don’t end up over-exerting the body or attract some imbalance in your reality. The way desires operate in a mature mind is completely different from the way they operate in a relatively immature mind which is yet to come to terms with understanding the reality of physical life.
Wholeness is a state of balance which is resistance-free compared than a state of passion or excitement. If you see around you, you will notice that a lot of passionate people, who are over-excited about their creative expression, are also the ones who are leading imbalanced lives (they may have messed up health or relationships), and usually lack in wisdom or stability. Passion is a volatile state, wholeness is a state of balance. The “content” of desires can be manifested from a place of excitement also, but the manifestation will have a lot restless energy to it and thus continue to keep you in a place of imbalance. But when you allow your desires to be manifested from a place of wholeness, where you are not longer holding extra-ordinary imaginations about your desire, you allow for a smooth and stable manifestation.
I now understand what it means by letting go. Whenever, I have read about law of attraction, it always talks about being really passionate about your goals during meditation/visualization or affirmations and then letting go or releasing it into the universe. I think Sen has just elaborated on how to let go which is great because a lot of people including me didn’t know exactly what letting go meant because most of the time i felt fear and frustration. Feeling passionate about a goal is a great feeling because it lets us know the importance of trying to achieve something. However, “letting go” or “releasing it into the Universe” is just as important. This means coming back to a normal/stable state or feeling ordinary which Sen has just elaborated. We cannot be hyped up about something 24/7 it can be tiring but feeling ordinary (feeling Calm) keeps us motivated according to my understanding. 🙂 It is important to make sure that feeling ordinary is actually feeling calm/positive. When we are feeling calm we are also feeling confident, we trust that things are working out well 🙂 Which is great because this is what is needed to manifest something 🙂
Good Luck Everyone and Thank you Sen for a lovely article 😀
Ok this makes sense. But how are we supposed to move from this passionate state to one of nonchalance? I think it feels wrong to try to suppress my passion. Also by losing my passion won’t the desire for the goal go with it as well?
Robert, it’s not about suppressing your passion but about bringing a balance to it. It’s very easy for your passion to cause an imbalance in your being, where you become so tilted towards the excitement that you lose touch with your inner stability, which is a highly unwise state to be in and can lead to mental/bodily fatigue in the least. The highest vibration is basically when you are balanced in all the dimensions in your mind, what I call the state of wholeness. If you feel a sense of restlessness and over-zealousness in you, it defines an imbalance into the dimension of joy and you may need to balance it by allowing so calm/relaxation/ease in your being. You will be amazed at how quickly excitement can disconnect you from your being, to the point where you feel uncomfortable even sitting with yourself for a few minutes. When you are not deeply connected with your inner space/being there is a definitely lack wisdom in your movements.
If you want practice, I would suggest to just sit with yourself for 30-45 minutes a day, not trying to do anything but to just close your eyes and allow your awareness to rest inside without distractions. This simple practice will give you an indication of the amount of restlessness within you, and as you continue to do this you will find more and more stability in your being. You will be amazed at the new perspectives and wisdom that this balance opens up for you.
right on … your posts are like mad sweet candybars with grace i wanna eat and digest slowly and accurate : )
Thank you for this!
Awesome!!!! I CONCUR
amazing article you are so right and thank you for this great article. Could you kindly let me know what to do when I think about my desire in which case is my ideal partner. When I think about having him I feel excited. So should I enjoy the feeling of being excited first fully and when I have fully enjoyed it then move to feeling normal about my desire? if not, what would you suggest? Thanks a world 🙂
It’s enjoyable to think about the joy based aspect of the desire and the exhilaration/excitement that it brings forth, and it’s highly positive to dwell on this aspect of the desire. With time you can also go deeper and look at this desire beyond just the projection of excitement, and see it as how it would be in ordinary life, because if you are only holding on to an extraordinary projection about your ideal partner it’s very possible that you will try to project a lot of unreal expectations from the guy when you are in a relationship with him – this is what it means to put someone on a pedestal. If you are in touch with the ordinariness of life, in some way, you will have a balance in your expectations.
Thank you again, Sen, for another well written, and informative piece. You don’t know how helpful this really is!
I’ve often read that if you just THINK about your desire after you’ve visualized, you project a vibration of more lack, and remain in unalignment…is this true even if your desire feels “ordinary?”
For example: If you say “Oh, this thing that I wanted seems pretty inevitable, it’ll happen soon.” does that doom you to be unaligned just because you thought about your desire??
Dear Sen Ji,
What if our mind wants to keep ruminating about the manifestation? It wants to keep worrying/thinking about the goal/reality that it wants to manifest. How do I get to the point of seeing orderiness of goal? I cannot fake it, I cannot make it up.
Thanks,
Anu
Anu, it’s simply about trusting the intelligence of your life-stream to deliver your desired reality in a manner that’s most harmonious. So your mind needs to let go of the pre-occupation to figure it out. Ultimately everything in this physical reality is “ordinary” to the core, simply because everything is temporary. Desire and manifestation is a constant cycle that will go on eternally, and there is never an end to this. Once one desire manifests there will be something else – it’s part of the play of life. So instead being so hooked on wanting/craving a manifestation, just let go, relax and know that your life-stream is any way moving towards it anyway. It’s like when you are travelling from point A to point B by car, you can either simply relax and allow the journey to happen, or you can sit and worry until you reach point B – in the former case, you have a pleasant experience of the journey, in the latter case you have a bad experience of the journey and may even cause delays by constant re-checking the routes and not trusting the driver. Understand that your life-stream has the bigger picture, whereas your mind can only thinking from its limited/past conditioning/experience, so give yourself a break and relax. Moreover, when you relax you become more receptive to your inner inspiration thus allowing a faster manifestation.
Hi Sen,
Could you please suggest me a mediation or a technique to make my desires feel ordinary so that I can remove the high degree of burning attention that I give to them? How can I make them feel ordinary?
Thank you,
Trueone, you can give attention to your desire, but you need to let go of holding limiting thoughts about this desire including the thought that you know what’s best for you – allow the desire to be a “blue print” that you pass on to your life-stream, and then let go and allow your life-stream to take care of orchestrating the actual details in a manner that most most aligned with your well-being. If you get hung up on the details/specifics then you can feel highly resistant to allowing life to move you, because your mind would be too hung up on what it thinks is the right way for things to unfold. It’s not about a “technique” but about gaining a better understanding about life’s working. You can read these posts for a better understanding on how to allow life to orchestrate your desired reality
Seeing beyond the brain’s perspective
Embracing the ordinariness of life
Staying surrendered to what is
Thank you Sen ji. I get it. And with my understanding of the how life orchestrates things, I will naturally let go being so hung up on desires and its manifestations. I will see its ordinariess on its own.
Hi, Sen.
What if these days, I don’t feel any excitement, or anything people considered ‘high vibration’. Neither anger or anything. It’s like I don’t feel anything. I don’t feel negative nor positive emotions. I don’t know what feeling is this. All I can say is: calm. But sometimes I’m bored. But most of the time I feel nothing. I don’t feel the urge to do anything, I don’t feel the excitement, I am just calm (the nearest word I could ever get to describe).
And recently, the world manifests things, ‘near hit’ ones. Like, I’ve listed down what I want, but the ones that come are not exactly what I want but still have criterias that I listed.
So, two questions:
1) Is my feeling ‘right’? Is this the right feeling to feel?
2) People say that ‘near hit’ ones are signs that I am really closed to what I desire. So should I, like, cherish the ones that come, or I really have to wait until the perfect one comes?
Thank you!
Mika, that’s totally fine, this feeling of “plainness” is a very normal during the transition phase. Just allow this feeling, without questioning it or worrying about it, and it will start fading away in intensity and a sense of aliveness starts replacing it – it will take some time though. Calm is a better vibration than agitation, but your natural vibration will always feel more like “aliveness” than a “plain calm”. You will transition into your natural vibration soon enough, for now just allow this present feeling of this dull calm fully.
Thanks ALOT, Sen! I’ve been through phases, starting with – “Exhilaration (joy/love)”, Then I’d jump to , “Doubt (fear)” Because I’ve never seen a person fly, with my own eyes, or even anything believeable “real” on any screen or monitor? Then came the “Frustration (hatred)” Because I had started at the very beginning with (joy/love) and visualized from every angle, my intention many many times, and went back and forth between joy and doubt, Then the frustration came in, because I know what I read in the past lots of places about the, “quick” “fast vibration” “manifestation” I wondered why wasn’t I getting off?
And now I am predominantly at Nonchalance (boredom).
Now the image and playing scene of me levitating and flying through the air, is only a tidbit more exciting than me, sitting or laying with eyes closed without a single verbal thought or mental image, feeling my breath.
I know I am evolving at an extremely rapid rate, not because , now up to today I’ve been feeling funny when I walk places like Im bopping up and down, or my vision being different for the past few days seeing, the best way I can say at the moment is, double or triple the image, at times a little outta focus, vision blurring and streaking when Im turning my head, and lots of times leaning or stepping forward like someone just shoved or pushed me when Im alone and just making regular everyday movements, and not even because Im typing this with one eye closed right now?
But because I am losing track of time, and I know wherever I look, up down foward right left spinaround, all is happening inside me. And at a deeper level, I do not even exist!! Not as Mack? Or Anything AT ALL, other than Pure Consciousness!
And the funny wonderful fact that when I read your title
“When Your Desire Feels Ordinary, It’s On the Verge of Manifestation”
Confirms to me that, to God/Pure Consciousness either all is a miracle or nothing is a miracle. Looking at an old abandon spider web on a window is just as miraculous as walking on water. Or ordinary? All is the same to pure consciousness for it doesn’t judge?
I am losing not my identity, but my tiny sense of separation into the one and only source. When I first read the title of this post for an instant, I was at one in my mind, with your mind at the time you were typing the title. If that makes any sense? LoL
Thank you so much! I’ve been finding my desire to be quite ordinary of late; this is something I really want, hold in great importance and have been affirming for, for months. I had been feeling anxious about this feeling of ordinariness, wondering if I really want it to manifest as I did. I ‘stumbled upon’ this article right on time (the Universe has amazing ways), and feel great about the ordinariness now- much more assured and confident of myself.
Thanks again for a lovely explanation! 🙂
hi,
i cant tell u how right this article is,,i always experienced it,, whenever it dint matter things seemed to happen, went thru a low phase in life and almost out ther,, but money seems to be lacking,, not enough. can u help me get over this??
my childhood was marked be serious grief due to loss of employment of my dad and also for a long time it seemed like it would never get better,, now am married and again i seem to hv re created the early fearful money situation tht used to be..how can i get over this and create abundance in my life!
Let go of this thought, and you’ll write what you wrote in your first line. (Thought i might chime in Sen 😉
So basically to get what you want ( desires) will only become a reality when it doesn’t matter to you? When you feel nothing about it? I had my driving test last week and after a week of visualizing of myself passing and having the feeling of already passing my test, I actually passed my driving test. So to visualize in a high state still works. It worked for me! so okay let’s say I want a car. It’s all I ever wanted. To me driving is freedom and if a car lands on my doorsteps right now , theres Noway I could not feeling excited or happy. But you say I should? I’m confused. As if right now I really want a friend to get intouch with me but she hasn’t for like a week. I’ve been visualizing her texting me back because I moss our little talks. So how do I manifest her getting intouch with me again? Do I just leave and not care, which then makes it manifest faster?
Sarah, there is nothing wrong with visualization or any other manifestation processes that you may be using, to enjoy aspects of deliberate creation is part of our experience especially as we grow in awareness of this potential. However the pointer in this post was towards recognizing that a state of inner balance is a “pre-requisite” for any deliberate creator; a person who has an inner imbalance (lets say a strong sense of inner lack) and is trying to use “manifestations” as a means to fill up this inner imbalance is mostly just signing up for creating more imbalance (in inner experience and reality). You may notice a restless vibe in you, and when you operate from this place of restlessness (where your idea of wholeness is basically the next manifestation) you will tend to manifest reflections of this imbalance in all your creations. It’s not your driving license, your car or the reply from your friend, that’s going to give you a sense of inner wholeness, rather it’s the process of connecting with your sense of being and realizing the momentum of mental/emotional imbalance – the imbalance could be in any dimension including love, joy, fear, hatred, boredom or sexuality. A person imbalanced in joy operates from a place of over-excitement and restlessness, which may seem like a positive state but one can see how such a person can be highly “volatile” (or unstable) in behavior and movement. If your primary focus is on manifestations (where you give extra-ordinary importance to them) you will always be operating from a place of inner lack, which will always get reflected in your manifestations in some way. The “ordinariness” I talk about is simply the sense you have of reality when you are operating from a place of inner wholeness where you don’t attach ideas of extra-ordinariness to anyone or anything.
One of the best writings! So very true.
I am so glad to have found your site and to find some of my looming questions being answered.
I hope it’s ok but I am going to share this information with others in my blog, quoting you and your site.
Many thanks
Deborah, feel free to do so
Sen, thanks for the info on the subject. However, I have been working on my desire for over a year now. In the process, I have read many books a d sought advice fr professional metaphysic gurus and I’ve had all the symptoms you have talked about (fear, joy, doubt, confused, questionings, anxiety, and some very good feelings) concerning my desire to be what I desire. Lately I’ve noticed that I seem to feel more relaxed about the situation and feel as though I’m getting real close. I know the law states not to use to much effort, but how am I supposed to get this done because this is a realistic desire, a loving desire and a desire that will benefit myself as well as others. I have all this info stoved up in my skull and I seem to be to analytical of the process, I need to use the easy does it way. But, I at the same time feel I need to totally make this am everyday part of my being as like I already have it right? If I feel I already have it, I deny my earthly physical senses and truly accept as it is done then what do I do to get this to come about.
To me manifestation of one thing compared to another should be the same process and should be no easier or harder than the other. I guess my question is this (how do I know when I got it right, do I give a lot of thought daily or a little?, and how do I know when its right and to stop and let go) and how do I stop and let go because I feel if I stop and let go of the desire I’m no longer nurturing the desire. I’ve been studying and feeding this despire to the best of my ability for over a year now and not one day has passed that I do not give this desire attention and positive thought. But, I do feel as if I have convinced myself that it will happen and that I already have it. So for I just stop thinking of it or do I give it attention daily as I have been. I am bound to this desire because I know it was given to me. A lot of questions I know, but your help setting me on the right track would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
Dwayne, one thing you can work on is to see the desire from a very objective view of how it will operate in the reality on Earth, it’s not just about giving it positive thought but also about giving it a realistic thought – in others words get a sense of the dark nature components along with the light nature components. For example, if your desire is to allow a financial inflow that can allow for a certain lifestyle, you would have to consider the aspects involved in this lifestyle on a daily basis – managing the money, the banking, the taxes, the responsibility, the outside attention, the possible investment of the money (it can’t all be just for vacations, after all there is a natural need for productivity within us along with the need for entertainment), the change in your friend circle, and mainly the required maturity to deal with the independence. Sometimes there is a tendency to focus on the desire without allowing a realization of the maturity that it requires in you, or the growth that it requires in you.
It’s fine to find a certain desire to be very important to you, but it’s also required to see through any sense of delusion about it, for example, the desire, when it manifests, will also bring with it contrast of its own (there is no perfect reality, everything comes with a light nature and a dark nature) and it takes a maturity to sense this ordinariness inherent in all of reality. A sense of over-excitement could also be a resistance of it’s own because it could be coming from a place of a certain immaturity/delusion that’s not aligned with the mindset required to handle this desire when it manifests. Too much of anything is a resistance because it creates an imbalance, this includes too much attachment to a certain outcome/manifestation – for example, just consider what you will authentically feel if your desire is rejected by life, if it has no realistic possibility of manifesting in this lifetime and hence needs to be let go of, the degree of dejection will be indicative of the degree of attachment – a strong degree of dejection is indicative of a strong resistance within in terms of fear, sense of lack and a lack of openness. These are just ways to bring awareness to your sense of inner stability, maturity and balance, a lot of “important” desires require all these aspects to be in place before they can take shape in terms of expression and experience.
Thanks a bunch Sen, I truly appreciate your help with this process. Please forgive all the questions but, I believe you are trying to tell me that I need to see and experience both the bad and good sides concerning my desire and it is a definitely possible desire to achieve in this lifetime and could come at any time I just do not wish to state it due to this being a public forum. However, I can tell you that this desire has happened for thousands of others on
this great planet. When you say authentically feel it am I to see (visualize) or feel these dark and light sides of the (fulfilled) desire as after the fulfillment or should I p practice this now to begin trying to balance my mind and bring maturity to my mind in preparation for my desires fulfillment? I believe you are saying to see/feel all aspects of the desired state before I can reach the desired state? So, should I keep the excitement low and be aware of the dark side in order to bring the maturity you speak of? I can tell you this much I truly feel as if it will happen and I have the desire truly stuck in my head. I am greatful for your wisdom and I thank you.
Dwayne, desires are creative thoughts and like any thought they can arise from a place of balance or from a place of imbalance. You can allow the energy of your desire as thought and feeling, and then allow yourself to be aligned with the foundation of openness towards allowing things to happen in a way, and in a timing, that’s in sync with balance and wisdom, in sync with collective intelligence, in sync with your growth requirements. Just because a desire is stuck in your mind doesn’t mean that the desire is really aligned with you, it can just be something that captures your mind’s imagination which in itself could be from a place of delusion. However, the fact remains that if it’s aligned with you (aligned with your growth requirements) it will take shape quite naturally in a state of allowing. It is possible to manifest desires through mental force, or undue force of your will, it’s just that the energy will then come from the inner state that you are in, and if the inner state is one of imbalance that’s exactly the energy that gets imbued into the manifestation.
The maturity that speak of is a place where you have an openness towards letting things happen in a manner that’s most aligned with personal and “collective” balance, without trying to impose your will in a forced manner – remember that you are a part of the collective realm of life and not just an individual existence, the collective requirement is as essential to life as the personal requirement. Allow yourself the openness to let the desire manifest in the right timing, or not manifest at all if it’s not aligned with balance, and allow yourself the perspective that you can’t really know what’s the right timing or the right events simply because your mind can only see the ground view not the top view. More than focusing on the manifestation of a desire, what’s more prudent is to work on finding your inner balance where you don’t feel a strong sense of neediness towards the desire (which can take the shape of over-excitement, craving, frustration and narrow-minded approach) – whatever is aligned with you in a state of balance will find place in your reality as a natural movement. There is a certain energy of desperation that may be present in your current vibe which is not really aligned with the state of inner balance. Allowing yourself to see the dark and light nature inherent to any desired reality is a means seeing through any sense of deluded expectation you may have from your desire, from this place you can see things from a place of objectivity, and wisdom, than from a place of delusion.
Hi Sen
Nice article!
Just have a question what do you do or feel if your seeing signs of your desire?What does this mean? Because i keep seeing signs and i don t know what to do.
Hope you share your insight on this
Thanks,
Dear Sen
Why does it seem like this inner wholeness is void of having fun? There are people I know that have a lot of fun and cannot go very long without hanging out with someone. I used to think that was something to be jealous of, but I can see it as an imbalance.
If I were (for example) at a concert, I would certainly prefer to be having fun jumping around compared to the Mom watching her kid on the diving board pretending to be interested “That’s nice dear”. Is the inner wholeness balanced feeling anything like fun and/or is fun a bad state to be in?
Michael, the problem is not with “having fun” but about becoming addicted to fun and taking it to be the only reason for living. Fun is one part of experience of life, it’s a light nature aspect of living, however life is not just about light nature but also about the dark nature (the yin and yang) and in order to be in harmony with the movement of life one has to be balanced towards the light and dark nature aspects. If you are only living for seeking fun then you will constantly resist, and be afraid of, certain aspects of living. Even a drug addict seeks fun, and his addiction to fun is what makes him disconnect with a balance – he may be seeking relief from pain but eventually the reason why pain has such a momentum in him is because of past resistance towards balance, and as he continues to keep resisting certain aspects like being responsible, being objective, connecting with reality, keeps fearing dark-natured emotions/thoughts, and thus he continues to keep falling into imbalance through seeking relief through drugs. Maturity involves something deeper than just seeking fun. The state of wholeness is not devoid of fun, it’s just balanced towards everything including fun, you don’t become “boring”, or dull, you just become a balanced personality following your desire/expression/preferences in a balanced manner. Of course, if you don’t find “maturity” attractive, it just means that you have to dabble with seeking fun, as your refuge, for a while until you get tired of it, or until it starts showing its negative side, or until it brings you to a threshold of imbalance.
Hi Sen.
I am a single mum and I have been on sickness benefits for about a year now with severe depression and fibromyalgia.
I’d always scanned over the local job searches anyway and there hasn’t been many jobs available for such a long time that would suit my situation so always worried about when the time would come for me to start work again.
The moment I started to feel better a few weeks ago, I started seriously wanting to get
back to work again and
so I started searching for a job everywhere!
My doctor said its prob too soon as only just feeling better and to wait a little longer and that maybe I am looking for a job at the moment only down to severe financial pressure ive been suffering. I took his advice and about a week later, low n behold, a job turns up in my local paper which would be perfect for me. It’s a 10 minute walk away, the right hours for my circumstances and also wouldn’t aggravate my condition. I thought typical! I couldn’t stop thinking about it so just went for it!
I got chosen for an interview! I was one out of 10 applicants that they narrowed it down to because the boss told me there were over fifty applicants! I was quite chuffed with myself ! I then believed I’d get the job because of how it seemed perfect for me, how it popped up in the 1st place just as I was thinking about getting a job and also my luck to get picked as one of the favourite 10 out of over 50 applicants.
Bearing in mind, I didn’t have the law of attraction on my mind at that time, i started reading about it on the internet by chance only after i got the interview!
I was looking for self help on the internet for my depression. Well, mainly through looking for answers as usual to try n figure out why i am the way i am. I read something about LAO many years ago in my teens but just dismissed it as rubbish.
Anyway… there have been to many things in my life that have been very coincidental and just plain weird. From being a young child after my grandad died, I have been on a massive meaning of life search, reading so many books, watching documentaries on many different subjects, ghosts, pyschics, OBEs, Tarot, religion etc plus visiting the spiritualist church, psychics etc but then last year I ended up being a total non believer in god, life after death etc etc. I’ve even seen a ghost when I was 14 ( no joke!) plus had many other ghostly experiences but still I ended up last year feeling like there isn’t a reason for us or me. We are born, then we die. I put all my ghostly experiences down to some scientific reason which one day will be discovered.
Thing is, now my depressionhas stabilised again (had it from aged 15 yrs on and off) I have a brand new perspective on life as though I’ve woken up.
This incidence with the job had kind of helped with this awakening. Thing is I didn’t get the job but the boss rang and said another girl with experience got the job but otherwise he’d have given it to me and he wants to keep my application should he need someone else. I was really desperate for the job after the interview then didn’t get it! I was worrying about not getting it so much it played and played on my mind.
Process…..I wanted a job really bad, then forgot about it as my doctor said and so the perfect job arose!
Then, I go for the job anyway being too good to miss, wish for it desperately, and I wasn’t successful!
Other things have been happening too over the last few weeks since my depression lifted, I was playing on my sons i pod and playing a game called “what Pic”. You guess what the picture is of which is partly hidden. I was stuck on one in particular so ended up just cheating and checked the answer on the internet. The answer was “Aurora”.
Last week it was the British grand national so I thought I’d have a flutter and bet on what feels right and one of the horses that stood out for me was called “Auroras Encore” so I thought, ill go with that coz It took me straight back to my sons “what pic” game. I put £2 on it to win at 66/1. I felt a bit stupid telling my boyfriend I’d backed a horse those odds but it was weird coz I just had a feeling about it but I also kept telling myself not to think about it too much as I’m always crap at backin horses on the national. So I backed it uncaringly!
Guess what?? It only won the race really easily!! Haha! OMG I was sooo amazed!
If it wasn’t for that feeling I had and that app game, I’d not have backed it!
Nobody i know backed that horse and even the people on the tv were gobsmacked! I won £134 and the women in the bookies said “well done, hardly anybody backed it”.
Right, sorry this is really long but I just wanted to put across my experience to you and other people that somehow for some reason, things seem to only happen when I don’t expect it too. It happens when you feel positive and but ” NOT “desperate.. Like your happy whatever the outcome because you feel life is just in your favour anyway.
So I understand what you are saying about the balance. One other thing, is it precognition? Or LAO.
Also, my auntie always used to say she didn’t want to die old and a burden to her kids, she also said (yrs ago) she bets she’ll die the same age as her mother at the age of 54. My auntie also suffered long term depression and August 2011 she died of cancer… aged 54!
Be careful what you wish for!
I know you may all think its coincidence but there have been too many coincidences in my life for me to dismiss it. Funny since my depression has lifted my luck has changed. I don’t know what is going on but I’ve thought about things thoroughly believe me, from both sides, a believer then totally a non believer. I’m am positive now that there is definatly something going on. Like I said, I have researched for years on so much to do with how life works etc and my conclusion is you really are dumb to dis believe in some sort of higher power!
Carla, anyone who develops a deeper awareness about life will naturally sense the influence of a “higher power” than just believing that the “individual ego” is the master – basically the “individual ego” is a co-creator, co-existant, along with the “collective intelligence” of life. You can look at the “individual ego” as a cell and “higher power” as the intelligence of the body – eventually the cell’s well-being depends on the body’s intelligence, and body’s well-being depends on the cell’s ability to function harmoniously, in that sense the body needs the cells to “exist” and the cells need the body (collective intelligence of the body) to function. Scientifically one may say that the body is just a bunch of cells, but the body is deeper than the individual cells, it’s like the “container” intelligence.
I use terms like the “intelligence of your life-stream”, inner-being, inner-wisdom, inner-guidance etc as label to point towards the higher power that is operational in everyone’s life at all points – this intelligence may not always function in a manner that suits the mind, after all the mind can only have a narrow vision and it will interpret events from this narrow vision, whereas the higher intelligence has a “top vision” (upper view or totality view) and thus orchestrates events from the higher understanding. Some events that appear “negative” may be serving as a building block for a better solution or better growth/maturity – however, when you are feeling “negative” allow that feeling fully instead of trying to blanket it with some forced positive thinking, don’t try to fake a feeling which you are not naturally feeling, if you are feeling desperate allow the feeling of desperation fully within, this allowing is what keeps you in a state of being free of resistance to the movement of life which always involves an interplay between light and dark (yin/yang).
The philosophy of “think positive” can give a narrow perspective and in fact create new forms of “resistances” in a being. There are basically just two options of living 1. Resist life 2. Allow life. Just because you are thinking positive doesn’t mean that you are thinking aligned with the intelligence of life – for example, in your attempt at positive thinking you may focus on getting a job that may not really be right for you from a bigger picture. You mentioned that you didn’t get the job because you got “desperate”, it’s just as possible that you didn’t get that job because it was not the right time for you to start working (which is why your life-stream arranged for you to win the bet to get some exra-money to keep tiding you over) and the interview may have served a different purpose which you may find out later (like you getting a different position later down the line, in the same company, based on you present interview). There are just two options as an inner choice 1. Resist what’s happening 2. Allow what’s happening – when I say “allow what’s happening” I am not saying “be okay with what’s happening”, rather if you feel “not okay” with what’s happening, then allow the feeling of being “not okay” fully instead of trying to blanket it with some fake positive thinking. To “allow what’s happening” also involves allowing yourself to be open instead of holding onto a narrow perspective that your mind can throw up – for example, your mind can come with a narrow interpretation like “I didn’t get the job because I was being negative”, rather than being open to the possibility that may be there was a different reason why you did-not get the job, a reason which you can’t know right now, which may become apparent later, while also fully allowing what you are feeling currently at the loss of the possible job – feelings like disappointment, anger, frustration, impatience, desperation, without trying to blanket it with some positive thinking. The allowing by itself keeps you moving towards inner balance (between the yin/yang or light/dark energy in you).
Hi Sen,
I have a question regarding desire manifestation. I have a desire for certain relationship for quite a long time. Having this desire initiated personal growth in magnitude I could never imagined. At times, I felt that this desire would never manifest, but recently I started feeling that there is finally some progress towards manifestation and desire itself felt quite ordinary, well, at least I thought so. And then, all of sudden I am back to square one, with no hope for this desire to manifest. I literally feel hopeless, and let me tell you that this state is new to me because I don’t tend to feel hopeless for extended period of time (maybe hours but not days). I am not sure if it is related, but this event also coincided with switching from Level II to Level III of Brainev program. I am confused,could it be that Brainev provocated this feeling (hopelessness) in me? How could it happen that it felt that my desire was on verge of manifestation and then it become further from manifestation than ever before? Did I do something wrong or this is natural process and this desire is not in alignment with my personal growth? You keep saying in your posts that if your desire is important to you, then don’t give up on it. If universe has manifested this desire in you, it can certainly manifest a solution. At this point, I am really ready to give up on my desire no matter how important it feels because I feel so hopeless inside. Please help.
Sasha, when I mentioned “don’t give up on a desire that feels important to you” it was just a pointer towards “don’t suppress” the desire out of a feeling of “I shouldn’t have this” – basically don’t be against a desire that naturally feels important to you. The only issue is that sometimes what you think is important to you might be coming from a place of imbalanced thinking or deluded thinking, that’s why it makes sense to first find the state of inner balance and then work with desires. You will notice that the crux of this blog is towards finding balance because in a state of balance you will naturally have a balanced perspective towards your desires also, and the ones that were rooted in delusion would fall away quite naturally. You may notice that there are elements, in you, of fear/anxiety towards not getting your desire – these are still elements of imbalance, and they do need to find a release for an inner balance to take place. Brainev is designed to unearth all your subconscious imbalances/resistances, so the fact that you are sensing emotions of anxiety/hopelessness arising is just an indication of their presence in your subconscious, they are simply coming up into your awareness because of the unearthing that has been triggered. You can read the post – Understanding Brainev – to get an better insight on how it works towards triggering releases.
You don’t have to suppress your desire, or be opposed to it, rather just allow these feelings of hopelessness to arise fully, so that their momentum can be released and also so that they can balance out the light and dark in you. You don’t have to try to be “hopeful”, that’s not needed. You just have to let go of suppressing the desire while also allowing any feelings of hopelessness that arise naturally. As you can see there are still elements of feeling “powerless” in you (as soon as you felt that your desire may not manifest you went back to the state of feeling anxious and powerless – so would you say that you have attained a true inner balance yet?), it indicates a lack of balance towards the dark nature and these releases (and the events that are happening to cause them) are instigating you to find this balance.
Thank you for the reply.
I never thought about the winning being something to tide me over so thanks for that perspective.
You do talk the most sense from what I’ve read so far on this website compared to some other sites that mainly focus on happy happy happy all the time and materialism. That just isn’t realistic at all and will definatly lead people to disappointment.
I will carry on reading and learning.
I feel so much more relaxed and at peace in myself now a days, its lovely! : )
Thanks x
Thank you Sen for your reply.
I would also like to thank for a wonderful job with this blog. I am one of those people who you helped by writing these articles. My journey to, now I believe to wholeness thanks to you, started last summer, and like for many others, it wasn’t easy with the abundance of information available on the issue but lack of clear guidance on how to tackle it. I had gone through “positive thinking”, among others “techniques”. My personal struggle was with “release of negative” thinking; I really couldn’t understand how the actual release can happen. So here I was with increasing awareness, negative energy bubbling up to the surface to get released and not being able to release it (I was trying to analyze it and soothe it). As a result, I was battling increasing anxiety, headaches, insomnia and such.I guess I was really desperate when I started google search on how to release negative energy and was brought to this site. There I was sitting and reading an article in relaxed awareness with detailed information on how to do that (sitting quietly for 30 minutes per day, watching thoughts). I was desperate and ready to try everything at that point, so I did everything as it was described in the article (did I feel skeptical prior to doing this, yes, I did). The first changes that I noticed immediately was that I was able to sleep through the night without any sleeping pills. Well, I thought it was just a fluke, but it wasn’t. Practicing relaxed awareness really helped me to address multiple issues. I am still on the journey toward wholeness and, of course, it is not easy, but it would be so much more difficult without help from Sen’s articles.
By the way, how is work on the book coming Sen?
Thanks again
Sasha