The mind is inherently afraid of pain of any form – be it physical pain or emotional pain.
The irony is that we go through a lot of pain in our life just to avoid facing a certain pain that we fear. For example, the fear of facing the pain of being rejected by our friends/partner keeps us from ever wanting to evolve into a more independent person, because you inherently know that when you evolve you will lose parts of your old reality that are no longer congruent with your evolved mindset.
The fear of loss is basically the fear of facing the “emotional pain” of the loss, and yet the truth of physical life is that change requires dissolution of the old for the birthing of the new, this includes losing old beliefs, mindsets, habits, behaviors, attitude, perspective, identity, friends, relationships, career, lifestyle etc – and this feeling of loss needs to be inevitably faced if you want to allow this change, that you inherently desire.
When you fear facing this pain you become stagnant. You have the free-will to resist change for yourself, at-least as long as the pain of being stuck becomes stronger than the pain of change.
Coming to a place of inner wholeness is a huge change from being in a place of enslavement to the mind and emotions. In order to come to this place of inner wholeness you would inevitably need to go through fears from the mind towards this change, plus you would need to go through the “cleansing” of your past store-up of negative energy (emotional energy) which entails that you allow these suppressed energies to come up so that they can be released – and the only way they can come up is if you become “fearlessly” allowing of facing them in your being, in your awareness; it’s a choice that you make (sometimes through exhaustion, thus giving up your struggle) and this choice after a while (say 30% into the release) no longer remains a choice because by then the release goes into auto mode, the detox just takes over until it finishes – scientifically this is because once you consciously become allowing you start losing your inner resistance and there comes a point, at around 30% of the release, when the resistance breaks away so much that the release takes over. This conscious allowing requires some fearlessness to face the negativity as it arises – facing the pain of it.
Moving into a higher dimension of living
Emotional pain constitutes close to 99% of our suffering in a physical life, physical pain is just 1% in most cases. When you are free of emotional influence you are free of 99% of your suffering, plus the unnecessary physical pain, manifested out of the emotional pain, is also avoided. However, to be free of emotional influence one needs to come to inner wholeness, and for that one needs to consciously allow all the emotional pain, and its associated mental fears, to be faced and seen through. When you “see through” a fear, it no longer has a grip on you and thus you can allow the associated emotional pain to be released – it’s the “fear” of facing this emotional pain prevents you from releasing it. For example, the fear of a break-up is just the fear of facing the pain of separation from someone you were attached to, and a lot of us don’t face this emotional pain even after the break-up, rather we just suppress it and immediately try to repair it by getting into another relationship – this emotional pain stays suppressed and keeps attracting situations that match this pain (law of attraction at work), and it’s actually a good thing because it allows you the opportunity, again and again, to finally release it by facing/allowing it.
Physicality on Earth is the perfect platform for your spirit/consciousness to grow in its understanding of itself because of the immense avenues of negativity/fear that are present here. The light knows itself through the dark, and, as a “consciousness” focused on Earth, you came here to understand yourself deeply, and grow in your self-realization, by exposing yourself to this environment that you knew was strife with avenues of negativity. You did not come to suffer (as an intention), you came here to know yourself, to grow, and evolve, by bringing awareness to the negativity and transmuting it within you to realize your freedom, to realize your true power. The platform of Earth has been your school for growth, possibly for several lifetimes, and there are conditions that you intended for yourself explicitly (before the birth of the physical body) for the growth they can induce in you, for your evolution towards a higher dimension of living.
Overcoming the fear of emotional pain is integral to your growth towards this higher dimension of living. If you want to believe the deal of 2012, it has been said that this year would be the culmination of a decent percentage of humans moving into this higher dimension of living, the beginning of a different level of consciousness on Earth. Hopefully, you understand that this higher dimension of living is just a natural unfolding of evolution and it’s not something “superior” or extra-ordinary. Another misconception is that in this higher dimension of living everyone will become “all loving” and that there will be no contrast/negativity – this is just a very “naïve”, and misguided, thinking. The truth is that there will always be contrast to work with, without contrast there is no growth – people who come to inner wholeness don’t just sit around in a blissed out state, singing hymns of joy, they have new contrasts to work with, new learning, new challenges, new growth potential to evolve towards. It’s just that, in this dimension of living, one is free of the “influence” of negativity and hence his/her movement is not at the mercy of emotional/mental resistance rather it’s a free, openly individualistic expression, and aligned with dynamic growth.
You made a choice towards evolution
This life-time, for you, could be the one that you choose for moving into a higher dimension of living. You don’t have to believe this perspective, but you actually paved the creation of certain situations (and events) for yourself even before you came forth into physicality, to ensure that they serve as a wake-up call for you towards your evolution – I am sure a lot of you can resonate with the “deja-vu” that you feel sometimes when a certain event happens, it’s as if you’ve lived it in your thought at some point; this is just a flash of memory of the plan you made for yourself before you came forth. I am not suggesting that your life is “pre-scripted”, it can’t be, because the moment you come into physicality you don’t consciously “recollect” the plans/intentions you made before you came forth, and hence you have the free-will to oppose, in many ways, and possibly thwart the intentions completely – however the intentions that you set forth have a momentum and they have a pull, and your opposition does create a lot of suffering in you. That’s why your life becomes automatically aligned when you start letting go of your struggle/fight.
In simple words, a lot of so-called negative events that you went through in your life, since your childhood, possibly starting with being born in a challenging family environment, are a part of the growth path you had set for yourself before you came forth. You also possibly made a few “contracts” with other streams of consciousnesses to work as your wake-up calls (people who create negativity in your life as a means for you to wake up), support systems, as well as soul mates. You don’t have to believe any this, and I admit I have no proof to the non-physical actions we undertake, it’s just that this perspective resonates as a truth for me, and possibly can resonate as a truth for you also, in your heart – something in you just knows this to be true. This understanding allows you to relinquish blame from a lot of people who served as a “wake up” call for you, along your life – family, friends, exes, bosses, spouses etc, knowing now that it was part of your growth path towards this higher dimension of living that you intended to evolve towards.
If all of this sounds like a lot of “other worldly” talk to you, then you can discard it – I am not here to debate the accuracy of what I am saying. I am just writing from my own resonance and it’s for you to sense if it resonates for you – if it doesn’t feel free to rubbish it, and move on, you are not obliged to believe anything neither do you have to put your faith on my understanding. For people, for whom this may resonate, it can serve the value of helping them release a lot of negativity about their past and understand the inherent positive growth that it was all aimed towards – to know that you have consciously chosen this path of growth for yourself is a huge revelation. I understand that without the events of negativity that took place in my life, and the emotional pain of it, I would never have ventured into understanding life more deeply.
Overcoming fear of emotional pain
The key to moving into this place of inner wholeness is to become fearless towards emotional pain. A lot of people, on this path of transition, cling to the bliss that they feel, now and then, after a release, and feel terrified every time a new cycle of emotional pain comes up to be released. They start wondering if they are doing something wrong. I’ve mentioned this in many of the previous posts – “stop clinging to the highs”, they will just be temporary until you finally come to a place of stability.
If you cling to the highs, you will always be fearful of the lows, and this fear will keep you from allowing a free release. So you need to let go of this mindset of asking – “I was in a positive place for a few weeks and then I don’t know how I attracted this negativity, what am I doing wrong?”. The negativity that came up was what you had not released yet, and it came up as a part of your growth towards stability. The question is – are you really free of the influence of negativity to the point when you don’t fear if it comes up? Until you are this free you are not really free, and have not yet come to a place of total allowing.
When you come to inner wholeness, towards the end of the release, one thing that becomes evident is that you are free of the influence of emotions – again “influence” is the key word, emotions are there but they don’t have the power to cloud your wisdom or resist your intended movement of growth. In this place, the emotional energy is low in intensity and has no real grip on your being. This allows you to be rooted in wisdom and your actions to be coming from a place of inspiration/inner-guidance rather than as a means to assuage the emotional pain temporarily. When we are dominated by emotions, our actions tend to come from a place of wanting to reduce the pressure of emotional pain and hence, most of the time, tend to be against our instinct for wisdom. The only way to be free of the hold of emotional energy is to see through it, consciously, by allowing it to arise freely without fearing it – there is a lot of past, and present, emotional pain that will come up in layers and phases, with a momentum, and all of it needs to be allowed before the release is done with.