You may be carrying specific fears in your mind, which you struggle with everyday, like fear of general social interaction, fear of traffic, fear of talking to the opposite sex, fear of flight, fear of lifts, fear of your colleagues/manager, fear of being judged, fear of bullies, fear of death, fear of failure, fear of losing your job, fear of a break up etc. Though it may seem as if each is a different fear and needs to be addressed specifically, the actual truth is that the underlying issue in all cases is that your mind has enough momentum to create a grip/resistance/contraction in your being. If your mind was not able to have a grip on your being, you would not be under the influence of any fear – this does not mean that you will become reckless, because the only way to come to this place is via awareness, and awareness inherently brings in a field of wisdom. So basically you become fearless but with wisdom – I would call this “conscious fearlessness”.
What does being fearless mean? It just means that you no longer feel the grip of fear, in any strong way, to be able to create any real sense of disturbance, suffering or resistance in your being/body. If the mind’s fear did not create any grip in your being, you could care less about them, and will be able to move freely with wisdom. The truth is that physical life in general is a highly fearful place for a mind (the biggest fear is of survival/death), some minds are better at handling fear, some are not. Instead of trying to “handle” fear, it’s a better option to be free of the grip of fear altogether. So you can go for the option of trying to handle specific fears in your life (through mind games), or you can choose option of becoming free of the grip of fear altogether by letting go of the mind momentum. The first option is like a short term fix because it’s dependent on mind games, the second option is permanent because it focuses on reducing mind momentum, thus nipping the problem at the root level.
Can everyone reduce their mind momentum?
Yeah, provided they have the ability to go through a phase of letting go of mind-identification, in the sense that they need to consciously remove their awareness from being lost in the mind. This is a very simple pointer, if you can get it, that the only reason your mind has gathered so much momentum is because your awareness is lost in it and hence is fueling it. What do I mean by “Mind”? It’s just a term I use to indicate the “thinking space” of the brain which is mostly rooted in conditioned, mechanical, past-oriented, narrow, lack-based and fear-based patterns. The mind has its usefulness if it does not become a chaotic, uncontrollable, force which has so much momentum that it makes us feel helpless, where we become a prisoner to it. The mind should basically just be used for “practical” purposes like learning and technical training, it should not be a force that dictates our experience of life.
If someone has no real openness, or reasoning ability, to understand the logic behind reducing mind momentum, they would not be prepared to let go of mind-identification and will continue to stay lost in the mind’s pull because it feels “familiar” to them. Such people are better off using mind games to work with fears, and thus use some temporary relief mechanisms (like entertainment, distractions or drugs) to deal with the problems that arise out of resistances created by high mind momentum – and by “drugs” I don’t just means hard drugs, but anything that helps drug the mind into providing some temporary relief from its momentum, some spiritual practices can become drugs in many cases. If someone does not have the readiness to let go of mind identification at present, it doesn’t meant that they won’t acquire this readiness in the future, because this readiness can come in at any point based on their life-experience, maturity and evolution.
How to let go of mind identification?
Letting go of mind identification does not mean anything “extra ordinary”, it’s just mean you stop being “unconsciously” lost in the mind’s domain (thought space), by not giving it so much narrow focus. If you can start becoming conscious of everytime you lose yourself in the mind, you can slowly stop this habit and just allow it to have its movement, without “totally” losing your awareness in it. Below, I’ve answered a few commonly asked questions with respect to what is entailed in bringing awareness out of mind-identification.
What is awareness?
Your eyes are seeing these words, they are like a “lens” or camera that’s capturing images converting it into signals and projecting them on the visual cortex area in your brain – it’s like how a projector in a theatre projects the “video reel” on the white screen. The question is who is watching these images? There has to be a watcher to watch these images or else they are just images without anyone interpreting them or observing them – just like there needs to be an audience in the theater. This watcher is the “awareness center” in your brain.
For example, when you take a drug like “acid” your awareness center is amplified along with your senses and you can see a depth in everything (you can find beauty in a drab wall) but it’s “intense” that you are lost in the senses to the point of disconnection from wisdom. Also, when you drink alcohol your awareness is reduced and you lose control of yourself. Since, this awareness center is part of your brain, it’s affected by any chemical that affects the brain/nervous-system. Remember that by “your awareness” I mean your “brain/physical awareness”, there is also “life’s awareness” – life is an aware energy and everything physical is manifested out of the intention of this energy, and essential you are life in your wholeness, while this physical body/brain is your temporary “avatar” or incarnation or form, through which you are experiencing physicality. Your awareness, when it’s not lost in the mind, can connect with life’s awareness (specifically the life-stream, or stream of consciousness, that’s focused on this body) – I will talk about this in a below subsection.
In order to read these words, just “awareness” is not enough, you need to understand this language, you should be trained in English and your training is present in your memory. So basically, your eyes see these words, your “awareness center” becomes aware of these words as they are projected on your brain’s visual cortex, and you use your brain’s training in English language (stored as past database or neural pathways) to make sense of these words. So in this example, the “mind” is the brain’s training that allows the decoding of the words – so it serves a practical value. (Note that “mind” is just a word, and different people can use it to define/mean different things, so if you’ve heard some spiritual teachers using the word “mind” in some other context, don’t confuse it with the way I am defining it).
So in the above example, you can see how the mind has an immense usefulness for practical purposes. But this same mind can go into an “overdrive” when you keep focusing your “awareness” on it. The mind has 6 dimensions – love, joy, hatred, fear, boredom and sexuality, and if your awareness is totally lost in the mind, you can easily get imbalanced in any of these dimensions, especially “fear” because it overrides all the other dimensions quite easily, as the mind equates fear with survival. The mind is a complex network of acquired, inherited, externally-conditioned, genetically-conditioned, training-based, belief-based as well as perception-based neural pathways – the more developed the brain the more complex its mind network.
Moreover, the mind is also a virtual “antennae” which captures brain waves (or thought waves) in the universe, because your mind is not an isolated entity but is connected to the universe – so it can pick a lot of random thoughts of the outside based on its own vibration, for example when your mind is rooted in fear, it picks up a lot fear-based brain waves from the outside also, just like an antennae tuned for a particular signal. Since the mind is so “visual” and noisy, it’s easy for your awareness center to become focused on the mind and give total “belief” to the mind.
The mind of course has a “core personality” of its own, based on its natural makeup. By bringing awareness to your mind, you can sense its core personality. You can’t change the core personality of your mind, rather you need to bring an “acceptance” towards it in case you are disconnected with it. This core personality comes from the natural makeup of your mind, but in many cases we are disconnected with our core personality because of the various fake personas, or self images, that we take up for various reasons, like – external conditioning, need to fit in, lack of self-acceptance, need for approval, need for showing-off etc. Aligning with your mind’s core personality serves to bring an end to a lot of inner conflict that you had going because you were not sure of yourself. As your mind’s momentum slows down, you can automatically start understanding its core personality because that’s what stays back – all the fake personas drop away as the mind momentum reduces because there is no energy/fuel to sustain them.
How can I separate my awareness from mind?
Your awareness and your mind-space are two separate departments altogether. You can focus your awareness anywhere you want, and it’s just that you unconsciously allowed your awareness to be lost in the mind. A balance gets restored when you choose to remove your awareness from mind-identification and let it rest in the space outside the mind, what I call the space of being or space of silence, which is also the space of the wholeness of life – this space connects you with life’s intelligence, and the awareness of life-energy which always has the “bigger picture” because it’s totality itself. When your awareness is resting in this space, you can allow your mind to have its passive thoughts, as well as allow emotions to arise in the body-space, without giving “identification” to them – thus allowing the mind momentum, and negative-energy momentum, to reduce in you.
The simplest way to do this is to “relax” your awareness. If you notice, your awareness gets contracted on the mind’s thoughts/movements and this “contraction” is what gives fuel to the mind movements, because this contraction is like a narrow and strong focus. Instead, if you consciously relax your awareness, by literally letting go of the “tension” of focus on the mind, it causes you to stop giving “focused” energy to the mind. I call this staying as “relaxed awareness”. When you practice relaxed awareness, your mind’s momentum automatically starts coming down, and within a few months you can observe a great reduction in your mind momentum.
Will I not become dysfunctional if I am not identified with the mind?
When you are lost in mind identification, it’s the height of dysfunction because it’s a state of low wisdom. When you let go of mind identification, by staying as relaxed awareness, your mind momentum starts coming down (and it also allows the release of suppressed negative energy), this causes a lot of shift in your external reality, in that a lot of incongruent and dysfunctional realities start dissolving – of course, this can/will be interpreted “negatively” by your mind, it may think that something wrong is happening because it sees a lot of familiar realities coming down.
The mind has a tendency to cling to familiar realities even if they are highly dysfunctional and causing misery. So the mind may interpret this dissolution of your in-congruent realities as something “negative” and tell you that you are becoming dysfunctional, when in truth you are actually becoming more functional towards your natural expression, and aligned with your life-stream. Of course, this phase of transition is quite challenging for some people, but it can’t be avoided – when you have taken the wrong road, you need to re-track back to the cross-roads so that you can take the right road, you can’t jump to the right road directly from the wrong road. By “wrong” I just mean a path that was not really aligned with your natural expression, but even this is an “experience” of growth and understanding (and is even needed in many cases to prepare you, or make you mature), so in that sense nothing is wrong from an absolute perspective.
How does lowering mind momentum make you fearless?
It’s pure physics that something that’s moving with a high momentum has a greater power of damage than something which is moving with low momentum. The mind, when it has a high momentum, can generate high amounts of resistance merely by its capacity to repeat negative thoughts, and give power to these thoughts, and this resistance is what is felt like a grip of fear, that can even make you immobile. The same mind, if you remove its momentum, has no capacity to generate high resistance, and hence has no grip on your being – which essentially means you are fearless, because you no longer are under the grip of fear. When the mind has low momentum, all its fears lose their grip on you, so you don’t have to work on any specific fear, it just liberates you from the grip of fear altogether.
There is such a thing as a “reckless mind” that seems fearless out of its arrogance or aggression. Such a mind has the capacity for dangerous behavior and usually creates a lot of imbalance in the person. The “fearlessness” you come to, through the path of relaxed awareness, by letting go of mind’s momentum, is a fearlessness that’s not reckless, rather it’s deeply in alignment with the wisdom of the wholeness of life. You can use your mind in a very efficient/creative manner when its does not have such a high momentum. You will also not feel like a prisoner to any of the dimensions of the mind be it love, joy, fear, hatred, boredom or sexuality, while being able to enjoy/savor all these dimensions, thus enjoying your physicality from a place of balance.