Negativity, the way I define it, is simply a state of resistance to what arises. We reactively have the tendency to resist what does not feel good in the body, for example, a thought in the mind, or a physical situation (like a body pain), which creates bad feelings is immediately resisted by us. This resistance is what I would call “negativity”. It’s true that low vibrational states don’t feel good in the body, and it’s natural to want relief from the bad feelings, but you will be delaying the relief/solution, and furthering the negativity, when you try to resist these low vibrational states. Resistance is totally futile, because it serves no purpose. Whatever has arisen in the moment is the way this moment is right now, resisting it is not only a waste of energy but it also creates more friction which is what suffering is, and it also delays the solution.
The mind has various dimensions in it and it has the tendency to produce low vibrational states now and then. In the same way the body physiologically goes through its highs and lows on daily basis. This is the flux of physicality and it is totally unnatural to expect to be on a high all the time. The low vibrational states are not a problem, they are a part of physical life, the problem is our resistance to them. I don’t call the low vibrational states as negative, because it’s natural to have them as a part of physicality, what’s negative is our resistance to them. The being that we are is naturally a pure positive being, and our vibration in the “non physical” is akin to wholeness or joy. However, in this physical body, low vibration is a natural happening, it’s not possible for the body to be on a high all time neither is it possible for the mind to do so. When you, as the being, understand that this is the nature of physicality, and stop shying away from low vibrational states, you find a “wholeness” in your physical body in the midst of the highs and lows.
Clinging to high states creates suffering
Several imbalances, that we see in human behavior, is a result of the attitude of trying to cling to the high states all the time, while shying away from allowing a full experience of the low states. Drug abuse by its very nature is motivated by this tendency to want to stay in a high state in a bid to avoid facing some low states – a drug addict’s body becomes emaciated due to this forced “high vibration” that it has to maintain. Of course, drug abusers are an extreme case of escapism. In actuality, this tendency of wanting to cling to high vibration is present as an unconscious pattern in a good majority of “normal” people and they use different ways to do this mostly through the use of distractions – food, material entertainment, spiritual entertainment, work, relationships, anything can be used as a distraction to run away from facing the low states.
When you live in fear of the low states, you become “needy” – which is inherently the cause of a life of negativity where you are constantly clinging to objects, or people, to somehow help you stay in a high state. You jump from one relationship to another in a bid to find that “perfect” partner who can keep you on a high all the time. You keep indulging in entertainment of all forms in order to feel more “alive” (because in your mind you irrationally think that being alive is about being excited) or you try to detach from everything in a bid to hide in a self-created cocoon. These are both escapist behaviors where one is afraid of facing all the dimensions of physicality.
Pursuits of enlightenment, the spiritual seeking, starts with a quest in the being to come to some extraordinary state of bliss, or a permanent high state. But anyone who is authentic would soon realize the foolishness of such pursuit, and would recognize that there is no getting around the ordinariness of physical life which will always be a mix of high and low vibration. This realization allows one to surrender to what arises, and soon there is a wholeness that comes into place where you are not subject to “intensities” of either the highs or the lows, but feel a spaciousness which is untouched by the changing states of the physical. In this place you are not shying away from physical life neither are you craving for the highs of physicality, it’s just a state of balance – it’s purely an experience of harmony. This choice becomes more evident when you get tired of the drama of imbalanced, or unconscious, living – which is what awakening is.
Wholeness in physicality
The state of wholeness, in your physicality, is simply a resistance free state of being. It’s not a state of extra-ordinary bliss or unending exhilaration, it’s simply a resistance free state where you are not suppressing, or clinging, to the flux of physicality, allowing for a harmonious movement. It’s the end of the “intensity”, the extremes and the drama. It’s a state of wisdom, and it’s also a state of inner freedom to allow what arises. You need not necessarily have all the answers, because that’s not what wholeness is, it’s not a state of knowing everything – it’s simply a state of total allowing, in this place the knowledge you “require” will always come when you need it.
When you look around you can mostly see two types of people 1. the over-excited ones who are always clinging to the highs of life 2. the over-detached ones who are shying away from life. In truth both are living in fear of life, the former is in fear of the low states the latter is in fear of highs & lows. The former may lack wisdom/maturity, the latter may have wisdom but lacks courage to live. You can see how both types lack a wholeness in their being. The secret of wholeness is not hidden somewhere in some extra-ordinary piece of information, it’s always in you, all you need to do is stop resisting your physicality – understand that the flavor of physicality comes from the mix of highs and lows, the more you allow it the less “intense” they will become (and thus you come to a place of harmony), the more you resist the more intense they become leading to an imbalanced life.
Everything in physicality is temporary and fleeting, if you try to “cling” it’s futile and if you try to suppress it’s just as futile. When you stay in a place of allowing you become a channel for a smooth unfolding of life – every problem brings a solution, every challenge brings a growth, every pain finds a healing, every requirement finds a manifestation, and all this happens in an effortless, and struggle-free, manner. Also, in this state of inner wholeness you develop the capacity for a clear minded focus on your desired realities (refer the post – clear minded focus).