A Clear Minded Focus

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When you have a deep awareness/understanding of your mind (and body), where you understand all its dimensions, its limitations and its personality, you are finally in a place to have a “clear minded focus” on what you truly desire to experience in your life going forward – this clear minded focus is the culmination of your whole movement of becoming aware (or awakening from unconscious identification).

In this place you are clearly knowing of the realities you want to experience and your being is entirely (100%) focused without any doubts, double-mindedness, uncertainties, vacillations, inferiority, guilt or ambiguities.

I refer to this as phase 4, or the final phase, of awakening in my post – Awakening, transcendence and return of focus – basically, your journey from here on becomes about choosing what you want to experience and allowing it to happen. Of course, all physical manifestations take time to “condense”, but your clarity of focus allows this unfolding to be swift because you are no longer vacillating in your intent.

Clarity in the midst of options

This physical world is full of options when it comes to the experiences you can have, and these options keep expanding (the options you have now are far more than the options available 100 years back), and each option has a depth to explore.

The more options that are available, the more likely the mind is to be confused, almost “overwhelmed” by the various choices available – it can be something as simple as the type of mobile phone that suits you, or as life changing as the type of relationship/career that suits you.

In the absence of a deep “self realization”, without understanding the aspects of who you are as this physical body/mind and non-physical life energy, it’s very easy to be lost in this confusion which leads to a lot of stress, and allows for a sense of “meaninglessness” to creep in (which is nothing but the brain’s strategy to deny the conflict/confusion).

Self-realization allows for a clarity in the midst of all these options and choices. You start living life on your terms, rather than be swayed by the masses.

You don’t subscribe to an option because everyone is subscribing to it, you take up an option purely as a conscious choice to experience that option. You are in a place of “full responsibility”, where you consciously choose the life you desire to experience rather than be dragged into a life situation for the sake of meeting expectations or fulfilling a societal norm. Such a clarity is not possible unless the power of awareness in you has become strong and stable, so that it can clearly see all the aspects of your human consciousness, of your body, of your mind and of your being. In this place you are quite “unshakeable” because you are not influenced by other minds, you are deeply in touch with your own “presence”, you are truly standing on your own two shoes, conscious of your power of deliberate creation – and your mind is very steady in its focus with respect to the reality it wants to manifest.

You choose what’s best for you

There is no global standard for success. Success is a personal thing, you define what success means to you. The definition of success is a place where you feel good about your reality – that’s all. There is no global standard for what feels good, because it’s not the external that makes you feel good but your “personal” perception that makes it so. It’s up to you to find out what is it that you want to experience, what type of reality you want to participate in.

Each mind is a world onto itself, because each mind has a unique way of perceiving this world – of course there is a common physical world out there (because we are part of one mind, one consciousness), but in truth, you see this world the way your mind sees it – so in that sense your world is personal to you. So “you” need to decide what you want to see, or experience and express – it’s totally your choice. It’s like choosing the food you want to eat at a huge buffet, you can either be overwhelmed about the plethora of cuisines showcased, and end up staying confused and frantic through out your lunch, or you can make some specific choices and focus on enjoying your lunch. What you choose to experience will keep changing as your realities keep changing, but at every point you will come to a clarity within yourself about what you want – you are no longer at the mercy of circumstances, you become a deliberate thinker or a deliberate focuser, where you focus only on the realities that you want for yourself.

There is no such thing as “one best lifestyle”, you define what’s your best lifestyle – it’s a totally personal thing. You can choose to live as a hermit in a small shack in Alaska or you can choose to live a glam filled life at Las Vegas, You can choose to enjoy a monogamous relationship in the institution of marriage or you can choose to live in an open relationship, you can choose to be a vegetarian or you can choose to lead a non-vegetarian life – as long as you are making a conscious choice, in full cognizance of “reality”, in total alignment with your mind’s natural make-up and your body’s natural proclivity, it’s all good.

There is a limitation of “time”, because your present body has a fixed duration of existence, and the choices you make will determine how spend this time – but if you get “flustered” and think you need to experience “everything” within this limited time, feeling that you are always missing out on something, you will mostly just end up living a restless life – some people do this in an unconscious way, where they have no steadiness in their life, they are just “loose”, restless and vague all the time. There is no “one best thing” in life, and all experiences are temporary/fleeting, this physical body eventually dissolves (so you, as the life stream, can start again in a new intention) – this physical life, it’s just a “journey”, there is no end point or final “achievement” to reach, the very deal of this journey is to enjoy the journey itself. Stop following others, stop following your gurus, stop following your friends, stop following your parents, stop following an outside mindset, and be a light onto yourself – find out what is it that you want for yourself, that’s a huge part of what self-realization really is. And you can’t come to this clarity without the power of awareness.

Doubts and meaninglessness indicate you don’t know who you are

If you are always doubtful about your choices, it’s a clear indication that you are not really sure of who you are. If you find life meaninglessness or boring, it’s a clear indication that you are confused within yourself about what you want to experience. Life is alive energy, it’s very dynamic and it’s a vibrant force, and if you don’t sense this essence of life in you, it just means you are bogged down by fears and inner conflicts which don’t allow you to experience your true self as this human form. Its one thing to sit in the caves of Himalayas out of a conscious choice and enjoy that experience, and it’s a totally different thing to “escape” into the caves of Himalayas in a bid to deny your physicality. You need to be honest with yourself if you are living in “denial” or if you are living in “deliberation”. Denial is a sign of unconsciousness and deliberation is a sign of conscious living.

When you have been living an unconscious life for a long time, it can take a few months, may be even a couple of years, once you start becoming aware, to gain a sense of clarity about what you want to experience in life and to be free of the doubts, conflicts and negativity in the mind that are suppressing this clarity in focus. As I mentioned, this clear minded focus comes as a culmination of your awakening from unconscious movement. The phase of “letting go” of the mind, is a precursor, to gaining this clarity – only when you let go of the mind, for a while, can all the limiting, and negative, conditioning/beliefs, that are not congruent with you, dissolve – in this place of freedom you can see clearly what your natural make-up is and thus you can start living the “ideal you”.

Without first going through a phase of letting go of identification with the mind (which allows you to see through all the patterns that are not congruent with you), it’s quite impossible to come to this phase of clear minded focus.

That’s why I call awakening as the process of “aligning with your natural expression as this physical form”, that’s what this process really is about – to live your fullness as this human being that you are in this present reality, this is how you do justice to the intent in life energy that created you.




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35 Comments

  1. Alliswell

    Sen,
    What is your opinion on destiny?
    How does life plan out? Meaning is life already following its plan and it is preset? or being created daily?

    For example when someone dies, is the time of death already in the works at birth?

    1. Sen Post author

      All physical forms that get created, get created in an intention produced in life energy – nothing is created without an intention preceding it. The natural make-up of your brain, and certain natural conditioning in your body, gets created in this intention. So in this sense, the intention in life-stream that came forth in this expression as this physical body, creates certain boundaries (natural conditioning) in the body and these boundaries actually “can” give direction to your physical life, if you align with them. Everything physical comes with a “boundary”, only the non-physical is limitless. So in this sense, the natural make-up of your mind, and the conditioning in your body, are like your “destiny” – but it’s totally upto you whether you want to live aligned with it, and you have this choice on a moment to moment basis. When you are in alignment with the natural make-up of your mind you feel aligned, when you are disconnected from your natural-makeup you end up in incongruent realities. So basically, you have the choice to align with your life-stream or stay opposed to it – life is not “asserting” anything, and in this sense you are not forced to live any destiny, and the choices you make in this physical world ultimately decide the course of your life. However, when you are not aligned with the natural make-up of your mind, you don’t follow your natural calling, and hence there is always a sense of disconnection or suffering within.

      In fact, even the desires that you come up with are basically coming from these boundaries, or the natural make-up of your mind. So basically even the flavor of your desires are part of the destiny/intention in which you were born. So when you align with your desires, you are actually aligning with your life-stream, and in that sense living your destiny. Also, once you are physical, you can make choices based on your experience here, sometimes consciously sometimes unconsciously, so there is on such thing as a fixed “pre-scripted” life – it’s not like a pre-scripted game – it’s very dynamic and your choices here on the physical ultimately decide your experience. Sometimes life energy comes forth as some physical forms with an intention to die at a certain time, usually such a physical form is not endowed with a brain that has a capacity for “awakening” or awareness, to make any real “choice” – it’s just a like a machine that’s keyed up to move and stop. But if your brain has the capacity to be “conscious”, it can make deliberate choices. So it’s not “black and white”, where everything is “pre-scripted” – life is always happening in the Now, and your choices in the Now cause your life movement for the future.

  2. Alliswell

    How do you respond to “God’s Plan” then?

    1. Sen Post author

      The wholeness of life energy is essentially all there is, and that’s basically who we are – the one being or one consciousness, that moves into life streams based on its intention. So essentially, even though there is a body/mind that you identify with, in your essence you are wholeness of life – This life energy is what I would use the label “God” for, if anything – so in that sense who we are essentially is God. The intention of the life stream that created this body is what I would call the “plan”, and when you are in alignment with your natural make-up you stay aligned with your natural expression, intention, purpose or plan. However, you have the choice to stay opposed to your natural expression, this is what it means to stay opposed to your life-stream. Moreover, it’s not as if every moment of your life is “pre scripted”, your moment to moment experiences purely come from the choices you make – you can either be in resistance or in your wholeness. This is what I’d described in my previous reply.

  3. Alliswell

    Thanks Sen..

  4. soul

    dear sen,so does this mean our life is partially prescripted and partially dependent on the choices we make on a moment to moment basis?it’s a li’l confusing..

    1. Sen Post author

      An “intention” precedes creation, so each human body is created in a certain intention in the life-stream to express/experience itself. This intention creates the natural make-up of the brain and the body (the internal conditioning or natural conditioning, also narrowly called “Genetics” present in the DNA structure). So, in this sense the natural make-up of your mind, and the genetic coding in your body, is your destiny because you are born with it and it defines the intention that created you. However, once you are born you are also subject to “external conditioning” from the outside and from there it’s your choice whether you align with your natural make-up or if do things that are opposed to your natural expression – in this sense nothing is pre-scripted but determined by your choices here. You keep adding to the intention in your life-stream based on the “desires” that you come up with in your physical life (your true desires are also coming from the natural make-up of your mind). If you align with your natural make-up you easily live out the intention that created you plus you feel “joyful”, passionate and effortless in your movements because you are in alignment with your natural expression. If you stay mis-aligned it feels like a conflict within, and hence there is a sense of being lost. Also your moment to moment experience is determined by your choices in the moment, whether you are in alignment with your life-stream or if you are opposed to it – that’s your choice, because you can oppose your natural expression based on your external conditioning (fear-based conditioning or lack based conditioning). It’s just that when you move in opposition to your life-stream, it feels like a lot of strain and conflict.

  5. Rafael

    Sen, what is your view/ opinion on scientology?

    1. Sen Post author

      I’ve no idea what Scientology entails, or what it’s about, other than the fact that Tom Cruise is in on it – so I can’t really make any observations on it. Hopefully it teaches its followers to become more aware and understand their true nature as the creator of their life, and thus gives them an understanding to connect with their natural expression, or inner guidance – in which case it can be empowering. If on the other hand it gives them some new “conditioning” or boundaries, then it’s not serving any real purpose towards liberating the person and it would just be a means of shifting between belief systems.

  6. Dori Moody

    How can one line up with their desires if they don’t know what they desire?

    1. Sen Post author

      As I’ve mentioned in the post, clear mindedness (which basically about knowing what you truly desire to experience) arises once you fully understand your own mind, by letting go of all the limiting external conditioning that you’ve taken up from the society influence allow your growing years. The reason you don’t know what you want is because you are confused about who your natural make-up is as this human body, because of all the various external influences on your life. When you truly align with your own mind, and understand it for what it is, understanding all the dimensions in it, you will clearly know what are the realities you desire to experience. The bottom line is that we all desire “joy”, so what’s needed is to find out what brings joy to our mind, for this you need to understand your mind. The best way to do this is to bring awareness into the mind, by staying with yourself, spending time with yourself – if you keep distracting yourself by being lost in the outside world, you can never really find out who you really are and what you really desire from your present life as this physical body.

    2. Moodyeveryday

      Thank You

  7. soul

    i get it:)this means that we are all unique and its best to align with our unique life purpose/life stream and there is no need to be what we are not.no need to compete or compare,just being at peace with our real selves…thanks:)

  8. Anil Khanna

    Dear Sen, i really like your posts but i have below questions based on my below mentioned story, see if there is any way to heal my past.

    i am depressed i will say from starting of my life. i did my schooling from non quality school & i always had very low grades i can say i passed on points marks always.from starting i m feeling very depressed with inferirity complex, low self esteem & always having diff diff health related issue which is still i have & m taking antidepressant without any relief.now i stopped all medicines & life has become totally hell.

    1. i feel inferity complex because i hv done schooling from non quality school & curretly i m in circle where all of nearby frrnds are from good background of school & college.
    2. i had always low grades & i feel fear to submit my school certificates in any company or anywhere like for passport, for license for bank account etc.
    3 i always had diff diff health issue , sometime severe headche, ashthama prb, anxiety, stomach pain, body pain etc etc & m fed up with all these

    pls advice what should i do for all this.

    hope ur advice will help me

    Regards, Anil

    1. Sen Post author

      What’s important is that you start becoming awareness of the reality that you childhood and adolescent years are over, and you are full grown adult now. The mind can unconsciously keep carrying a “child identity” in it, looking at itself from the perspective of its childhood and gaining an identity from it – you cannot truly enjoy the freedom of your adulthood as long as you cling to your child identity. The inferiority complex that you feel is rooted in your identification with childhood behaviors, in a simple sense you are yet to come to terms with the reality that you’ve now become a grown up adult – frankly if someone judges you for your school grades, it just shows an incredible childishness, and immaturity, on their part. When you bring an clear awareness to these thoughts you will see the inherent silliness in them.

      You have a unique mind, with unique capabilities, aptitude and talent – as an adult, you can have the awareness to start understanding your mind and aligning with its natural make-up. You job is to just live your true potential, you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone or live anyone’s expectation of you – just move towards becoming the best version of who you are, through an alignment towards your joy, your passion. Stop looking at yourself in such a limiting manner, to judge yourself for the type of school you went to or the grades you got is the most incredibly limiting way to define yourself. So you were not good at academics, it’s no big deal, there are many successful men, and women, who did badly in school – if you didnot know Albert Einstein was so bad at school that he had to drop out, and his mother taught him at home – he is one of the most ground breaking physicist this date, when he was interviewed once about the source of his intelligence he said – “Everyone is actually a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will always feel stupid about itself” – what he meant was each of us has our unique talent, ability and potential, but if we start comparing ourselves to others, we will always feel bad about ourselves – be who you are, stop comparing yourself with others, live your originality. Your journey here is not to keep comparing yourself with others, but to know yourself and express who you really are, allowing your potential to come forth into this reality. A sword is big and mighty, but it still can’t do the job of a needle – each one of us is unique in our own way, and we have a place here in this life because we are born in the intention of life, you are worthy being just as you are. Stop trying to “improve” yourself through comparison, rather move towards aligning yourself with who you naturally are – this is what makes you powerful.

  9. Jel

    I can so relate to Anil in many ways- where circumstances are different, but traumatic childhood is the same. I have spent the last 20 years since my first depressive episode at 16 trying to understand myself and the world and how to live in it. It has taken me years & years of therapy and led me to question everything from anarchy to zen. It has been a long hard journey travelling through so much negativity.

    Three years ago, I give up a high paying but stressful job. I was burnt out and was still looking to the outside world for wholeness. This last 3 years have been more hellish than ever, as I have taken a very self-destructive path but at the same time seeking truth.

    Now I find myself in the ahh moments of understanding the nature of the mind, body and our life force. Your teachings have been of enormous help in clarifying this process. However I find myself in deep resistance to moving forward and aligning with my life-force. Instead of being grateful for the journey, the insights and awareness that is now emerging- I am angry, judgmental on all the huge mistakes I made on the way and so annoyed that I didn’t grasp these truths much earlier and saved myself from such pain and struggle. Any suggestions on moving on?

    1. Sen Post author

      If you see, your whole journey was been about struggling, be it in a job, or in your spiritual search. It’s only when you were totally exhausted, and burnt out, that you were able to surrender, and in one sense you kinda “let go” and relaxed due to exhaustion. When you let go, it allows an opportunity for your life-stream to start guiding you back to your alignment and natural expression, and this is one reason why you were able to come across some clear understandings of life in this place. You can look back and wonder why you kept struggling so much, or you can look at positively and realize that your struggles helped you understand all the things that “don’t work” for you, so that enables you now to have a “clear mind” and know what you really want from life and who you really are. This whole journey is about “self realization” and alignment, first you realize who you are (as this human form and as life energy) and then you start aligning with your human dimensions. I think you are present in the right place where you have the openness to finally allow yourself to be who you are, and thus come to your natural expression.

  10. Jel

    Sen – thank you so much for your response most helpful. What would you say is the difference between struggle and effort?

    1. Sen Post author

      Struggle is an effort based means of living where your actions are always coming from a place of fear, lack or misalignment with your natural makeup. When you are aligned with your natural expression, your actions always feel effortless, as if you are in a flow, because you have the momentum of your life-stream behind you.

  11. Jel

    Thank you so much Sen.

  12. Anil Khanna

    Dear Sen, i tried everything but i dont know why m not getting any benifit from anything.negative thoughts, helath prblems making my life hell. i m tyring to keep myself posotive but whenever i am in public or in office all thoughts again making me depressed & m thiking negative & start comparing my self with others & when i m at home only that time i feel little bit good because that time only i feel i am secure. till date no docotrs able to help me i tried diff diff antidepressant & others natural remedies but nothing helped me.

    i dont know what should i do . see if there is anything practical exercise which u can suggest me.

    believe me i have never seen any happy day in my life. now my age is 29 & its a gud age for marriage but my past , my health , my depression not allowing me to even think about marriage. pls consider my last post & suggest something for me .

    waiting for your reply

    Regards\Anil

    1. Sen Post author

      Anil, when we are kids our brains lack the power of awareness, so this causes us to live in an unconscious manner, drifting about, following the conditioning and programming meted out by the society (parents, teachers, culture, media, friends etc). Moreover, in this state of low awareness we also make a lot of misinterpretations about life, about ourselves, and develop several limiting/negative thought patterns. This is what unconscious living is all about, and basically you have no choice when the level of awareness in your brain is low. But as we grow up, our brains develop the capacity for self-awareness and self-reasoning (unless the brain has a physiological retardation that prevents it from having the capacity to do self-introspection or self-reasoning). The fact that you are aware of your mind’s negativity, shows that your brain, now, has a good level of awareness, and hence you have the choice to start living “consciously” in an aligned manner. It’s still a choice that you need to make, but since your brain has the awareness now it has the possibility of this choice.

      You will have to start with your attitude – your words indicate a strong presence of self-loathing and defeatist attitude in your mind. No amount of medicine, or techniques, can cure a bad attitude – the change happens when you make an “aware” choice towards letting go of the negative attitude. It starts with no longer falling for excuses, or defending negativity in you, just make a commitment that you will no longer fuel negative thoughts – it’s a choice you need to make, it can’t be forced upon you, neither can this happen overnight, it’s a gradual process of slowing letting go self-defeating thoughts using your awareness of them. It’s not about trying out techniques and strategies, because ultimately when your foundation is rooted in negativity all the techniques you try out will also be coming from the same negative place. What’s required is to change the foundation to positive and there is no technique for it other than to use your awareness to stop fueling negative thoughts. Once you make a commitment towards no longer fueling negative thoughts, you will soon reach a point where you feel stable in your being and from this place you can think more clearly and attract realities that assist you towards positive growth. This commitment cannot be forced through a technique, it’s something you have to make a choice towards.

  13. Inquisitive Being

    Sen,

    Your articles are deeply awakening and I have grown very fond of your website and the simplicity in which it addresses the complexity of its message.

    What are your views on education, the learning process, art, inspiration, and life’s calling?

    Warm Regards

    1. Sen Post author

      There are two facets to physical life – experience and expression. Education, learning and creative expression are means through which we can find a way to express our natural makeup and in the same way understanding our true nature is a means to ensure we have a balanced experience of life. It’s possible to be lost in our creative expression to the extent that we lose out on having a balanced experience of life, and it’s possible to be lost in experiences to the point where we disconnect from our creative expression. So a balance between the two is required. Life’s calling is basically coded in you as your natural makeup, when you are aligned with your natural makeup you are in alignment with your life-stream, however in order to have a positive experience of life it’s required to not only be aligned without life’s calling but also with our physicality in order to savor the experience of life.

  14. nvibes

    Can you explain a bit more about how to let go of guilt, especially for actions you took unconsciously and could not “help”?

    I’ve had an experience where I acted in ways that were not wrong as such, but placed too high expectations on someone else to give me something that they could not give. But at the time I could not see myself, I thought what i was asking for was “right”, it felt right to me.

    So now,as I am deeply aware of being able to take unconscious actions and decisions, I struggle to take decisions, do things without thinking them through deeply because I’m concerned about what my intention is/which voice to listen to/whether i am taking an unconscious action? Even very small decisions, although some of this is beacuse I want to make the “right”/best decision for me so i do not have to listen to my self critical voice telling me off for making the wrong decision.

    So it means I may take too long to make a decision and lose out on opportunities.

    My real question is, how do you take conscious actions/decisions when you don’t even know that you are unconscious/acting unconsciously? Or is it the case of accepting that I may always to some degree be unconscious and it’s simply a learning game of continuously discovering layers of unconsciousness as it arises? Henced lots of mistakes will be made along the way.

    1. Sen Post author

      You can learn from your past behavior by understand the unconscious patterns in you that instigated some “reactive” actions, but it’s totally unproductive to dwell in guilt because it’s not about becoming a “perfect” human but about constant growth. The more aware you become of your unconscious patterns the less likely you are to repeat them, so in that sense everything has a value and life continues to find opportunities to grow.

      You can’t ever know if your decisions are right or wrong, because you can’t predict the future. What you can control is your vibrational content, the less intense your resistance the easier it is for you to attract situations of well-being. Awareness is just a light you need to use to understand your resistance patterns, and thus let go of them so that you feel more spacious and open within. The very fact that you are growing in awareness ensures constant betterment in your life situation, and you just need to allow the journey to keep unfolding without being too hard on yourself for any decisions that you feel went wrong. Remember it’s not about becoming perfect but about allowing for constant growth. You have to allow the fear of being wrong, so that you can move freely in life instead of worrying about every step you take. Every situation has an opportunity for growth so there is nothing “wrong” with anything.

  15. Treeter

    Im struggeling with understanding my brain denying conflict. I have been In a relationship for over a decade and up til recently it has been my main focus. It is the main reason for my suffering that has brought me to where I am today. However my mate says its because im parinoid. I feel a strong urge to move on and avoid theses patterns of conflict. Then there is a stronger urge to stay because of my current limitations. It does not make sense to me and I know I carry some preconceived ideas to vows and headship. And I obviously do not have deep awareness yet. I’m so confused when my reality seems pleasant one moment and then a complete mess the next. Brain conflict or life stream desires? What is your understanding on vows and headship? And what else to I need to understand better to get unstuck?
    Thanks again!
    T

    1. Sen Post author

      Treeter, for a while you will need to let go of the need to cling to the “good feelings”, and allow yourself to fully open up to all the bad feelings that are arising within (the suppressed negative energy and the momentum of negativity in the mind). Your current reality will always help you unearth all your suppressed negativity and bring it to your consciousness – instead of feeling bad, realize that this is a “detox” process and allow the negativity to be unearthed, allow it arise, stay in an awareness of it, and see it dissolve on its own gradually. If you just stay as a space of awareness, this whole detox will happen pretty quickly and you will come to a place of inner wholeness ensures a positive experience of life for you. Until you come to a place of inner wholeness, your reality will seem to constantly reflect the negativity within you, so that you can bring it to your awareness – if you have the attitude of “learning”, you will no look at this as a drag, but would look at it as a constant growth.

      It’s natural to want to cling to the good feelings, but when you do so you are no longer open to releasing the negativity because you are not fully allowing of it to arise within you. When you’ve released most of the negative momentum in the brain, and released the negative energy in your inner space, you just feel the permanent presence of inner wholeness, it’s not something you need to keep seeking, it just becomes evident/permanent when the cloud of negativity has been released.

  16. Treeter

    Awesome and thank you for the explaination so glad I asked! And OMG! Does it ever happen before you realize and act in awareness, that something so obvious was over looked? My bad? But if you ask me it was totally my life force that I did not listen to but I learned to trust for future I hope!?
    So tell me more, and I want to know your understanding on vows and headship are they obsolete/covered in total awareness?
    Thanks,
    T

    1. Sen Post author

      Treeter, one can use force of fear to control a mind (for example, through vows and headship) but one cannot control the “heart”. If your heart is no longer in a relationship, no amount of vows is going to make any difference, it can basically just be a means through which a fearful mind feels “forced” to stay in a relationship. A relationship that’s no longer an avenue for joy or love, is most a source of drain than anything else, and to continue in it because a chore or a habit rather than the heart’s desire. If you still find love in the relationship below the negativity and you sense that once you are free of negativity within you can find joy in the same relationship, you can just allow the negativity to be released within you and see how it shifts your relationship. If you sense that there is no love left, you can be sure that as you start letting go of your own inner fears, you will automatically feel inspired to move out of it.

  17. Treeter

    Sweet! : )

  18. Jim

    How were you able to get clear so (relatively) quickly?

    Many people try for years and years and make little progress. And the little progress they do make, seems to disappear. Would appreciate your thoughts on this.

    Thanks

    1. Sen Post author

      Jim, if we can do away with “distractions” for a small period of our life, and spend some time simply being aware of ourselves – of our mind, of our body, of the world in general, it brings a deep clarity. The problem is that everything can become a distraction, even practices for becoming more aware can become distractions. Our inner space is an unfamiliar domain since we most of us are used to being focused on the outside since the day we were born – so the brain is circumspect about exploring this inner space, and it would rather just stay distracted on the outside engaging with the outside, and in many cases there is an “unknown” fear to explore ourselves deeply because we may be afraid of accepting what we may find, and so to stay engaged in the outside seems like a safer option to the brain, so we keep ourselves as distracted as we can. Most of us are afraid to even spend 10 minutes sitting with ourselves without doing anything, we feel restless to just be with ourselves and we immediately try to “do something” to keep ourselves occupied in some way.

      Even people who decide to make the inner journey are still hooked up on distractions – they take up all forms of practices and meditations which become techniques to keep the brain occupied, without really allowing themselves to “connect” with themselves. So they go on for years and years, repeating the same practices, hoping that these practice would somehow take them to some unknown state of bliss – so basically they have some vague idea about what “clarity” or enlightenment means, and they just keep chasing this vague idea. It’s amazing how a word like “enlightenment” can create so many imaginations and misunderstandings in people mind and keep them occupied pursuing it as some vague goal for years together. So people make “enlightenment” into a life-long goal, by holding onto to vague ideas that it’s rare state of reach, they don’t even know what they are looking for and they keep looking away, that’s why they keep looking forever, these are the people who are not willing to see reality in a simple way. Enlightenment simply means to “know” yourself in your wholeness – which means knowing your physical aspects and non-physical aspects, by knowing yourself as the brain/body and knowing yourself as the life-energy that makes up everything. It’s not so difficult once you know that the purpose of bring awareness within is to discover who you are clearly – not as some fancy/extra-ordinary idea but a very simple and clear looking at reality as it is.

      Some people get this inner clarity quickly because they have willingness to be let go of distractions for a while and just bring a deep curiousity to discovering themselves – in this attitude, they can read or listen to teachings without making them into belief-systems, and using these teachings pure as a guidance to help them look more clearly. In one sense, this is age of information, owing to the internet, there are so many teachings available to you in the comfort of your home without you having to waste time or energy travelling to some teacher. Teachings that took years to gather can be gathered within a few months owing to all the books and web-information present today. And yet, the primary requirement is a willingness to find out in your own experience, discover yourself by yourself, and use teachings only as a guidance or pointer to do so. I would say I was fortunate to understand this very early owing to a teacher called “Adyashanti” (he has a website), and hence did not fall into any spiritual trappings or techniques.

      To let go of all forms of ideas and imaginations, and be willing to bring a simple inner-observation or self-awareness is all it takes to really get a clarity about yourself (your mind) and about life. You can use the teachings which are present already, given by several teachers, you don’t have to “believe” them, you need to use them to see how they “resonate” for you, use them as a pointers not belief-systems. Most people become like “parrots” repeating what a teacher said, instead of trying to get a sense of it within themselves in their own experience. There is a deep power when someone speaks for their own experience instead of regurgitating words/teachings given by some teacher they heard, or some “courses” they took up.

      In the absence of self-awareness you can’t discover yourself, and for self-awareness to grow on needs to be free of distractions, for a while. You can’t be distracted and self-awareness at the same time, initially. When you have a sense of clarity within you, about yourself, you can then freely indulge in this world, in all the various activities that interest you, in all the experiences that feel aligned with your natural preference/expression. The willingness to keep yourself away from distractions, by investing some time towards self-discovery/self-realization, speaks about how authentic you really are about coming to a clarity within yourself – it’s not about becoming a hermit for life, it’s just about spending a small period of time getting to know yourself so that you can move through the rest of your life from a place of clarity.

  19. Michael

    I had a lot of people/interests disappear in the past few months and most of them seem to be coming back now. Is it possible that I was just too unconscious and identified with negativity for these realities to reflect anything positive? It’s a bit confusing seeing most of the old coming back when I thought it was all garbage.

  20. Bill

    With time i have become more stable in my ability to slow my thoughts and just be.. but i find i can only seem to do this when i am on my own.. In public or in the motion of life .. its as though almost anything will grab my thoughts and i allow judgement on every situation and every conversation without being able to react naturally or in my truest form. what advice do you have on maintaining that stability and allowing my own intelligence to flow instead of being wrapped up with what others are doing and saying and being taken over my my ego

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