When you have a deep awareness/understanding of your mind (and body), where you understand all its dimensions, its limitations and its personality, you are finally in a place to have a “clear minded focus” on what you truly desire to experience in your life going forward – this clear minded focus is the culmination of your whole movement of becoming aware (or awakening from unconscious identification). In this place you are clearly knowing of the realities you want to experience and your being is entirely (100%) focused without any doubts, double-mindedness, uncertainties, vacillations, inferiority, guilt or ambiguities. I refer to this as phase 4, or the final phase, of awakening in my post – Awakening, transcendence and return of focus – basically, your journey from here on becomes about choosing what you want to experience and allowing it to happen. Of course, all physical manifestations take time to “condense”, but your clarity of focus allows this unfolding to be swift because you are no longer vacillating in your intent.
Clarity in the midst of options
This physical world is full of options when it comes to the experiences you can have, and these options keep expanding (the options you have now are far more than the options available 100 years back), and each option has a depth to explore. The more options that are available, the more likely the mind is to be confused, almost “overwhelmed” by the various choices available – it can be something as simple as the type of mobile phone that suits you, or as life changing as the type of relationship/career that suits you. In the absence of a deep “self realization”, without understanding the aspects of who you are as this physical body/mind and non-physical life energy, it’s very easy to be lost in this confusion which leads to a lot of stress, and allows for a sense of “meaninglessness” to creep in (which is nothing but the brain’s strategy to deny the conflict/confusion).
Self-realization allows for a clarity in the midst of all these options and choices. You start living life on your terms, rather than be swayed by the masses. You don’t subscribe to an option because everyone is subscribing to it, you take up an option purely as a conscious choice to experience that option. You are in a place of “full responsibility”, where you consciously choose the life you desire to experience rather than be dragged into a life situation for the sake of meeting expectations or fulfilling a societal norm. Such a clarity is not possible unless the power of awareness in you has become strong and stable, so that it can clearly see all the aspects of your human consciousness, of your body, of your mind and of your being. In this place you are quite “unshakeable” because you are not influenced by other minds, you are deeply in touch with your own “presence”, you are truly standing on your own two shoes, conscious of your power of deliberate creation – and your mind is very steady in its focus with respect to the reality it wants to manifest.
You choose what’s best for you
There is no global standard for success. Success is a personal thing, you define what success means to you. The definition of success is a place where you feel good about your reality – that’s all. There is no global standard for what feels good, because it’s not the external that makes you feel good but your “personal” perception that makes it so. It’s up to you to find out what is it that you want to experience, what type of reality you want to participate in.
Each mind is a world onto itself, because each mind has a unique way of perceiving this world – of course there is a common physical world out there (because we are part of one mind, one consciousness), but in truth, you see this world the way your mind sees it – so in that sense your world is personal to you. So “you” need to decide what you want to see, or experience and express – it’s totally your choice. It’s like choosing the food you want to eat at a huge buffet, you can either be overwhelmed about the plethora of cuisines showcased, and end up staying confused and frantic through out your lunch, or you can make some specific choices and focus on enjoying your lunch. What you choose to experience will keep changing as your realities keep changing, but at every point you will come to a clarity within yourself about what you want – you are no longer at the mercy of circumstances, you become a deliberate thinker or a deliberate focuser, where you focus only on the realities that you want for yourself.
There is no such thing as “one best lifestyle”, you define what’s your best lifestyle – it’s a totally personal thing. You can choose to live as a hermit in a small shack in Alaska or you can choose to live a glam filled life at Las Vegas, You can choose to enjoy a monogamous relationship in the institution of marriage or you can choose to live in an open relationship, you can choose to be a vegetarian or you can choose to lead a non-vegetarian life – as long as you are making a conscious choice, in full cognizance of “reality”, in total alignment with your mind’s natural make-up and your body’s natural proclivity, it’s all good.
There is a limitation of “time”, because your present body has a fixed duration of existence, and the choices you make will determine how spend this time – but if you get “flustered” and think you need to experience “everything” within this limited time, feeling that you are always missing out on something, you will mostly just end up living a restless life – some people do this in an unconscious way, where they have no steadiness in their life, they are just “loose”, restless and vague all the time. There is no “one best thing” in life, and all experiences are temporary/fleeting, this physical body eventually dissolves (so you, as the life stream, can start again in a new intention) – this physical life, it’s just a “journey”, there is no end point or final “achievement” to reach, the very deal of this journey is to enjoy the journey itself. Stop following others, stop following your gurus, stop following your friends, stop following your parents, stop following an outside mindset, and be a light onto yourself – find out what is it that you want for yourself, that’s a huge part of what self-realization really is. And you can’t come to this clarity without the power of awareness.
Doubts and meaninglessness indicate you don’t know who you are
If you are always doubtful about your choices, it’s a clear indication that you are not really sure of who you are. If you find life meaninglessness or boring, it’s a clear indication that you are confused within yourself about what you want to experience. Life is alive energy, it’s very dynamic and it’s a vibrant force, and if you don’t sense this essence of life in you, it just means you are bogged down by fears and inner conflicts which don’t allow you to experience your true self as this human form. Its one thing to sit in the caves of Himalayas out of a conscious choice and enjoy that experience, and it’s a totally different thing to “escape” into the caves of Himalayas in a bid to deny your physicality. You need to be honest with yourself if you are living in “denial” or if you are living in “deliberation”. Denial is a sign of unconsciousness and deliberation is a sign of conscious living.
When you have been living an unconscious life for a long time, it can take a few months, may be even a couple of years, once you start becoming aware, to gain a sense of clarity about what you want to experience in life and to be free of the doubts, conflicts and negativity in the mind that are suppressing this clarity in focus. As I mentioned, this clear minded focus comes as a culmination of your awakening from unconscious movement. The phase of “letting go” of the mind, is a precursor, to gaining this clarity – only when you let go of the mind, for a while, can all the limiting, and negative, conditioning/beliefs, that are not congruent with you, dissolve – in this place of freedom you can see clearly what your natural make-up is and thus you can start living the “ideal you”. Without first going through a phase of letting go of identification with the mind (which allows you to see through all the patterns that are not congruent with you), it’s quite impossible to come to this phase of clear minded focus. That’s why I call awakening as the process of “aligning with your natural expression as this physical form”, that’s what this process really is about – to live your fullness as this human being that you are in this present reality, this is how you do justice to the intent in life energy that created you.