You cannot know what silence is if there was no noise. So the noise is essential for silence to know itself. In the same way, the formless one consciousness takes form in order to “know” itself. Negative thoughts, or the rampant voices in your head, are nothing but subtle “forms” that arise in the space of the formless consciousness. They can cause a lot of suffering, but they can also become the “portal” through which you can find out the truth of who you are, and transcend suffering completely.
The voices that you hear in your head is mostly just “noise” trying to sort itself out, and it will not be a problem if you don’t get entangled in it. Just knowing this truth “conceptually” is however not useful in anyway and it does not help you stop, or find relief, from the voices that keep pounding in your head. A few pointers and insights are given below that will help you move in a direction that can permanently give relief from the constant disturbance created by the “speaking” mind.
You Cannot Fix the Noise by Using Techniques
The voices in your head can get quite overwhelming at times especially when they are sending out negative messages or projecting fearful future situations.
People try to shut down their mind and force silence upon it, but that never works out too well. It’s like trying to shut someone up by putting a plaster on their mouth. The moment you remove the plaster they are going to shout back at you more vigorously.
Trying to silence mind is like a temporary fix. People take drugs, drink alcohol or take sleeping pills to find relief from the tormenting voices in their head. Some practice a certain meditation where they force “silence” upon their mind by trying to “focus” it.
All these practices can stop the voices for a while, temporarily, but they will never fix the problem because as soon as you stop the “practice”, or when the drug wears off, the voices will come right back up.
Finding the Stillness Which is Always Present
The only way to find relief from the voices in your head is to recognize the stillness which is always present. This stillness is your essential nature, the source or who you really are. You can recognize this ever present “silence” of your being, by simply sitting in a state of complete “allowing”.
Sit in a relaxed position. Make sure your body is completely supported by the chair or bed you are sitting on. Now just let go of your body and mind, as if you are dead. Notice the energy of the voices in your head, notice the feelings created in the body and the sensations present. Don’t try to stop anything or fix anything. Just let everything be. Let the mind be as noisy as it wants to be.
If you truly allow everything to be, it won’t be long before you recognize the deep stillness, or silence, which is always present as the background. You will see that this silence is not affected by the noise in any way. This silence is the nature of your “being”, who you essential are.
How to Stay in this Place of Stillness?
Most people, when they have a glimpse of this stillness of being, will then want to hold on to it or possess it. This usually starts off another bout of suffering, where the mind now tries to constantly grab for the “silence” of being as a refuge from the voices. The truth is that “you” cannot stay in this place of stillness because the “you” trying to do this is just another noise. Noise cannot attain silence, the noise has to let go for silence to be.
The Art of Surrendering or Letting Go
Usually, we try everything, all fixes, all practices, all techniques, before we finally realize that nothing we “try” really works for long. It’s like going in circles, and some people end up living that way all their life. It’s a miserable life when you spend it trying to “fix” the mind or control it.
The truth however is that true freedom, joy, love, liberation, or peace, is realized only after we really “let go” of control. When we stop trying to “fix” the voices in the head, miraculously they start getting sorted out all by themselves. There is a deep intelligence and wisdom in the “being” that you are, but this wisdom can only become available when we “let go” of control and allow this intelligence to operate.
To the mind, it feels very scary to let go of control and allow “something else” to take over. In truth, this “something else” is who you really are. You are not the mind, or what the mind tells you, but you are essential the “being” that is the creator of everything, including the mind. You are the silence without which noise can never appear. Surrender is simply giving up your addiction to mind and allowing yourself to “become” who you really are.
It Takes Time Before You Really Let Go
It’s not easy, initially, to just let go especially when you don’t “trust” the intelligence of the being or life. The mind thinks that it’s more superior, more intelligent, than any other force and so it wants to retain control. In truth, the intelligence of mind is a very small aspect compared to the intelligence of the “being” that created the mind. Even after knowing this truth, you will not let go because mind will keep telling you that it’s a bad deal.
There are no fixes that are permanent. No healing is really permanent. The freedom is to realize that who you are, the being, is already healthy, pure and free. Who you are is already fulfilled and joyful, but you can’t realize that as long as you don’t let go of the mind. Letting go is the most amazing gift you can ever give yourself.
Letting Go is Simply About Giving Up Control
Stop trying to figure out life and just let life move you. Only the mind is always trying to figure out, fix and struggle through life. You don’t have to struggle at all, if you are just willing to let go completely. If you notice, nothing in nature is in “struggle”. Like Jesus said “Look at the lilies how they grow, they don’t toil and spin, but they are taken care of abundantly” (just a free translation)
Something in you really wants to “let go” of all control and become free. Follow this impulse, for this is the call of heart.
It’s not possible to simply stop the voices in your head by trying to “control” your mind. It has never worked for anyone. True freedom is to go “beyond” the mind by realizing your true nature as the permanent stillness, which is always present, and letting go into it. This is the liberation that all spiritual teachings, and teachers, talk about. It’s simple, if you are willing to be simple; there is nothing complex about totally letting go.