The state of suffering is simply a state of resistance to what arises, the end of suffering is when you are fully open to what arises, without any fear. This does not mean that when you become open to what arises, you will end up in perpetual joy (light nature), that would be totally unnatural, against the natural flow of life-energy which moves in a balance between dark and light nature (yin and yang). There is a difference between “no suffering” and “perpetual joy” – when you are free of resistance to the movement of life, you are free of suffering, in that you are not in “conflict” with what’s happening naturally, and you will allow the states of joy (high states) to arise along with low states, and what comes about is a harmony, a balance, there are no more “intense” fluctuations, no imbalances of strong nature, nothing overwhelming, this is what “stability” means. Initially, when you move into the state of allowing, you will experience some intense fluctuations, from intense bliss to some intense downers, and these fluctuations will continue for a while, until balance establishes itself within you – the intensity of the fluctuations is just the indication of the amount of imbalance that had accumulated over time within you, and the balancing act of the state of allowing brings it back to harmony.
The reason I am not a proponent of techniques like “positive affirmations”, or even “focused meditation”, is because they are opposed to a natural state of allowing. However, if, while being in a state of allowing, an inspiration comes along to do something like a positive visualization/affirmation, or a focused meditation, or any other idea for action, you can follow up on it. So, there are no “don’ts”, it’s just about following your inspiration while being in a state of allowing. If you see, quite simply, the state of allowing makes you stand on your own, it makes you independent, it connects you with your own guidance, and you realize that your guidance is already present within you. One can’t be in a state of allowing and ask “am I doing it right”, there is no right or wrong, it’s about what’s your inspiration for the moment while you stay true to being allowing of what arises. Sometimes, the inspiration is to get up and do something even when the mind is opposed to it, and sometimes the inspiration is to not do something which the mind insists on doing – so there are no fixed rules on how this is going to work out, you simply work with what your inspiration seems to be.
Being allowing is being positive
The only way I can ever define a term like “positive” is in the context of whether you are allowing of what arises or if you are opposing it – positive is simply about being allowing of what arises naturally, negativity is the opposition of what arises within you. So, if a depressive mood is what arises naturally, in this moment, and if you are totally allowing of it, then you are being positive – if on the other hand, you try to force change the mood by fighting it, out of fear of allowing it, you are basically in a negative state of being. In this sense, the depressive mood is not what is “negative”, what’s negative is the opposition to it, when you think “this should not be”. This is the reason why I use terms like “dark nature” and “light nature”, and then use terms like “positive” and “negative” – dark nature does not imply negative, light nature does not imply positive. For example, a low mood is a dark nature, but it’s not negative by itself if you allow it fully, and you will notice a different experience of this low state when you do so.
The state of allowing is not a technique, and you may/will start off doing it as a practice, but you will soon realize that it can’t be done as a technique rather it’s a pointer towards a state of being open to life, to let go of your “conflict”, of your rigid opposition, of your fearful resistance, to what arises naturally. At one point, you will realize for yourself, with certainty, what is really meant by a state of allowing – at this point you will be fully in tune with life as it is, with every aspect of its movement, without conflict, without fear. Of course, you can’t come to a state of total allowing overnight, it’s rare for that to happen, usually, it takes time and it happens gradually as your body, and mind, become more and more adapted to the energy movements that take place as an orchestration towards balance.
You can’t go wrong really, and if you ever have a question “am I doing this right?”, all you need to do is allow this question also – don’t try to answer it, because any answer will only be temporary, if an answer arises it’s fine, but don’t hold onto to it. I don’t hold on to any understanding, I don’t refer to my past posts to regain an understanding, I am fully aware that any understanding that I need for handing a certain moment in my life will arise in that moment – I know this to be true not because of a “blind faith”, but because I’ve seen it happen this way all the time, the logical part of my mind is convinced, through these observed evidences, that it can trust the intelligence of life.
The initial challenge of entering a state of allowing
The state of allowing is effortless and you soon realize how powerfully transformative it is, and it thus becomes your nature to be unequivocally allowing of what arises knowing that opposition is not only counter-productive but totally futile. However, it takes a while before reaching this place of total allowing, and the initial journey can feel challenging mostly because of the fear of something going wrong. The state of allowing is equal to a state of total openness within, which can make you feel “defence-less” or even vulnerable, because of the feeling of letting go of control – in fact, without some assurance that there is nothing be afraid of, it can be starkly fearful of allowing, especially the dark natured energy movements. Moreover, when you enter a state of allowing, for a while the disharmony within comes to surface quite intensely, like an eruption, before the harmony gets restored – this intense energy movement can leave people worried that something might be going wrong, when in actuality it’s just a process of harmonization.
The state of allowing creates several “inner transformations”, bringing you to a state of maturity as required for your journey, sometimes breaking through several set “mind patterns” and past identities. You can see personality changes taking place in you, in the direction of a more balanced way of being, without any real effort on your part, it’s as if the mind is just getting reprogrammed into alignment. You will sense that everything that “felt” imbalanced within you is touched by this transformation, and a balance is restored. It’s just that, you need to “let it happen” instead of constantly wondering if you are doing it right, the deal is that you are not really “doing” anything as a force, you are allowing it to happen. Also, you need to let go of some imagination you may have of what wholeness/balance feels like, and find out for yourself what it really is – I assure you it’s nothing like what your mind might be imagining it to be. Be willing to be find out instead of holding onto to some imaginary idea of what it “should be”, such an idea will keep you from really allowing what is and you will constantly be comparing your present state with some “imaginary state” you wish to reach.
The biggest challenge people face while entering a state of allowing is to deal with the dark natured energy component of life within them. The sadness, anger, hatred, boredom, loneliness and fear, that can arise, quite intensely, initially, based on how much of it was suppressed before, and how much of it got accumulated in an imbalanced manner. Even after the balance is restored, the dark nature plays out equally with the light nature component, it’s just that both them lose their “intensity” and hence are no longer a factor of suffering. Coming to terms with the dark nature component of life-energy can be a big challenge and the usual motivation is to just reach out for a light-natured state through some distraction or suppression.
You will notice, that when you put forth a desire, it’s natural for the intelligence of your life-stream to play out the dark and light natured components of this desire, in your mind, and see if you are “resistant” to either of it – and in most cases, unless we have hit a balance, we will be found resisting the dark natured component. For example, we might want a certain desire but we might resist the maturity required to live that reality, the maturing process can be seen as a dark natured component because it requires “deconstruction” of some old patterns of behavior/thinking, and we may be resistant to allowing it. (Read the post – light and dark nature of your desired reality – for more insight on this). Dark natured component is not the “negative”, it’s just the polarity needed to balance the movement of energy, in fact there can be no movement without the interplay between the dark and light nature components – just think about it, the only reason you have a desire (light nature) is because you see a contrast (dark nature) in your reality, and without a desire you can’t have a new reality, and without the movement towards a new reality there is no movement of life-energy (it just becomes stagnant or dead).
A state of independence
Independence simply means free of dependence on anything from a place of bondage. To be independent is our very nature, we hate having to be in a place of dependence out of fear or helplessness. We can only truly become independent when we can fully rely on our own life-stream’s intelligence, and we can only rely on our life-stream when we trust it, we can only trust it when we see evidence of its intelligence, and we can only see this evidence when we first become allowing it (giving it a chance). So the choice is yours – your life-stream cannot work to its potential if you are not allowing it. It makes no sense to keep complaining about how helpless you feel in life, without ever giving a chance to your life-stream to sort it out for you. And, allowing is an open state, it’s not a “conditional” state of saying – “I will allow these things which feel convenient, but will resist these other things that don’t”, allowing involves allowing the dark and the light natured components that will play out within you as a natural process of bringing a balance.
Once you become adept at allowing, you realize your power to be totally independent – the circumstances no longer have a power over you, neither do outside influences. You are no longer in the hiding, you are not trying to deny anything about life, and hence there is nothing that your mind can hold you hostage about. You realize that you truly are free to live life without a need for dependence on anything/anyone out of fear. If you are in a helpless situation right now, created out of the various imbalances within you, you need to be allowing of it as it is, and the transformation towards independence will take place seamlessly. Life will effortlessly bring co-operative components into your life, the resources that will assist you in living your expression – this form of dependence is natural, and a part of co-creation. But, you will no longer have dependence based on fear or neediness, this way no-one has a power over you, and you don’t seek to have power over anyone – this is true freedom.