A relationship is simply an external manifestation of your inner reality. If you are willing to be authentic, you will notice that your relationship is simply reflecting back to you what you are feeling within yourself. In other words, if your relationship is fraught with conflict, it’s simply a reflection of your inner conflicts, you can stop blaming your partner for it – actually you attracted your partner through your vibration. Instead of trying to change your partner, what’s fruitful is to resolve your inner conflicts. Once your inner conflicts are resolved your relationship will be harmonious and rooted in joy, this is the secret to a happy relationship.
Don’t look to your partner to complete you
If you are feeling lackful, incomplete, unhappy and limited right now, and you are hoping that a partner will come and somehow make you feel complete, it’s just not possible. It’s against the very law that creates realities – the law of attraction, which simply states – “you can only attract what you vibrate”. So if you are vibrating in a frequency of “lack”, the relationship you attract, from this place, will reflect the same lack back to you and amplify it – in other words you will just end up in a relationship that makes you feel even more “lackful”. Look around you at your friends, or may be in your own life, and see if this is not true. The law of attraction is always precise in that you can only attract what you vibrate.
You cannot attract a happy relationship from a place of feeling unhappy, needy, lackful or incomplete within. However, the good news is that who you are is already joyful and is based in love and peace, this is your natural vibration. The only reason you feel negative emotions in you are because you believe in the negative patterns of your mind. Once you let go of the mind’s lack based, fear oriented, thinking, you automatically start aligning with your true nature which based in joy. When you align with your true nature you feel the “fullness” of who you are every moment, and thus you stop feeling “incomplete”.
A partner that you attract from a place of already feeling “complete”, and joyful, within yourself, will always feel like a perfect match to you because he/she will reflect the joy that you are already feeling within. So seek the fullness that you already are, this is what is primary; everything else will be taken care of by itself.
Desire a partner from a place of fulfillment
To the mind it seems like a paradox that one can desire when one is feeling fulfilled, but that’s how life moves. Who you are is already “all that is”, it’s already joy, love and peace, and nothing that it manifests can add anything to it or remove anything from it. Yet, consciousness desires to express itself and creates realities for the joy of it. Desire does not mean that you are lacking, it just means that you want to express your joy through a creation. Neediness is only possible when you are not aware of the fullness that you already are.
When you let go of your negativity (by resting as a space of awareness), you automatically start sensing the joy that you are. You realize that you don’t need anything, or anyone, to feel complete and yet to desire to have a relationship to “enjoy” yourself. Life is your playground, you are here for fun and play, to enjoy yourself – you are not here to fix something, you are not here to become “complete”, you are not here to fulfill a lack – you are simply here to express yourself and enjoy yourself. If your mind tells you that life is not about joy, it’s simply because it’s in the wrong vision – in a fear based vision.
A happy relationship is a celebration of life. When two people come together to share their life, they become co-creators, and there is nothing more enjoyable than sharing joyful realities with each other – your joy is the best gift you can ever share with anyone. Stop looking for someone to give you joy, find your joy within – it’s who you are, and then you will attract someone who will participate in your enjoyment – this is what a happy relationship is.