A lot of self-help books talk about “active positivity” where you are asked to hold positive self-talk, recite positive affirmation, do positive visualization, and basically do everything possible to suppress the negative thoughts. Anyone who has been down this path knows how much effort and frustration is involved in trying to be “actively positive”, fighting the mind’s negative thinking constantly – it’s nothing short of extreme struggle, and it leaves you feeling a sense of fear/hatred towards the brain for being so stubbornly negative all the time. If you look deeply you will notice that the energy behind the motivation to indulge in “active positivity” is fear of the mind’s negativity. A lot of people who start becoming aware of the mind’s negativity, immediately grab on to this technique of “forced positive thinking” (which is what I label as “active positivity”) in a bid to suppress/silence the negative thinking of the mind – but this technique is based in fear/force(hatred), and hence creates the reflection of the same.
When you’ve become exhausted of your active positivity techniques, you are finally ready to hear the message that you can come to a place of a “passively positive mind” which does not need to be forced into positivity. For many people it may seem like a wishful dream to have a passively positive mind, and yet the truth is that the natural vibration of life-energy is pure positive (or wholeness) and since the mind is also made of the same life-energy its natural state is to be positive. The reason why the mind has become so negative is mostly because of the unconscious belief/identification with negativity created over time (load of negative energy carried from birth, the negative conditioning that you garnered from the outside and your own indulgence in “active” negative thinking) – it has lost its natural state and is now tightly held in a momentum of negativity. The way to come back to this natural state of positive mind is to simply go through a phase of letting go of the mind – it’s simple but it’s not easy, because we are so hooked up to not let go of the mind, we keep clinging to it like a helpless addict.
Active thinking and passive thinking
To reduce the mind’s momentum it’s required to let go of “active thinking” for a while (even for 30-40 minutes a day is helpful) and let it be passive, which means let the mind think passively. For many brain oriented people this would seem like a ridiculous suggestion because they can’t imagine letting go of their addiction to controlling the mind. Also, the moment you let go of active thinking, for a while the mind just feels chaotic with no real direction to the thoughts – the immediate impulse is to put the leash back on the mind, and bring into active control. It feels terrifying to let go of the mind because it’s like you are suddenly sitting in a car without a steering wheel. And yet, if you are willing to go through this small phase of fear, and let go of your addiction to “active thinking”, and just let the mind be passive, it soon returns to a harmony (the time it takes depends on the negative momentum it has gathered in the past and your willingness stay in a space of letting go) and enters into the state of passive positivity, it also develops a clarity of purpose and moves through its full potential of expression.
All techniques are part of “active thinking” and if you’ve had experience with techniques, you know that they are just “short term” relief mechanisms and none of them allow the mind to come a state of passive positivity. If you have to spend a lifetime trying to keep your mind positive, it’s not only exhausting but it also severely hampers your creativity. The only problem is that most people don’t trust this phase of “letting go the mind” – mostly because they are addicted to active thinking. The reason we are addicted to active thinking is because it gives us some pseudo-security that we are in control, but it also keeps you in a place of struggle and effort all the time, instead of being aligned with the natural ease and flow of life.
There is nothing wrong with using active thinking to deal with some practical issues like calculating your budget, scheduling appointments, getting some small mechanical work done. But if your whole work is rooted in active thinking, it’s a given that you already hate your work. The best quality of work is produced when it’s not coming from strained/active thinking, rather from an effortless excellence, with the creativity inherent to your mind’s natural makeup. When you do the work which is aligned with your natural makeup, you always feel effortless in your execution. For example, the best writers are the ones who write purely from effortless inspiration rather than writing from strained effort, the best programmers are the ones who are effortless in their intelligence in the area of coding (Linus Pauling, the guy who coded the Linux operating system, wrote several million lines of code on his own and he enjoyed the whole process because it came from an effortless inspiration). We are all geniuses in someway, we just need to find our genius, the work into which you bring in an effortless excellence is truly what your calling is.
The primary priority should be to first let go of the momentum of past negativity. This is the reason why it’s needed to go through a small phase of letting go of the mind, so that it can come to its natural harmony. Once it’s in this state of harmony it stays in sync with your inner guidance and stays aligned with your natural expression.
Investing time to reach a passively positive mind
None of this is going to happen overnight, neither is it going to happen in a matter of a few weeks. After all you have gathered negative momentum from so many years of unconscious thinking, you can’t expect to let go of all that accumulation in a period a few weeks. Moreover, it’s going to be challenging initially to let go of the mind, because of your total addiction to it – but once you know what this process entails you will know where you are heading, and hence there is much less confusion/anxiety in you towards letting this natural harmony happen. That’s why it helps to first understand this process in an objective manner, before you go through this phase of letting go of the mind – always remember, it’s only a “temporary” phase.
The circumstances that you had created through the negative momentum in your mind will start falling apart as you go through this process. Everything that’s not in integrity with your natural expression will seem to fall apart and dissolve from your reality – it won’t always feel like roses, because the dissolution of old realities can create some sense of panic in the mind even though they were miserable realities. The mind clings to the familiar, even if the familiar is a miserable reality. So you need to brace yourself for these changes to happen, and not get into a state of panic when the old realities start crumbling. Anything and everything that does not fit in with your natural expression will start dissolving and it may not always feel “right” to the mind (which may be holding some narrow perspectives), it may seem chaotic but there is an order beneath it all, you never feel orphaned by life. There may also be some periods where you don’t feel motivated towards anything, it’s like a transition phase, where the old reality has nothing that motivates you. If you stay allowing of this phase, you will soon see the motivation returning but this time towards your natural expression, towards activity that’s deeply in alignment with your natural make up.
This process feels much more comfortable when you commit yourself to it fully. There should be an authentic dedication in you to want to come to your natural expression. When you let go of the mind for a while, everything that’s not in alignment with the natural vibration of wholeness starts phasing out, mostly in layers – it feels as if your mind is dissolving all its hard held resistances, and its felt “physically” as these blocks dissolve. There will be periods of bliss when chunks of resistances drop away, raising your vibration, but it will be followed by some periods of discomfort as more negativity/resistance come up to be released – for a while this fluctuation goes on, until you empty out all your accumulated layers of negativity of the past. When you are fully dedicated to letting go, it usually takes a few months for harmony to set in, but to reach this place of full allowing can take a while. When this phase is over, you reach a place of passive/natural wholeness not only in your inner space but also in your thought space of the mind – a passively positive mind.