Do you feel a sense of gratitude, and appreciation, for what you have presently in your life or are you constantly looking forward to a future moment to satisfy you? Most people feel a sense of unease with what is, and though they are not even sure of what they are looking for, they always imagine that it’s not “here”. They live in a hope that some day when they get this or that, they would feel more complete and fulfilled. This seems to be the “normal” mode of living, because the majority of the populace lives this way. However, there is a deep inherent dysfunction hidden in this way of living, because when you don’t find the “fullness” of this moment right now, you will always be in a state of unease no matter what you achieve in the future.
Stop waiting for life to get better
When you start looking towards an “imagined” future to fulfill you, it becomes a pattern in your mind and you start disregarding the present moment, and even consider it to be an obstacle to your happiness.
The imagination of a “better life”, in the future, is a delusion. Life is already full here and now. It can only take a “new” form in the future, and it’s beautiful to create new forms, but life remains as it is, deep down, there is no “bettering” of life – it remains as its pure nature always. It just so happens that the pure nature of life is peace, love and joy, its never changing, it’s always the same, and you can always find it to be so when you are grounded in the Now.
You can become a habitual “waiter” when you are always waiting for a future moment to satisfy you. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the vision of an expanded future, or desiring new things in the future, but if you don’t find the fulfillment, and wholeness, of this moment, you will always move from a state of “lack” no matter what your future brings you.
Anyone who observes life, can see that it’s not the external possession that brings any lasting happiness. There are millionaires who are depressed and on medication, there are celebrities who feel lonely and incomplete; it’s easy to see that happiness is not attained by gaining an “external” achievement. It may bring you some temporary pleasure to achieve some goals in your life, but it’s not a lasting happiness and soon it gives way to a feeling of “incompleteness”.
There is nothing wrong with seeking goals, or having a future vision, but the problem lies with the mindset of looking to the future for happiness while not realizing that happiness is “here” and now. By happiness I mean a place of fullness, where you don’t have a feeling that something is “missing”. This is what true happiness is, it’s not a temporary feeling of pleasure or excitement, but a lasting sense of fullness which you know cannot ever change. Life “is” happiness.
Most people are seeking pseudo, or temporary, happiness by trying to achieve some future goals, while missing the true happiness of realizing the fullness which is already present here. You can never find fullness in the future, it’s always found only in the present moment. It’s easy to see that when the future arrives, it comes as the present moment – so if you are not at ease with the present moment, life will always feel unfulfilling to you.
Finding the fullness of life here and now
Life is always “now”. The Now is timeless because it’s just “this” moment. Time does not exist anywhere except in the mind. When you are in the mind, you are totally identified with a “virtual” reality which feels time bound and hence you become disconnected with the “real” reality of life which is always just the “Now”.
Only when you stop looking to the future for happiness can you start realizing the beauty of life, right here and now. It doesn’t matter what your life situation is, the now is always beautiful. Even if you are sitting in a solitary prison cell, when you are in touch with the now, there is a beauty seen in that situation and there arises an appreciation for life as it is. It just so happens that life is in love with itself, it doesn’t matter what form it takes.
The “Ego” will find several reasons to hate the present moment. It may find life to be unfair, disgusting, unsatisfying, lacking in this or that, or just plain boring. This is the realm of the “Ego” which lives in a “story” based reality and hence is never in touch with the timeless “real” reality of life which is not a story but just the “Now”.
Move out the mind, come out of your story, and sense the aliveness which is here now. The Now is life, and as you start moving your attention into the Now, you will become aware of the joy that lies here, no matter what your life situation may be. When you starting living life from this “perspective”, you will never find the Now to be an obstacle to happiness and your reality will soon start reflecting this “joy” back at you. Life starts working for you when you are no longer in conflict with the present moment.