The moment you compromise on your joy the direct “affirmation” you are making to your subconscious mind, and thus to the universe, is that – “I don’t deserve a good life” – it doesn’t matter how many positive affirmations you spell out every morning in front of your mirror, they won’t make any real difference if your actions through the day are towards compromising your joy in the hope that your struggle will bring you a good life. Your actions always speak louder than words as far as communicating with the universe is concerned. You can see people starting their day with some positive affirmation like – “I believe I am abundant in all areas of my life”, and then they go around taking actions which reek of struggle, their excuse being that “I can only live a behavior of abundance when I actually have some abundance in my life, till then I obviously have to keep struggling”. This mindset is the core reason why a lot of people fail to make a positive change in their reality in-spite of all their know-how.
The action of being relaxed, or moving from a place of joy or inspiration, is a strong affirmation of your sense of abundance. The energy behind your actions always give away your true “vibe” in the moment. It doesn’t matter what your life situation is right now, you have the choice to align with a sense of abundance or with a sense of lack – you may say that the only reason you are thinking/behaving along the lines of lack is because your external reality at present is so lackful, but the truth is that it’s this very behavior of lack-oriented thinking that got you to this reality in the first place. Of course you can have many valid reasons for why your thinking is lack-oriented, but the reasons don’t really matter, the only question is do you want make a change towards abundance, now.
The test of where your alignment lies will come up during a challenge where you would have a choice of aligning with struggle or aligning with your joy, and if you make the choice of compromising on your joy it means you are not really aligned with abundance yet and hence have no reason to blame the universe for not bringing you a reality of abundance.
What’s your attitude towards life?
There are just two core attitudes that are present in humans 1. An attitude of struggle 2. An attitude of joy. The attitude of struggle attracts struggle, and it can give you a sense of being “heroic” or dramatic, but the bottom-line is that you will keep attracting struggle. The attitude of joy will ensure a drama free life and it always seems to attract realities that amplify your sense of ease/joy (attracting compatible and helpful resources all the time). Of course, some people unconsciously develop the attitude of joy, and they may not even know why their reality is so aligned with abundance, they may even start feeling guilty about their ease-orientation when they see other struggle-oriented folks fighting it out in life. This can cause an unconsciously joy-oriented person to take to “struggle-orientation” influenced by the outside. So unless one aligns “consciously”, one can always misaligned by outside influence.
Here are some essential behaviors that you may see in yourself if you have an attitude of struggle
– You are constantly trying to fix your life by working harder without ever bothering to take the time to sort out the lack-based beliefs in your mind
– You are always talking/thinking about the unfairness of life and carry a lot of resentment
– You feel guilty of being relaxed, or of enjoying yourself
– You are always talking about “hard work” as the secret to success, without realizing that your personal effort/work is only a small aspect of how your desire unfolds, the major influence is the way you think and the way you allow life to work for you. (A good example would be people who keep trying for years to lose weight through their efforts, without taking the time to let go of their negative thinking)
– You have a sense of “competing” with the outside to get your share of abundance
– You believe that joy is at the end of an achievement and you constantly compromise on your joy in your journey towards that achievement.
– You define success on what you achieve externally rather than what you feel internally. One can have all the trappings of riches while feeling deeply disconnected within.
Of course, external success is inevitable when you are internally aligned, but when your whole focus is on external success you always ignore your inner state of being causing you to never really feel at peace.
Actually it’s far easier to get into mindless action than to bring awareness, to your mind, to sort out the negative beliefs and the limiting/lack-based thought patterns you are holding on to. In many cases, we use our actions to compensate for certain limiting beliefs we hold – for example, your belief may be that it takes a lot of hard work (hard work being a label for joyless work) to make money, and instead of changing this belief, you end up doing a lot of hard work in order to meet this belief – you will achieve some results for sure, but it’s far too mediocre, and far less efficient, to use actions to compensate for misaligned/limiting beliefs, instead of working with the beliefs directly. Imagine the amount of leverage you will get the moment you are able to align with the belief/knowing that abundance can come in without any struggle – your whole reality changes its patterns as you change your beliefs. The beliefs that you hold will always attract your personal reality – this is because you can only see your reality from the lens of your beliefs, in fact your beliefs define your attitude towards life.
What’s the energy behind your actions?
Two people taking the same action may get totally different results based on the energy that prompted that action in them. A person who gets inspired into a certain action because it aligns with his/her joy would get a highly positive result in comparison to a person who took that same action from a place of forced struggle. For example, one person takes the time to align with himself and then gets inspired into following an exercise routine, while another person just imposes an exercise routine on himself as a matter of “discipline” – both these people would seem to be doing the same thing, but the reality they manifest/get would be totally different, the former went into the action from a place of alignment whereas the latter is trying to use action to sort out his lack of alignment.
You don’t have to compromise on your joy at all, life never asks that of you – it’s just a choice you start making out of your own beliefs or fears. If you notice, the only reason you are doing things that you don’t like is because you made a choice at some point to compromise on your joy – and no matter what your reasons were to make that choice, the bottom line is that you made a choice to go against your joy, and hence made a clear affirmation (though unconsciously) that you don’t deserve a good life, and that’s exactly the affirmation that you live by everyday you keep compromising on your joy. The life force focused on your body is always moving you towards joy and well-being, but your mind has the capacity to oppose this pull by forcing itself into struggle due to its misaligned beliefs (by “your mind” I just mean you as this person).
Letting go of the mindset of sacrifice
If you are asking – “isn’t sacrifice a noble quality?” you are indirectly asking if compromising your joy is a noble quality, and basically it may seem “noble” but it’s not what aligns you with your well-being. Others may consider you noble for sacrificing yourself, but your life will always reflect a lot struggle and lack. You would have heard people saying – “I am such a good person but I always seem to attract negativity”, it’s because their notion of goodness is to sacrifice their joy and of course such a notion is a direct prescription for attract lack. Sacrifice is not what brings well-being, and if you are doing something with the mindset of “sacrifice” you will always keep feeling like a victim, holding onto suppressed resentment/anger, which directly keeps attracting realities of struggle.
The only reason you should do something is because it feels like an “inspiration” for you to do so, or it makes you feel good, and by inspiration I mean it’s truly coming from a place of inner guidance/joy. When you are moving from a place of inspiration you are always moving from a place of joy. Of course, your actions may seem like a “sacrifice” to the outside (people can interpret it any way they want) but you don’t find it to be a sacrifice because it’s just a movement of inspiration for you – for example, taking care of someone you feel connected to, is not an act of sacrifice, it’s an act of joy for you, but it may seem like a sacrifice to the outside. Another example is working on a project that you feel passionate about to which you devote your time/energy, it may seem like a sacrifice to the outside but for you it’s just a movement of inspiration/joy. It doesn’t matter what the outside is thinking, or how it’s interpreting you, what matters is how you feel about what you are doing – do you feel like you are sacrificing yourself or do you feel like you are living your joy? That’s the only question that matters.