You can sense that in spite of being surrounded by billions of living beings you are still inherently alone. This sense of aloneness cannot be helped because you are an individual stream of consciousness; your individual-ness cannot be erased and hence will always create this sense of separateness and thus the feeling of being alone. Of course, life is one space, but this space constantly births into individual streams – just like we don’t call a river an ocean, though it stems from an oceanic body and is inherently connected to it, a river is seen as something “individual” and it’s not an illusion, it’s a reality that there is a separation between various rives though they may all meet at in the same ocean. The concept of “oneness” is true, but so is the truth of separation – people who simply strive for the feeling of oneness are usually the ones who are scared of facing the aloneness of their individuality, of their separation. This fear of an inner aloneness is mostly at the root of dysfunctional neediness, and it’s amazing how deep this fear runs – just when you feel you’ve overcome it you are made to see that you haven’t, until you do.
One of the inherent natures of life-energy is the drive towards new experience. You can see this in yourself, no matter where you reach you inherently have an inclination for something new – of course the other option is “stagnation” which is contrary to your true nature. So, you may first want to let go of this feeling/delusion that you will reach an “end point” one day, there is no such end point. The moment you make peace with the idea of constant growth your perspective towards life is a lot more open. If you have the same understanding that you had a month back, it’s an indication that you’ve closed down in some way. Nothing is seen as a negative when your perspective is rooted in learning or growth, and no-one can learn things for you, it has to be an individual journey.
Living the reality on Earth
Some streams of consciousness have been focused on a journey, in the reality of Earth, for a long time, whereas some streams of consciousness are relatively new, or completely new, to this reality (they either come from a different star system to experience the reality on Earth or they are just newly created streams of consciousness from an older stream of consciousness). You can know this in your own experience, for example, some people feel totally out of place in this reality of Earth – they have a feeling that they just don’t belong here and they find it extremely difficult to fit in (they are usually called the “introverts”). While there are others who fit in with ease, as if they have been doing this for a while now, they just seem to find their way around comfortably and engage effortlessly with the surroundings/society (they are usually called the “extroverts”). The only difference between an extrovert and an introvert is that the former is at ease with this reality while the latter is finding it hard to fit in – the introvert is like the new kid in the class, who has come from a different country.
Basically, the reason you choose to come into a physical reality (as a human) is for new experiences. What’s the point of new experience? Because there is nothing else to do, the other option is “nothingness” which is death and is contrary to life, life is never dead. So instead asking “what’s the point”, start garnering the perspective of your nature, which is to always move towards a new experience. The reality of Earth affords a ton load of experience – for one it has a plethora of species and several elements of nature, which make for a lot of sensory experiences, but most importantly, it has the “human race” with the two sexes, the male and the female – one being way more complex to understand than the other (your guess is as good as mine as to which one is more complex). Whether you’ve taken on a male body or a female body, just to understand your own body is going to be a stupendous experience in itself, but that’s just the beginning, beyond that is to understand the play of emotions, the deal of the mind, to understand the outside including other bodies/humans, to understand how to function together, and basically, gain an understanding of how to create a positive experience of your journey here.
The deal is that you will be making your journey with the aid of this physical vehicle you call your body. Without an understanding of your own body, it can get pretty difficult to work with it. A lot of us just get embroiled into living the reality from the word go, pushed around by outside influence, and before you know it you are in mid-life, and you feel as if you’ve lived your life in a daze without ever coming to terms with yourself first. It’s also possible that you were clinging to a certain person, or family, as your support system, and suddenly this person/community is no longer around, and you are put in a position to deal with this reality on your own accord. Usually these moments instigate an sudden hike in your awareness, almost as a survival necessity. This awareness causes you to make a journey towards finding alignment in this reality. One of the most important alignment you would need to make is to align with your own body/mind/heart – for example, your mind/brain (of the body) is designed to operate in Earth’s reality, whereas “you” (being the consciousness focused in this body) may not have much experience of living on Earth, in which case a lot of syncing up needs to get done. It’s not about fighting the mind, or trying to get rid of it, it’s about syncing up with it, and understanding its necessity/role in your present journey on Earth. If you don’t develop an “understanding” relationship with your mind, you just end up having a hard time dealing with your own body let alone dealing with the outside.
Working with your mind
The start towards finding alignment in this physical reality is through the attitude of working “with” your mind – the keyword is “with” and not against. For that, you need to first understand that you are not the mind, you and the mind are two different entities, two different intelligences – the mind is a machine created for the reality of Earth, you are not a machine but a consciousness (who has had a past). What’s called a “moment of awakening” is simply this one moment when you suddenly realize that you are not the mind – it’s a very personal realization, you cannot just use this as a concept to live by, you need to sense this in yourself for yourself. The mind/brain is also made of “consciousness”, each cell in the body is made of life-energy and hence is conscious, but they are all physical constructs with a certain design/programming. For example, the brain is capable of being aware in the sense that it has the capacity to “interpret” and distinguish, there are different areas in the brain taking care of different forms of sensory perception – this perception can also be called “mind awareness”. On the other hand, you, as the consciousness focused in this body, is also capable of being “aware” – so your awareness and the mind’s awareness are both playing out in this body.
Since you are a stream of consciousness, who’s had a past, your awareness is colored by your past also. So, if for instance, your past journeys were on a different star system, your awareness is more adapted to those realms, and when you find yourself in this realm of Earth, you can feel “out of place”. Now you need to realize that your “mind” is your ally for your journey here, and the sooner you sync up with your mind the better it is for your own experience of well-being. To give a generic example, if your past was in a star system where the dark nature was fully suppressed and inhabitants where fully light-natured, you may have a very hard time dealing with the dark nature of the human mind – also, if your past got you acquainted mostly with the dark nature, you may have a hard time syncing with the light nature of the human mind. In fact, a good reason for you to be making this journey on Earth would be for bringing a balance for yourself.
What we call being “overly sensitive” is mostly an indication that you, as the consciousness, is not able to sync up with a certain aspect of humanness, especially in your own mind. Actually, there are two things at play, the mind could be in an imbalance and requires a balance, secondly you could be in imbalance and require a balance. The problem with a lot of conventional spirituality (and psychology) is that it only focuses on the imbalance of the mind, while taking for granted the consciousness (you) in this body is already balanced – which is usually never the case. In fact, this interplay between the mind’s imbalance and the imbalance of the consciousness focused in the body, is what makes it so difficult to just use “techniques”, or chemicals, to resolve the imbalance – an “understanding” is what really works towards bringing a balance, not a blind practice. The state of “allowing” (Read the post – Reaching a place of total allowing) is about letting go of resistance to what is, so that you can start “seeing” clearly, and so that you can be “receptive” to understandings coming from within and outside – if you are busy fighting within, you can never be open to an understanding.
You will notice that some people are naturally aligned with their mind, whereas some have a hard time dealing with it – this is basically because of the difference in the “consciousness”/being focused in the body, the former has had enough experience in this reality to be in sync with it, the latter is relatively new to this reality. I can also use the label “soul” to define the consciousness focused in the body, it’s just that the word “soul” has a hundred different misconceptions already present which can create a resistance to towards the understanding – “being” is a better label because it has much less resistance in the mind. We are called human beings because of the two aspects present in the body – the human body and the being. The being needs to find a separation from the mind, so that it can connect/sync with the space of life within, but it also needs to bring a sync with the mind to ensure a positive physical journey on Earth – so it’s a two way sync up that’s needed. There are posts where I talk about connecting with your inner space which is one part of the sync, and then there are posts where I talk about aligning with your mind which is another part of the sync – when both are in place, you become receptive to the necessary “movement”, and understanding, to reach a balance.
Dealing with relationships
We all feel a need for a support system, it’s very natural. Support system is needed for three reasons – for physical reasons, for “mental” reasons, for spirit/soul reasons. Physical intimacy, including sex, is a basic desire in the human mind and becomes the primary “physical” reason for a support system. A desire for mental compatibility, where you can discuss ideas/imaginations/insights of the same wavelength, is another basic desire in the mind and it becomes the driving force to find a matching support system. A desire for emotional connection comes from your soul/being, as well as your mind/heart, beings need to connect as much as the minds – in some people we find a “being” connection but don’t find a mind connection, and this can create a lot of heart-ache, in some others we find a mind connection but don’t find a “being” connection which again leads to a lot inner conflict, we don’t want to leave them and yet we see something lacking.
What’s called a highly compatible relationship is the one where you find a mind connection, physical connection (ex, matching sex drives) and being/soul connection – the more aligned your mind, body and soul are (within you), the more likely you are to find compatible support system(s). That’s why the primary relationship you need to build is with yourself, if you are in conflict within yourself, you can’t help but attract a conflicted relationship outside – the degree of conflict varies depending on the degree of conflict within. We are the happiest when we find a compatible support system, mostly because only through a compatible support system can the mind’s basic human desires be fulfilled, and the being’s need to appreciation be fulfilled (the very play of life is rooted in its desire for self-realization and self-appreciation). And such a compatible support system is brought into your reality as you find an inner sync – this is in tune with the principle of law of attraction that operates in life-energy.
Relationships are the most “intimate mirrors” of our inner conflict. This is one reason why relationships can be a huge cause of suffering, when there is a lack of inner balance and understanding; the degree of suffering varying with the degree of imbalance. For example, you may find a real compatibility with someone at a mental and emotional level, however he/she may not be physically compatible with you (may not match your sexual requirements), in which case there can be turmoil over how to proceed with the relationship especially if you, or your partner, or both, lack an understanding of dealing with your sexual nature. In this society, it’s considered totally normal to find “mind connection” (or even emotional connection) outside your committed relationship, but considered “immoral”, or unethical, to find sexual connection outside it – the definitions of “cheating” always hold more for our sexual overtures than our tendency to find emotional/mental connection outside our partner, which is basically nothing but a limited way of thinking, or a hang up. I agree, it’s not an easy hang up to overcome (due to severe conditioning), but any hang up is always a cause of suffering in some way. The ideal situation may be that you find all three connections with the same partner, but in many cases such a situation may not even be possible as per design.
The more you come to terms with your body, and your being nature, the more likely you are to respect/accept your preferences and thus find relationships that are compatible towards living them. You will notice that if you are aligned with a certain preference of yours, you will find someone who is also accepting of it – it’s all an inner work first. There is really no need, or necessity, to live a suppressed life with respect to any of the connections. You should be able to find, and enjoy, support system(s) that allow for the expression/experience of all three connections once you sync up within yourself on these three levels. Life is not lackful, it’s just that it can’t give you what you are not aligned with – it can’t give you abundance when you are aligned with lack. “Being yourself” is about syncing up with all three aspects of you in your present “avatar” – your body, your mind and you as the being. Remember that it’s always an individual journey for you, you can’t get away with just copying others; if you try to copy others you are bound to find severe conflicts with yourself – observe others, learn from others, but use this information to sync up with yourself, don’t just copy them blindly.
Another issue is the pain of loss. A physical connection can be strong, but not as strong as an emotional connection created through a mind/heart connection or soul connection. Separation, for whatever reason, is bound to create a lot of stress in the mind and heart, mostly because the mind/heart continues staying connected with the person (through heart and brain memory) you were close with and the physical absence can thus be painful – your “being” can meet with the being of this person (during sleep states in non-physical) but your mind feels the pain of not being able to see the physical presence of this person as the heart continues to stay connected. Dealing with intensity of such “human” feelings can be a very new experience for some beings, and there can be a lot of confusion as a result. It can take a while to come to terms with these feelings, also you will notice that “experienced beings” can handle these feelings much more easily than the ones who are relatively new to this realm. There is really no short-cut to finding relief from such feelings, the only deal is to bring awareness to them and slowly come to terms with them, until you are no longer stigmatized, or paralyzed, by it, and can have the space to allow the mind momentum to reduce.
Dealing with finances
The reason why some people have a hard time with finances is mostly because they may be resistant within to the concept of the monetary system on Earth. Here again, if you, as a being, are not experienced in dealing with such systems in your past, then you are bound to have some teething troubles adapting to this reality on Earth. You will notice some human beings are highly comfortable dealing with money, they seem to have a natural acumen for finances, working with banks, investments and other financial systems, while others are starkly scared, and resistant, to the scene of the monetary system here. If you notice that in your “being” you are somehow resistant to the idea of money, it would behoove you to bring yourself in sync with this reality on Earth so that you don’t end up facing a deficit through your own resistance. If you want to enjoy certain realities on Earth, you need to have money, or else you will feel highly limited in your movement. If you are internally opposed to money, you will naturally be hard on money most of the time, in sync with the law of attraction.
You may be aligned with many aspects of your mind and being, but you may still be disconnected with the idea of money and hence would see some form of deficit constantly playing out in your reality, even if you have an overall well-being going on. It’s not important that you try to engage in financial systems like stocks or other investments (if that’s not your liking), but you need to be open to allowing money in through the channels best suited for you – different people have different channels that are suited for allowing money in their reality, it’s not necessary for you to follow the channel chosen by someone else. You can also be open to attracting a support system who can work with you on the matters of finance. The basic deal is not be opposed to money, within you, and to not, constantly, be thinking negatively about it – for example, some people make it a habit to continually bicker about money, and this leads to an inner resistance towards allowing a free flow of it.
Attracting financial abundance is a journey of alignment on its own which includes dealing with the fear of success, the guilt of materialistic living, the thought-patterns of lack and attracting the right support systems. It’s not uncommon for money to be seen negatively by the “spiritual minded” which ends up becoming a limiting thought/belief. The simple fact is that money is an integral aspect of reality on Earth and as a being interested in “new experiences” you should be more than willing to experience attracting financial abundance – don’t use spirituality as a cop out. One of the main aspects of any journey is to enjoy the various attractions and experiences offered by it, and one of the experiences one can have on the reality of Earth is that of money making and the various attractions brought through it. The more open you are to this experience, the more you will attract it. It’s also important to let go of various beliefs created in the mind towards holding a struggle-based stance towards money making – using your awareness to let go of your limiting beliefs will allow you to be resistance-free towards a struggle-free inflow of money.
An individual journey with universal support
You are the same life-energy as everything, and hence you are in your home domain all the time. You have guides in your non-physical and you have the power to attract your reality in the physical. By your very nature you can allow a solution to any problem if you can simply be open to receiving a solution – focus on allowing a solution instead of focusing on the problem, your focus is what determines your receptivity. You have universal support if you are open to it, the more resistance-free you are in your being the more easily guidance can come through. It’s best to let go of feelings of bitterness, animosity, cynicism and anger towards life, irrespective of the reasons you may have for holding them – these feelings will only keep you from being fully available to the support from the universe, including your own guides. Guides are simply streams of consciousness, many of whom are highly experienced, who enjoy the prospect of guiding you in your growth path, orchestrating things for you when you are allowing of this assistance (by letting go of your resistance/negativity).
The more you adapt to a certain reality the more you enjoy that reality. As you gain more understanding of your mind, of your body, of your being nature, of law of attraction and of the specific realities on Earth (such as the monetary system and equation of human relationships) the more comfortable, and abundant, you find your experience to be. You have to learn at your pace, that’s all you can do, and so it’s important to learn to be easy on yourself. In any case, the journey is the destination, there is no “end point”. Once you develop the attitude of learning instead of holding the attitude of defending, or holding onto, negativity you are assured to have seamless growth and thus become receptive to positive experiences on a constant basis. This physical body is what you have, temporarily, for this present journey, you call your human existence on Earth, and you need to make the best of it as it is, for as long as it lasts – understanding the body/mind is a big aspect of experiencing physical life as is using it for your interaction and engagement with the outside.