If you notice, it’s not the negative thoughts that are the problem but the “feeling” it generates that causes suffering. Feelings are linked with thoughts because a feeling is generated by whether a thought is in resistance to your life stream or if it’s aligned with it. If a thought is in resistance to your life stream it creates a “bad feeling”, when it’s in alignment it creates a good feeling. Also, when you are free of thoughts you automatically dwell in your natural vibration which is akin to a feeling of calm joy/peace.
When a negative thought has a lot of momentum, it can create “severe” resistance and thus create overwhelming feeling of suffering, as compared to a thought which lacks momentum. When your mind, as a whole, ebbs away in momentum, as you stay as a space of “passive awareness” allowing it to run out of fuel, you will notice that its negative thoughts don’t have the same “punch” any more, they don’t create any intense feelings in you – this allows you to experience your natural vibration of joy in an unhindered manner. It’s like becoming free from a prison created by the mind.
A fearful mind with high momentum creates intense suffering
Some minds are way more prone to fear than other minds owing to their very make-up. Such a mind keeps hinging on fear no matter what the circumstances are, even in relatively pleasant surroundings/life-situations. It will find any reason to fear, sometimes even reasons which lack logic of any form. If you are born with such a mind and when your awareness becomes lost in such a mind, you unconsciously fuel its momentum through identification. A fearful mind with a strong momentum becomes extremely dysfunctional owing to the powerful resistance it creates in your life stream, leading to intense feelings of emotional suffering.
Even in the animal kingdom you will observe that some animals are naturally brave while some are naturally meek/fearful. This is because of the natural make-up of their brain, or rather their body’s genetic make-up as a whole. In the same way, some humans are naturally more fearless, their brain’s make-up allows them to stay free of a lot of fears – they may also be less prone to emotional dependence and would not exhibit over-sensitive behaviors. It’s totally futile to try to change a mind’s natural make-up because it’s hard-wired, like an internal coding – anyone with a fearful mind who has tried to change it into a brave mind knows what a losing battle it is, you can pretend for a while but sooner or later your mind will exhibit its natural make-up.
Is it unfair to be dealt a fearful mind?
It may seem that a fearless brain (or a brain less prone to fear) would be the “ideal” brain to have, because it seems to allow for a more pleasant life experience. But in truth, an unconscious mind always lacks “wisdom” and its fearlessness can lead it to commit acts that may have negative reflections (a fearless mind does not automatically become a “hate free” mind). So it’s not whether a mind is fearful or fearless that makes for a life of well-being, it’s your level of consciousness that matters.
Moreover, diversity is inherent in our physicality, and in the absence of a diversity of minds, and different natural make-ups of the mind, there is no diversity in experience. The very reason for manifesting physicality is for consciousness to have a variety of “experiences” in various forms. So a fearful mind is just one “flavor” of diversity created by the intent of consciousness to experience life in a unique way. A human possessing a fearful mind may find this extremely unfair, and would rather prefer to have been born with a more fearless mind, but such a human would need to realize the potential that his/her mind has to awaken, and also the unique expression, and experience, that it brings forth, especially after awakening.
Also from the absolute perspective, there is no question of fairness or unfairness, because it’s all the “one consciousness” taking different forms – when there is just “one”, who is unfair to whom? If you have a fearful mind, take it as a blessing that allows you to wake up to your true nature in your wholeness, thus embarking on a totally new experience of life.
A human with a fearful mind has a greater chance of awakening
Jesus was implying to this truth when he said – “the meek shall inherit the kingdom of God”. What he meant was a person with a meek mind (or a fearful mind) is who is more likely to let go of it and awaken to his/her truth as the universal being, and thus become privy to their natural vibration of joy. Is it not true that it’s easier to “awaken” from sleep when you are having a nightmare than when you are having a pleasant dream? If Buddha did not have a strongly fearful mind (that got terribly scared when it saw disease and old age), he wouldn’t have gone on to seek enlightenment to be free of the suffering. Some might argue saying that it’s better to have a pleasant dream than to wake up through a night mare – but such a person does not recognize the difference between the experience of being “awakened” and being unconsciously lost in the mind.
A person with a strong mind (a fearless mind) might be lost in his/her mind for a lifetime without ever awakening to their true identity – they may seem to have a good life, but their experience is one of a “sleeping dream”. What would you prefer – a sweet dream while you are lost in sleep or to create a dream in your wakeful state? When you are awake, the experience of life is totally different than when you are asleep – after awakening you will continue to create realities (metaphorically dream realities) but your experience will be totally different than when you were lost in the mind, more over there would be “wisdom” in your movements unlike when you are unconsciously pulled around by the mind. The experience of living life in an awakened manner is totally different from the experience of living life unconsciously.
You can’t change your mind’s natural make-up, but you can change your experience
When you awaken to your truth, your position of reference changes from being identified with the mind to resting as a space of awareness. This causes the mind to lose its power over your vibration. The mind continues to be fearful, but now you are no longer fueling it with your “focused” attention, as you stay as a space of passive awareness. Within a few months the mind no longer has the old intensity to it because it’s no longer getting its fuel from your “attention”. Slowly, and surely, the mind starts losing its momentum until it becomes very subtle and silent – and what starts to operate is the intelligence of the wholeness of your being. Also, when the mind loses its momentum you no longer have any intense feelings in you because there is no strong resistance anymore. As you merge more into your “spaciousness”, you find a permanence in your natural vibration which starts feeling like a calm joy which is undeterred by the mind’s movements as they don’t have much intensity.
When your awareness dis-identifies with the mind it automatically loses its power or intensity, it no longer disturbs your vibration, it no longer touches your being. Also, a balance starts coming into the mind, which allows for a positive expression of all the dimensions present in it. The natural make-up of your mind is retained for a life-time, but in a place of conscious balance it’s never a problem – there are six dimensions in the mind (joy, fear, boredom, hatred, love, sexuality) and every dimension has some positive aspects to contribute. For example, a mind’s whose natural make-up is to have a dominant fear dimension, when in balance allows for the positive aspects of this dimension like sincerity, humility and devotion while being free of imbalance/over-whelming fear identification. Imbalance in fear happens only when one is “unconsciously” lost in it. The mind can have its natural make-up while not being a problem to your being, because now it’s in a balance.