I received quite a few mails in response to the post – Dark nature and light nature in humans, wanting an in-depth insight into the dark natured mind, so in this post I will go into a more detailed description of the various behavior patterns present in dark natured humans. Before I get into the details, it’s important that I clarify that a dark natured mind is never 100% dark natured – it has a good percentage of light nature in it too, and the percentage varies from person to person (like 70% dark with 30% light, or 60% dark with 40% light or sometimes 90% dark with 10% light etc). I would categorize a mind as dark natured if it has a higher percentage of dark nature in it compared to light nature.
Some mails I received, were from people who were confused because they could see strong dark natured behavior in them but also the presence of several light natured behaviors, so they were wondering if they were dark natured or light natured – one needs to bring a deep awareness to the natural make-up of their mind to really gauge the percentage of dark nature and light nature present in it, and thus know the nature that’s dominant in them. None of this is to “label” the mind but so that you can start “accepting” the natural make-up of your mind and stop fighting with it.
You can’t change the natural make-up of your brain
It’s important to understand that no matter how rooted you are in awareness, it’s not possible to change the intrinsic design of your mind/brain, the natural make-up (or wiring) of the brain remains the same through out your lifetime. Awareness allows you to let go of “fighting” your brain, and brings a field of wisdom that operates in conjunction with your brain’s natural movement.
In a conscious being, there is no “suppression”, rather the mind has the freedom to be itself, under the conscious field of awareness, which prevents any “untoward”, or unwise, actions to come forth. Dark natured mind, when aligned with, does not attract a negative reality – it’s the guilt, misunderstanding, non-acceptance and hang-ups created through unconscious suppression of such a mind (by the individual and the people around him/her) that leads to inner conflicts, and resistance, which manifests as negative realities for such a human. When a human is aligned, consciously, with his/her dark natured mind, it operates in harmony and does not create negative realities for the person involved.
A lot of dark natured people are stuck trying to “change” their mind because they feel there is something “wrong” about it. Most of these people, when they enter into spirituality, work on using techniques like meditation to “suppress” their mind which ultimately makes them a “hung up” person more than a liberated person. In one sense they are trying run away from themselves because they feel there is something wrong about them. This is mostly because as a child they are made to feel “bad” about themselves for exhibiting their natural behavior and they also saw the behavior of some “light natured” kids being applauded, which caused them to feel that there was something “wrong” with them. This how they start suppressing or disconnecting from their natural make-up and start living a life of inner conflict, trying to “fit in” for a lifetime.
Ultimately, it’s not possible to escape the natural make-up of your mind. You can spend a life-time of trying to avoid yourself or you can bring a harmony into your reality by aligning with your mind in all its naturalness. The awakening of “awareness” creates a space of wisdom, and you can fearlessly allow full freedom to your mind’s movements from this place of consciousness. Rest assured that you will not end up taking any “unwise” actions that can cause suffering to you or others when you are moving from this place of awareness.
A detailed explanation of some common behaviors in dark natured minds are listed below
Anger in the dark natured mind
Dark natured humans are prone to anger way more than light natured humans. Most of this anger does not stem from “fear” but from their proclivity to irritation. Dark natured humans have strong patterns of impatience present in their mind, and they are less likely to have an “adjusting” nature – this causes them to get irritated quite soon. This irritation is what gets manifested as anger. It’s not about suppressing this energy of “anger” that wells up within, but to actually allow it the space to course through your being without resistance – anger does not necessarily have to be “expressed” outside for an outlet, most of the times its can easily be allowed an “inner movement” when one is conscious enough.
As a dark natured human, it’s important that you not judge yourself, or feel guilty, for the anger that you constantly feel. Just allow the energy of anger to move freely through you without any resistance created through judgments. Don’t suppress the anger but also stay in conscious awareness of it as it emerges, this will ensure that you don’t do something “unwise” under the pull of this energy while also not suppressing its movement. As I mentioned earlier, it’s not necessary to project anger on someone outside you to release it – as a conscious being you can simply allow the inner movement of the energy, and if you find it too strong you can release it through some physical activity.
The intensity of your anger will reduce as you stay as a space of awareness, allowing the movement of your mind. As the momentum of negativity within you starts ebbing away, through conscious dis-identification, you will notice that your anger fizzes away more quickly and it does not have a high intensity to it, and it does not go too deeply into your being. Your mind, by its nature, will produce anger now and then, but as the energy of negativity within you ebbs away, as you become more rooted in your awareness, it won’t have the “anchor” to really intensify itself.
Hatred in the dark natured mind
Any dark natured human would attest that it’s not easy for him/her to be really “loving” all the time. Patterns of possessiveness, coldness, jealousy, competitiveness, spite and skeptism are very dominant in a dark natured mind – one can call these patterns of “hate”. That’s why it’s even more important for a dark natured human to be more conscious, because these patterns can easily become “points of attraction” of negative reality when allowed an unconscious expression.
A conscious human being, who is dark natured, is able to see through these patterns in their mind and thus stay dis-identified from them even if it keeps arising in their thought space. This dis-identification causes the ebbing away of the intensity of these patterns and it stops influencing their vibration. However, the dark natured mind will always be prone to “hate” based thoughts, and you can see this as an “innocence” in the mind if you stay as a witness of it in your position as relaxed awareness. (conscious dis-identification is not the same as suppression, because when you are consciously dis-identified you allow the mind it’s movement while staying as a space of awareness which keeps you rooted in wisdom – you don’t suppress the mind’s movements or shut it up).
Dark natured minds are more protective of themselves, and usually are not easy to make friends with. They are prone to be suspicious and non-trusting, until they really get to know someone closely enough. In fact, it’s very common for a dark natured mind to be untrusting of life, and feel as if they need to fend themselves against the universe. However, in the wisdom of awareness, a dark natured mind learns to trust life and becomes more prone to believing in the well-being that abounds in the movement of their life-stream. But, it’s not possible to completely erase the “un-friendly” nature of a dark natured mind, it will always prefer to keep “distance” to getting chummy easily. There is nothing wrong with this behavior, it’s just a trait, and when you become aligned with yourself you no longer feel bad about not being too friendly in your nature.
Desires of a dark natured mind
Most dark natured minds have highly “personal” desires, focused on their own “inner circle”. Very rarely is a dark natured person focused on desiring at a society or global level. The only time they would focus on a societal, or global, issue is when they are affected by it in their personal reality. From a narrow perspective, you can say that dark natured people are very “selfish” in their behavior, and very self-centered in their thoughts – and a lot of light natured people may even feel that this is a “negative” trait but that’s just their “perspective”, from an absolute perspective there is nothing negative about a selfish attitude – in fact, their selfish attitude allows for the manifestation of some rich realities that bring abundance to the society in an indirect way.
It’s common for dark natured people to feel guilty about their self-centered desires wondering if they should be more “altruistic” in their mindset. This pattern of “guilt” based thinking creates a lot of conflict in their being. As a dark natured human you need to accept your selfish nature and align with it completely in a conscious way. The presence of awareness ensures that you don’t exploit anyone to meet your desires, rather you stay in a space of “allowing” and let life orchestrate events in a manner that creates a harmonious manifestation of your desires. There nothing wrong with highly self-centered desires, just align with them in a conscious manner and understand that you don’t have to “fight” with the outside to manifest what you want – allow life to orchestrate events for you in a smooth manner which will ensure that you experience your desired realities without creating suffering for others, or yourself.
Sexuality in a dark natured mind
It’s my understanding that dark natured minds have a higher sex drive compared to light natured minds. It’s important for a dark natured human to accept, and align, with this wiring in their physicality and not enter into any mode of suppression. Dark natured humans who grow up in highly orthodox religious backgrounds develop severe patterns of guilt with respect to their sexuality which causes them to suppress this expression in their mind – this suppression leads to an “inner violence”, and conflict, which can manifest externally in some very dysfunctional manner.
It’s quite common for dark natured minds to be more “perverted” in their sexual fantasies – you need to accept this wiring in your mind and stop feeling “dirty” about yourself for having such inclinations in your thoughts – it’s just your mind fantasizing. However, an “extremely” unconscious dark natured human can get pulled around by the excessive drives of the mind, resulting in some unwise/negative sexual expression that can cause suffering to others and themselves. That’s why it’s essential to bring a space of awareness to your mind to ensure that there is a wisdom in its movements.
Also as awareness deepens in a dark natured human, it’s easier for him/her to channel their sexual energy in a manner that benefits their wholistic well-being (you can read the post – “channel your sexual energy” to understand how “awareness” allows the containment of this energy so that you don’t feel like a prisoner to your sexual drives). It’s common for dark natured humans to feel guilty of their sexuality which usually manifests in them attracting partners who end up being “critical” of their sexual drives. When you are aligned/accepting of yourself, you will naturally attract a partner who accepts/appreciates you as you are, and finds a compatibility with your drives.
Introverted behavior in dark natured humans
A good majority of dark natured humans are quite introverted in their movement. They prefer their “private” space more than being in around the public. Dark natured humans are rarely the “life of the party” and prefer keeping to their space even in the midst of a social gathering. It feels very uncomfortable to a dark natured mind to be the center of attention, and that’s one reason why a lot of dark natured artists have a challenging time fighting with their internal drive to “perform” and their discomfort with being the center of attention. It takes a lot of “consciousness” to dig through the resistances of the mind and allow the expression of their art.
As a dark natured human it’s important that you align with the introverted nature of your mind without fighting it. Being introverted does not prevent you from being a good leader, a good speaker, a good communicator or being a good team player – even if none of this feels at “home” to your mind. This is why it’s important to be rooted in the wisdom of your wholeness, so that you are not totally dominated by the mind’s resistances.
Sometimes it’s important to move despite the fears of the mind so that you can manifest certain desired realities that are essential to your being – the space of wisdom present in awareness allows you to create a gap of dis-identification with the mind’s fears so that you are not hindered in your movement towards manifesting your desired reality. (For example, you may desire to be musician and would love to be appreciated for your music, but the dark natured behavior of your mind creates fear against performing to a crowd – in such cases it becomes pertinent that you let go of being identified with your mind’s fears to allow your expression to unfold).