The difference between someone who leads a “reactive” life and someone who is conscious of his/her ability to attract reality (their potential for creation) is that the former lives in compromises while the latter always stands true to his/her heart’s choice. I am using “heart” as a metaphor here, by heart’s choice I mean the choice/desire that truly resonates with your inner being. To stand true to your heart’s choice is not an “idealistic” way of living, it’s a very scientific, and reality based, way of living. Whether you know it or not, the universe is purely responding to your inner choices, it scientifically can’t do otherwise because your choices define what you believe, and you can only see what you believe – so when you make a choice to live a life of compromises, that’s exactly the life you will see in your reality and when you make a choice to live a life free of compromises that’s exactly the way your reality will shape out, it’s very precise and there is no getting around your responsibility of making this choice.
Standing true to your heart’s choice is an attitude, it can either be developed through an understanding of the science of life (as it happened in my case) or it can happen unconsciously due to an upbringing that encouraged healthy self-love. The bottom-line is that when you make a commitment to stand true to your heart’s desire/choice, the universe unequivocally responds to this signal from you and yields, in essence, whatever your heart’s desired reality is. Very few people actually make this commitment because it’s far easier to just give in to the outside pressure, to just mold yourself to fit in with your family’s/society’s expectation of you, to numb your inner voice in the name of “practicality”. The truth is that you only need to make/show this commitment initially (just enough to make your stand clear to the universe), after that your life will start shaping around this choice and then you don’t have to keep making this choice, it just becomes your natural state – living in alignment or living out of alignment are both are a matter of choice.
Seeing through the belief system of compromised living
The initial commitment is usually the toughest. You may be in a reality that’s highly incongruent with your heart’s desire, and the pressure of survival causes you to hold on to this reality and keep making compromises. Your mind will tell you that your compromises are essential for your survival and convince you that compromises is what life is about – simply because that’s the model of life you see the majority of people around you living. The cost of living in compromises is that at best you end up with a mediocre life which lacks any form of real love or passion. We also buy into the mindset of compromises from early childhood under the influence of several adages handed over to us, such as
– A bird in hand is better than two in the bushes
– It’s not about getting what you love, it’s about loving what you get
– The grass always seems greener on the other side (so basically compromise with what you have going)
There are many other adages along these lines, that seem innocuous on the face value but have the capacity to create severely limiting belief systems in the mind – a belief in a compromised life. We are also often told – “Nothing in life is perfect, so learn to compromise”. The truth is that what your heart desires is “perfect” for you, and if your choice is to always stand true to your heart’s desire/choice/instinct you will always move towards a life that’s perfect/congruent for you – so there is such a thing called perfection in life, it’s just that very few have the courage to follow their heart and would rather take refuge in an attitude of compromise. There is no such thing as a standard of “perfection” in this universe, but there is such a thing as what is perfect for “you” and you can always live the life that’s perfect for you, if you make a choice to do so. Bring some awareness to your mind and you can see how you may be unconsciously buying its arguments/beliefs/ideologies towards living a compromised life and believing it to be true – you never question these beliefs because you “think” that’s the normal way to live, simply because most people around you are doing that.
An inner commitment towards a compromise free life
The first step towards making a choice towards a compromise free life is to see through you mind’s arguments towards compromise. You have to be clear within yourself that you don’t want a life of compromises, that you want to stand true to your heart from here on – this choice is not a “feeble” one, it’s a highly significant and life changing one, and it will create ripples in your present reality, it will create cracks and changes in its fiber towards the creation of a new reality. It’s true that your physical reality cannot change immediately and for a while you may have to live in your old reality (created through a compromising mindset), what important is to stay true to inner choice of desiring a compromise free life – this inner choice is what makes the difference towards shifting your reality.
When you make this inner choice clear, with time (may be in a few days or a week or so), you will see some evidence/opportunity/event that happens that calls forth for you to take a physical action towards this choice – a lot of people back off when this “challenge” arise because now you have to make your choice evident to the outside. For example, you may have a project at your job that your heart is not into, it comes to your desk and the management is asking you to do it, this is the “challenge” which can open the door for you towards a new reality depending on how you react to it – if you stand by your choice of staying true to your heart’s desire, you will say no to the project (you will not compromise) and the consequences will be in the direction of this choice, possibly you may get fired, and you retain your inner choice (you don’t panic by believing your mind’s projections of doom). Getting fired may seem like a negative to the mind, but this was the “crack” needed to move you into your desired reality, and your staying true to your commitment of following your heart’s desire/instinct allowed you to move through this crack and hence you step into the welcome mat of your desired reality (you may not see it yet, but you’ve taken a significant step towards it and set the energy into motion towards the unfolding of your desired reality).
As you can see, it’s not easy to make the initial commitment when it’s required in “action”, mostly because the action is like a solid step, it’s basically like burning the bridges behind you – it either requires a blind trust in life or an understanding-based trust in life, it doesn’t matter as long as you have this trust. A lot of people fail to make their commitment clear, when the universe presently them with an opportunity to do so, through their action. Opportunities will keep coming but you may back off every time because you don’t yet have the courage to trust life, to trust that your heart’s desire is important to your life-stream and it has the intelligence to make it manifest. Your mind cannot trust your life-stream’s intelligence because it does not get an immediate “assurance” about the future, but if you can understand that your life-stream’s intelligence is far superior to your mind’s limited/conditioned intelligence you will learn to respect it more than trusting your mind’s fear-based arguments.
Some people live through “blind faith”, some people need to acquire a faith in life – I don’t have a “blind” faith in life, I developed this faith/trust through a scientific understanding of how creation works in life; in fact I would not even say that I sit in “trust”, or faith, towards life, I actually stay in a “knowing” of my life-stream’s intelligence, a knowing developed through a scientific observation of life, it started with a quest to understand reality of life “as it is” without wanting to believe anything on blind faith, but that’s just me.
A compromise free life is not difficult
On the contrary, once you settle into a reality of a compromise free life you realize the sense of “effortless” existence, where things seem to keep falling in place without requiring any struggle from you. It’s only the initial choice/commitment which feels difficult and challenging because it requires you to make your stand clear to the outside (and thus to the universe), and that requires some courage. A lot of people want to live a compromise free life, but when life provides them with an opportunity to make their choice evident to the outside, they always back off because they don’t trust life enough to make the choice – they fear that they would get abandoned and be alone if they did not continue with their compromising attitude.
None of this is a “pep talk”, this is actually the life I live, or rather the life that I choose to live. It’s definitely not the way I lived in the past, back when I was just moving in an unconscious daze of reactive living. It was not easy to make this choice initially, there were a lot of fears in the mind, and the first step for me was to reduce the mind momentum and release the past accumulation of negativity in the body, but even this was a choice – it required me to make a choice towards letting go of holding on to the mind’s fears internally. There were several times when I had to stand true to my inner choice, to follow my heart, against what seemed like an intense outside pressure to comply – I kept making this choice by not giving in to the fears of the mind, I would be kidding myself if I say it was “easy”, it wasn’t, sometimes it was starkly scary to do so, it’s something you are “alone” with. What helped was that I had acquired a scientific knowing of how creation works in life, and this understanding allowed me to stand true to my choice of following my heart’s desire/instinct. With time, reality started shaping into complying with my choice and now it’s just a forward momentum towards a compromise free life. Now, this choice feels natural to me and there is hardly any outside pressure that I feel, it’s like I’ve settled into a different reality, a reality free of compromises, and this reality is gaining momentum, feels like a new life.
I would possibly be writing about my personal experiences, with this journey towards a compromise free life, in a greater detail, in some future posts, with examples from my life, if anything so that it can serve as an evidence of the practicality, and reality, of this way of living. Frankly, I’ve barely been on this journey for a year and I’ve seen huge positive changes in my reality, they feel highly significant to me, most of them are very personal – in fact, I can hardly identify with the person I was when I was living life in an unconscious manner, neither can I identify with the reality I was living back then. The reality I live now is starkly opposite to the reality I was living when I had the mindset of living with compromises, and the momentum of this new reality has just begun for me, it will grow to significant proportions in the coming years.
I can assure you, once you go beyond the initial stage of making the choice, towards a compromise free life, and staying committed to this choice, in your actions, whenever called for, you will soon settle into the momentum of the new reality, after that your reality starts building on itself – making the choice internally, and staying true to it initially, is the significant step. I made this choice after gaining a scientific understanding of life and a lot of introspection, it was not a choice made in blind faith, though there are many who do make this choice on blind faith and their lives are always a living testimony of how effortless, abundant and creative a human life can be. Whether you make this choice on blind faith, or after gaining a scientific understanding of life, or a mixture of both, it doesn’t matter as long as you make the choice.