This is a follow up on my previous post – What are you driven by?
The term “love”, being so widely used for so many different contexts, can create a lot of imagination in the mind about what it means to be “driven by love” – hopefully you don’t imagine this state to indicate some sugar-toned, over-sensitive, “wanting to come across as nice” being, that’s just a person who may be imbalanced in his/her light nature. The simplest way to define a being driven by love is a being who is not driven by fear, hatred, detachment or distraction – when you are no longer motivated by these driving factors, you automatically know that you are being driven by love alone, because that’s all that’s left. And, to not be driven by hatred doesn’t mean you have to be “all loving” towards the outside – it’s just that hatred no longer is your driving force. Being driven by love is just a state of being fearless within to engage in physicality, not trying to detach yourself through some concept of spirituality; it’s also not motivated by wanting to live for entertainment alone.
It would be a misunderstanding to get the impression that you have to “try” to be an “all loving” being, that’s never the point and any one trying to do that is just going to come across as fake. If you don’t try to force yourself to behave in a certain “spiritual” way, you will automatically evolve towards being driven by a fearless, transparent state of being – which is what being driven by love is.
Letting go of being driven by high states
At some point you get over the enticement of high states – it’s like getting over candy (no offence to candy lovers) and developing a well-rounded outlook towards food. To be obsessed with chocolate flavored moments is to be driven purely by joy alone, and though it’s more evolved than being driven by hatred/fear, it’s deeply limiting with respect to your growth as a stream of consciousness wanting to explore life in a greater depth. Of course, one is bound to be obsessed with the lure of the high states, and it’s only through a natural maturity, that comes through the deepening of awareness, that one starts moving beyond this outlook. There is a lot of richness to life that can only be accessed when you let go of your obsession with high states.
Though desire manifestations, and enjoyment of them, is a part of living, there is far more to life than just that. In fact, your ability to create deliberately is far enhanced when you are not making such a big deal out of it. When you are driven by love there is a depth in your being which actually causes you to sense a beauty every moment even when the body is feeling low, or when you energy levels are somber – you sense this beauty because now you are not trying to change this moment into a high state. With all the books being written on law of attraction, and the need to be “high” all the time, a lot of people have become masters at suppressing their body/mind’s natural cycle, trying to pump it into a high state out of fear of manifesting something negative – the usual result is a sudden cycle of fatigue, anxiety towards low states, restlessness and attraction of negativity created by this imbalance.
When you let go of your attempt at forcing positivity, and allow yourself to “experience” the states that naturally arise in your body/mind (whether it be fear, hatred, boredom, sexuality or love) you soon start releasing all the pent up, suppressed, energy and come into a state of inner balance – this state allows you to no longer push against anything, rather you let whatever arises to bring forth the growth, expression, or experience, that it wishes to bring forth. It’s amazing how everything automatically transmutes into a “wholesome” state when you don’t resist it, this state of being non-resistant within, is what it means to be fearless within, and is the state of being driven by love. For example, when you feel a deep hatred towards someone, just allow it fully instead of trying to change it and you will see how it transmutes into some form of a deeper understanding which eventually brings a dissolution to this hatred – allowing does not mean that you are saying “yes” to the mind, it means you are just allowing the mind to be (instead of judging it) and thus are in love relationship with your mind, instead of being in a fear/hate relationship. This love relationship is what ultimately transforms the mind towards a state of balance – again by “love” I just mean a state of allowing, I don’t mean that you have to keep smiling at your mind.
Staying true to your own inspiration
Our physical bodies are not “separate”, floating as independent islands, fending for themselves – we are inherently connected, without any separation, to our non-physical vastness of consciousness. There is no inherent separation between physical and non-physical life, just a difference in “condensation”, for example, when you put ice in a bucket of water, it may look different from water but it’s essentially the same “thing” and the ice melts back into water. Our bodies are like these pieces of ice, floating in the space of life, we are the same energy inherently connected to this space, and this space is where we merge back when we remove focus from this body. A lot of us move around as if we are “orphaned” by life, when in truth we create this disconnect by no longer staying in touch with the guidance of life within – your life’s guidance can only be heard clearly when you are not blurring it out with your own negativity. When you tune out of negativity, you tune in to the constant inner guidance available through your connection with your non-physical vastness.
Don’t feel obliged to do anything against your inspiration, or instinct – this attitude is a big part of being driven by love, in that you don’t ever compromise on yourself. When you compromise on yourself, you are no longer being driven by love, you are being driven by fear. Anyone who is observant of life will know that “things always work out for the best”, when I say “for the best” I mean in your best interests whether it be for a required growth, a required insights/maturity, that aids in creating a better life for you in the future, or for your immediate well-being as the case may be. When you feel like you are stuck in a “desperate” situation, just be patient and allowing, and observe what happens instead of assuming/projecting some negative conclusion – this is a part of being driven by love, where you feel an inherent/unending trust towards the intelligence of your life-stream. If you are skeptic about life, you are either being driven by hatred or fear.
When in doubt, just trust your life-stream
Faith is a very powerful state of being. A faith in well-being is about the most positive outlook one can ever have. However, you don’t have to develop a blind faith, you can simply observe life till you see how its intelligence always brings the right solutions, how it does the most amazing orchestration of events to make things fall in place. The more you observe life closely the less you have to live in blind faith, your mind will just grow into a knowing of the incredible intelligence of your life-stream in orchestrating events to bring forth solutions or manifestations. Having gone through some desperate situations in my life, I’ve seen how a solution always manifests, how seemingly unrelated events merge together to make things fall in place. Even when you are resistant to life, it finds a way of working out for you (though not in as effective a way as it can do if you are open in your being). The more trusting you are of your life-stream, the easier it is for it to channel the required manifestation – being “worried” about the future is normal for the mind, but if you stop giving so much focus to its worries, and let yourself be consciously “open” to life, you automatically come to a low resistance state.
The mind, in its survival mode, knows very little about openness or love – it’s mostly just judging, coming to hasty negative conclusions, harboring doubts, discriminating and holding a fearful stance. Your inner being (which is your sense of presence outside the self-image of the mind) is already rooted in a fearless love, and it brings this love to the mind also, it’s not creating any bias or distance. This love of your inner being gets expressed in your human form through your mind when you allow it to be touched by your space of being – how it gets expressed through your mind is unique to you, it’s different for each person. Your inner being is “all loving”, but your mind is not meant to be all loving, it’s just meant to be balanced and guided/inspired/driven by your inner being, living its unique expression in an aligned manner. It’s not about meeting the model of a “perfect human”, because there is no such thing, it’s about moving towards the best expression possible for you as a process of constant growth, not for anyone else, but for your own sense of alignment.