Transitions are always a challenge especially if you find yourself clueless about what’s happening. We’ve all experienced different forms of transitions in our life as we grew up, from infancy to teenage to adulthood, other transitions were from school to college to career, and possibly several transitions in career. The transition periods are always challenging in some way, but once you make the transition you start enjoying the benefits of the new reality. Physical life is a constant movement of energy, it’s always moving into an evolution of new realities (growth), because it’s the movement that allows the sense of aliveness. No movement is equal to death, so life is a “verb”, it’s always moving and evolving – this means that transitions are inevitable.
Apart from all the physical changes that have been taking place on earth over the millions of years, one aspect which has been evolving is the awareness in the human brain. And in one sense, you can say that this particular age has many humans that have the capacity/readiness for a deeper awareness, it’s a part of human evolution and growth in the brain’s capacity. Also a lot of negativity has accumulated, over the past several lifetimes of unconsciousness, to the point where its baggage has become too heavy to sustain in your present physical form, and it directly causes you to become conscious of it because you can’t sustain so much negativity without feeling a sense of suffocation and psychological suffering. When you hit a threshold, something has to give, and several humans (or streams of consciousnesses), at this age, have reached such a threshold.
In fact, the reasons are not really important, as long as they help you gain some understanding of what’s happening, the deal is that you are here now and you are aware of your mind’s negativity, its momentum, the negative energy accumulation in your body and the sense of suffering created by all this resistance – all this accumulation happened during the unconscious state of existence (over the many years of human life), when your awareness was fully lost in the mind. The transition now is to come out of being lost in the mind’s pull by growing in awareness/understanding, and start releasing the load of negativity, to move towards a conscious state of being which allows for a balanced/aligned life experience.
What to expect during the transition?
When you know what to expect, the journey is far less confusing and much easier to navigate. What you need to remember is that you are transitioning from a sleep state to an awakened state, from an unconscious/dazed state of being lost in the mind to a fully conscious state of being grounded in awareness. When you reach the other side of this transition, you enjoy the benefits of the conscious state of being, the most important one being a balanced mind/reality and inner wholeness. However, during the transition you are better off not trying to cling to the highs and allow the “deconstruction” to take place – logically, you must understand that this deconstruction involves bringing down structures of negativity in your mind, which directly causes structures of negative/incompatible/incongruent external realities to dissolve. Of course it’s a positive deal, but when it’s happening the mind is bound to feel uncertainty, confusion, disorientation and anxiety. Knowing this, can help deal with it better, instead of panicking at your mind’s reactions.
Actually, fear is the strongest resistance present in the mind, and a big part of this transition is to be free of the pull of fear. Unless you are free of the pull of fear, you stay a prisoner to the mind’s reactions. So, instead of trying to avoid the fear that arises, allow yourself to bring awareness to this feeling of fear, and let it play out in your inner space, until you totally see through its limitations – fear is just an emotion and it has its limits, once you see through its limits you will no longer fear fear. People who make the quickest transition are the ones who become fully open to the fears that arise, until they are no longer fearful of the feeling of fear – this ensures that they no longer resist the deconstruction/detox process and hence allow a quicker transition into the aligned reality.
The fears that can arise are
– Fear of being dysfunctional
– Fear of the future
– Fear of uncertainty
– Fear of being alone
– Fear of the outside world, fear of unconscious people
– Fear of being different
– Fear of losing past identity
– Fear of knowing yourself as you are (it can feel fearful to find out your true personality, especially if your natural makeup is predominantly dark natured)
– Fear of being stuck in transition forever
– Fear of negativity (which causes you to resist the release of suppressed negative energy)
Ultimately, though each of the above thought has a different flavor, the bottom-line is that they all create the same feeling of fear. So once you can see through the feeling of fear, and you are no longer scared of this feeling, you would be able to allow all these thoughts to arises without getting hung up on them. The mind being a survival machine is bound to put up these thoughts during the transition phase – and if you start believing your mind’s fears, you not only become more resistant in your being but you also don’t allow your awareness to find freedom from fear.
So why do so many fears arise? There are two reasons 1. The accumulation of negative energy (over the many life times of your stream of consciousness) 2. Your brain has become more aware of life and of course being a survival machine the first thing it notices is the “unpredictability” of living and the negativity inherent in the human mind. You become more keenly aware of the dark nature in your mind, and due to lack of understanding you start feeling guilty about it.
With more understanding you can realize that the dark nature of the mind is not “negative”, neither is light nature positive, on its own, it’s the imbalance the creates the negativity – be it in the dark nature (dimension of hatred and fear) or the light nature (dimension of love and joy) of the mind. Also, as you grow in your understanding of the negativity in you, you are no longer identified with it. This allows the momentum of negativity to ebb away and thus you become resistance free towards allowing your natural expression, living in alignment with your life-stream’s intelligence (which you did not have access to when you were lost in the mind’s conditioned/reactive movement), which allows for a positive cycle to unfold in your reality.
Understanding the process instead of fighting it
This process of transition from an unconscious state of being to conscious state of being is so natural, especially in this particular phase of life on earth, that if you don’t create unnecessary resistance you will move through it quite swiftly. The only reason why people resist this natural evolution is out of a lack of understanding of this process, especially the part of “detox”/deconstruction of negativity that’s a part of this transition. There are various ways through which the release happens, some examples are
– You suddenly have a lot of fear (or fear based thoughts) coming up in you for no reason.
– Some events happen in your reality that cause negativity to arise in you (basically the negativity that arises is what’s present in you already, and the events only help unearth it)
– You find yourself becoming over-sensitive to the negativity in this world
– You become starkly aware of your disconnected life/reality, creating a sense of hopelessness/frustration in you
Now all of the above situations are what your mind will consider “horrible”, because the last thing you expected (especially after some blissful experience of awakening) was to deal with all the negativity that comes up to be released. Of course, a lot of people don’t have any specific “blissful” moment of awakening, they just start becoming conscious of their fears owning to the accumulated load of negativity in their energy space. Whatever be the case, the deal right now would be to move forward towards consciously finding freedom by releasing the negativity rather than sit in fear of it, wondering what went wrong. Nothing really went wrong, it’s just a natural process of coming back to conscious harmony after years of unconsciousness.
There are lot of questions that get asked about “what to do with the negativity” or “how to get rid of it” or “how to become free”, the answer is that you need to stop fighting/suppressing it – what’s required is to allow it to arise freely. You don’t have to do any practice, or technique, you just need to allow the negativity that’s arising, in your mind and in your body space (as emotions) – this “allowing” is what dissolves the momentum of negativity. The unconscious reaction is to “resist”, while the conscious choice is to “allow”, it’s actually that simple. The only problem is that allowing is not always easy because the negativity can feel really uncomfortable, when it arises, and yet the fastest way to come to an end of the release is to stay fully allowing. Of course, you don’t reach a place of total allowing overnight, it takes time – you can read this post Reaching a Place of Total Allowing, for insights on how your awareness grows incrementally into a state of open allowing.