The word “hatred” immediately creates a negative image in the mind which dis-allows you from fully exploring the flavor and power of this nature in your physical being. Hatred is a “dark nature” dimension present in all minds (in all living beings) and a balance towards this dimension is required to ensure that you don’t become imbalanced in your physical energy. It’s not the dimension of hatred that’s negative, it’s when one becomes unconsciously lost it that it becomes negative, it also tends to become negative when you suppress it – this is true for all the dimensions in the mind, for example when you become unconsciously lost in the dimension of love you end up becoming needy, obsessive and overly-attached, which are purely negative states of being. To have a wholesome experience of your physical nature it’s required to have a balanced alignment towards all the dimensions in the mind, which includes the dimension of hatred.
This dimension of hatred, in its balanced state, channels into positive behaviors like being competent, having the ability to say “no” without feeling guilty, letting go of victim mindset, letting go of meekness/timidity and being clear-minded about your dislikes. A person who suppresses this dimension in him/her most likely ends up getting victimized, in some manner, owing to their meekness. While a person who is unconsciously lost in this dimensions ends up spewing negative behaviors like abuse, violence, exploitation and over-competitiveness.
Meekness is not a positive expression
One of the most misguided teachings that get offered in some conservative spiritual circles is to focus on the dimension of love in the mind, and suppress the dimension of hatred. It’s so easy to see how imbalanced people become when they try to do this – in fact they become fake, inauthentic, lacking in zeal and mostly a “drop out” of life. The whole teaching of “turn your other cheek” makes one feel that being meek is a positive/holy way of being, and basically sets one up to attract abuse and exploitation – such a misguided teaching can only resonate with someone who is imbalanced in the dimension of love, and its repercussions are there for us to see if history is any evidence. Anyone who is imbalanced in the dimension of love basically becomes a point of attraction for exploitation, abuse and sacrifice – to believe that being meek is “noble” is a belief system that sets you up for suffering.
Of course, on the other hand, the attitude of “an eye for an eye” is also an imbalanced state of being where one is lost in the dimension of hatred with little space for wisdom or maturity. However, when you have a balance towards the dimension of hatred, if you get slapped on a cheek (metaphorically speaking) you would not stand around turning your other cheek, showing your meekness, neither would you be unconsciously lost in an immature reactive approach, rather you would face the situation from a place of wisdom and allow for the right action to come forth – which can entail you to tell the other person to “back off” in no uncertain terms and let them know that you are not here to be a punching bag for someone. This is the power that comes into your being when you are balanced towards the dimension of hatred, which automatically ensures that you are not imbalanced towards the dimension of love. Wisdom dictates that you take a stand when it’s needed and not allow people to make a doormat out of you.
You will also notice that when you are balanced towards the dimension of hatred, in your mind, you don’t attract situations of exploitation or abuse of any form. In this place of balance, you attract realities that make you feel empowered and self-sustained (because that’s what you feel within). You will notice that people who suppress this dimension in them usually end up with some bodily disorders during to the dis-harmony in their body’s energy field.
Aligning with the dimension of hatred in your mind
If you look at animals, they understand that the dimension of hatred has a value as a survival mechanism purely as an instinct – you won’t see an animal sacrificing itself out of the love it feels towards the predators. Human beings on the other hand, can easily be given a lot of misguided conditioning into suppressing this “instinctual” dimension in their mind, causing them to become hunting pigeons lined up for sacrifice. It’s common to see parents program their kids to suppress the dimension of hatred making them feel guilty for their anger, dislikes or dissent, and thus dis-connecting them from a balanced alignment with this dimension in their mind. Such children usually grow up feeling confused and guilty about the natural instincts that happen in their mind and they suppress themselves, putting on a “good boy/girl” persona, leading powerless and meek lives, with a total lack of clear-mindedness because they stop trusting their own instincts.
Look at your present life situation and see if you find yourself in any of the circumstances below
– You sense that you are not being respected and are constantly being taken for granted
– You sense a lot of neediness for other people’s approval (which is usually denied to you)
– You find it difficult to express your opinions and your preferences
– You feel subjected to abuse and exploitation, or getting cheated on and betrayed
– You have an attitude of denial towards the abuse you are being subjected to
– You are always one who is expected sacrifice your happiness and joy
– You always seem to end up in relationships where you partner does not reciprocate your endless love (which, in truth, is basically just a form of neediness on your part)
– You feel hurt that people don’t reciprocate your acts of goodness towards them, which you basically do so that they are nice to you
– You are constantly wearing a “smile” to appear harmless and docile
– You find yourself in relationships of chronic emotional dependence, where your partner is almost “leeching” on your energy (which usually results in you feeling emotionally sapped and fatigued)
– You are usually the fall guy, who takes the brunt of the blame, when something goes wrong (especially in your work environment or relationships)
– You feel a seething anger within you towards the way you are being exploited, but you constantly keep suppressing this anger out of a feeling of guilt or inferiority
If you said “yes” to any of the points mentioned above, it’s an indication of an imbalance in you where you are not aligned with the dimension of hatred in your mind. Remember that there is a difference between “being aligned” and “being imbalanced” – being aligned allows for wisdom while being imbalanced causes immature/unwise actions. Sometimes wisdom dictates that you let go of a mistake made by someone and move on, whereas sometimes it’s required that you let that person know very clearly that you are not taking anymore nonsense from them. You gain access to this maturity and wisdom, when you allow yourself to align with the dimension of hatred in your mind – to align means to not suppress and to not be unconsciously lost, you can only “align” consciously in the presence of a space of awareness. Unconsciously you will either suppress a dimension or have an imbalanced identification towards it.