An external conditioning present in the mind, is taken to be “true” by the mind and its belief in this conditioning causes it to attract experiences that give evidence/reflection of it. For example, if your mind believes in the conditioning that “life is a struggle”, then the external reality you attract will constantly give you evidence of this belief in you. Basically all the beliefs you’ve garnered from the outside influences, and your limited interpretation/perception of life, becomes part of the conditioning in your mind – what I would define as “external conditioning”, because this is not the conditioning you were born with, but what you acquired through your movement in life. Positive external conditioning is highly beneficial to your well-being, whereas negative external conditioning can become a source of toxicity in your reality.
To overcome a negative conditioning in the mind, you must first understand the dynamics of how a mind functions and what it entails to dis-associate with an external conditioning you’ve been following unconsciously for so long in your life.
Allowing the fear that arises during dissolution of negative conditioning
No matter how strongly you understand a positive perspective, it’s not possible to let go of a negative perspective (that you’ve been holding for several years) within a day or two. This is because, the mind/brain has strong neural pathways created to subconsciously run the ingrained beliefs on “auto mode”, this allows it to have free resources to tackle other day to day issues, so that you don’t have to constantly keep reminding yourself of your beliefs. These strong neural pathways have been built over years of attuning to a certain perspective or way of thinking, which created the belief.
When you have a negative belief in your mind, and you identify its dysfunction, you are in a position to let go of it. But the pace at which you let go of a negative belief completely depends on how willing you are to “disassociate” with it. If you are in a position of “compromise” where you go along with the negative perspective now and then, it will just take you more time to dissolve it. If you become totally rooted/committed to letting go of a negative conditioning, you will no longer take any action under the pull of this conditioning – even if it means going through a phase of stark insecurity/fear when the mind feels that you are going to be in trouble if you stop following a belief/conditioning that has been going on in it for years. If you give in to the fears of the mind, you just “compromise” and thus fuel the negative conditioning longer. (Di-association with a negative conditioning can be a challenging phase but it reaps rich results when you stick to your alignment)
An unconscious mind always wants to the cling to the “familiar”, even if the familiar is a negative one, a conscious mind is willing to allow the phase of fear for a while, without giving into a negative conditioning, so that this conditioning can get dissolved and a new reality can be attracted as a result. You can read the post “Don’t Fear Fear” to get a perspective of why fear is not always a bad thing, because fear is also the energy you feel even when an old reality (a dysfunctional one) is being dissolved for you and if you misinterpret this “fear”, you might try to cling to the old reality again – I call this “transformational fear”. Allowing this fear, to be present in your being without getting anxious about it sets you up to be a co-operative component to letting a new reality take shape.
Staying aligned with your natural conditioning
The natural conditioning in you comes from two places
– the nature of your being to align with joy/love (as its natural vibration)
– the natural make-up of your human mind (with its dark/light natures)
The combination of both the natures (the mind and the being) is what constitutes the natural conditioning of a human being. The toughest part for most people is to align with the natural make-up of their human mind, in all its aspects, and no matter how many times it’s pointed out the mind has its dark natures and lights natures, most people are always trying to force their mind into a “boxed idea” of goodness alone.
The mind is the mind, the mind is not the “being” and it’s not meant to be divine/perfect, it’s a programmed machine and it has certain inherent “wiring” in it that makes it impossible for it to change certain ingrained natures in it – I would call it the “unchangeable natures” in your mind. The imperfections of the mind is what allows for the diverse experience of physical life, this is what allows for the “spice” of physical life – stop trying to force your mind into some skewed idea you have of perfection – there is a difference between acquiring “maturity about life” and acquiring “perfection” as far as the mind is concerned. Understand/align with the unchangeable natures in your mind, and stop opposing its natural proclivity.
(In all these pointers, where I use the term “you”, I am just referring to you as the mind/brain, and also you as the awareness, in combination because in your waking hours both these intelligences are operating simultaneously)
Any belief that makes you go against this natural conditioning present in you as a human+being (not a typo), puts you in resistance with the inflow of well-being, ease and abundance into your reality. If you just make it your priority to always be committed to what feels like joy in your being, you will never be taken in by any negative conditioning no matter how strong the pull may be. If you stand true to this commitment, with time the negative conditionings will lose their roots in your mind and will fizzle away in influence, allowing the attraction of realities congruent with your nature – this allows for the unfolding of your natural expression.