All human minds seem to have 4 core elements negativity – Inferiority, Craving, Suspicion and Empathy (with suffering). If you are wondering how “empathy” could ever be a negative thing, I would be explaining its dynamics as I take up each of these elements in detail below. I have mentioned these four elements in a descending order of the intensity of toxicity/resistance they create in your being.
These 4 core elements of negativity are created through a combination of the mind’s survival tendencies and the un-awakened state of being of the “awareness” that you are, focused in this body (when you are totally identified with the mind/physicality). It’s difficult to over come the pull of all these 4 elements of negativity as long as you are not awakened to your true self or wholeness, because until then you would be totally identified with the narrow/limited perspectives of the your physical focus without aligning with the reality, and truth, of life. If you are in the process of letting go of the negative momentum of the mind, it will help to recognize these 4 elements of negativity operating in you. I will discuss each of them below to give you an idea of how these elements create a negative vibration in you and thus resist the flow of well-being inherent to your life stream.
This is by far the most toxic element of negativity because it creates resistance to your well-being by making you believe that you are unworthy or undeserving. It’s not possible to allow a seamless flow of wellness into your reality when you are rooted in thoughts of inferiority. The below are the most common thoughts of inferiority that humans have.
– An inferiority complex with regards to your mental abilities where you compare your intelligence, smartness, educational qualifications/achievements, career, communication skills, technical skills with others and feel bad about yourself.
– Inferiority about your physical looks and build. This is created through comparing yours looks with others and having self-deprecating thoughts about yourself.
– Feeling inferior to a higher power, usually God, owing to constant conditioning that there is a “judging/punishing God” up there. This inferiority fuels a disconnect with the wholeness of who you are because you stand in separation with it by assuming that your being is not one with life/God/source-energy which is the actuality of who you really are, your actual body.
– Feeling inferior about your race, culture or roots.
These are just some common inferiorities present in the mind and thus in your being identified with the mind.
You start becoming free of this toxic negative element, present in your physical being, as you start understanding the truth of who you are as the wholeness of life. You realize who you are as this body is a unique expression of life and hence “comparing” yourself with others is totally irrelevant. You also realize that life force (which is a stream of pure positive energy) is unconditionally in love with you in your physical presence and there is no judgment in life about who you are. Your desires are taken up by this stream unconditionally and are brought to manifestation in a movement aligned with totality. Be yourself totally, so that your natural expression can flower from this place of alignment – you are not lesser to anything.
To desire is one thing and to “crave” a desire is a completely different thing. Craving arises from the deluded thinking that you cannot be whole until you get what you desire. Craving always comes from a place of inner incompleteness, where you try to fill up the emptiness you feel within with the physical possessions/experiences in the hope that you will feel whole through it. Life experience will show you that no matter what you achieve/experience on the physical realm you will continue to feel an inner incompleteness unless you become aligned with the wholeness of your being and thus realize inner wholeness as a permanent state. From this place you can desire without any strong craving in you for that desire, rather it’s just a movement of creation or creativity, a movement to enjoy physicality.
When you crave something, you end up in behaviors of “neediness” which is rooted in the vibration of lack. Actions coming from this place end up creating a reality that reflects this lack back at you externally. Greed, over-possessiveness, exploitation, victimization, negative selfishness, impatience, desperation etc are aspects that arise from this place of lack. Craving creates resistance to the very reality you desire because it’s rooted in a vibration of lack that’s 360 degrees on the opposite of the vibration of joy/wholeness required to allow the seamless flow of your life stream that’s moving in the direction of manifesting your desired realities.
It’s one thing to be “wise” and it’s completely different thing to be rooted in chronic suspicion. Wisdom comes from your connection with your wholeness, in the state of open “awareness”. Chronic suspicious proclivities come from a place of fear-based perception owing to belief in negativity. There are people who go through life with a huge armor in front of them, citing that they are protecting themselves against the “badness” out there and these are the very people who seem to be attracting bad behaviors all the time (which makes them more convinced in the badness of the outside world). Law of attraction dictates that your chronic inner suspicions will always find an external reflection in that you seem to attract realities that confirm, or give evidence of, your inner suspicions. For example, if you have a belief that the world is full of cheaters, you will seem to be attracting realities that keep giving evidence for this belief – but you need to realize that it’s your belief that’s attracting the reflection.
If you think that your suspicious attitude is “protecting” you, you need to think again from a deeper perspective. When you are holding onto to an attitude of chronic suspicion of people/life around you, the vibration that’s active in you is one “fear”. This vibration causes you to attract negative realities, the very ones that you are afraid of, which you are trying to protect yourself against through your suspicious attitude. If you’ve interacted with people who have an attitude of chronic suspicion you will notice that there is a feeling of “repulsion” inside you while interacting with them – this is because your inner being is repelled by the vibration of fear present in them. Of course, it’s easier to see it in others than to see it in yourself. When you are honest with yourself, you will know if you are holding onto an attitude of suspicion all the time.
The belief that having a suspicious attitude will keep you “protected” from being cheated on is not in alignment with the law of creation (which is based on law of attraction). That’s why it’s always people who are chronically suspicious who seem to attract wrong doers. People who are open, and believing in the well-being of life, are always attracting positivity, helpfulness and friendliness from the outside. Let your vibration attract the right people in your life, instead of using your suspicious tendencies to sieve out people. Instead of being so rooted in suspicions, work on letting go of your inner fears so that your vibration is aligned with positivity which will automatically ensure that you attract positive people/experiences in your life.
When you are aligned with a positive vibration, which automatically comes into your being when you let go of identification with these negative elements in the mind, you will be a vibrational match to a positive reality and hence there would be no need for you to go through life hiding behind an armor of suspicion. You can move freely resting in the assurance that your positive vibration will attract positive people and positive situations. When you truly understand how creations works you will know that “you” attract your experiences, and hence it’s in your power to attract positive experiences and positive people, simply by becoming a match to a positive vibration. Chronic suspicious tendencies are rooted in fear and can never be aligned with the positive vibration of life.
This might be the least toxic of the negative elements but can be a huge source of resistance in your being when you are unconscious of its negative influence on your vibration. The being that you are is highly sensitivity and hence has a tendency to get attached to fears and suffering, quite easily, in its unconscious state of being. When you see suffering in the external world shown in the media or in your surroundings, your being will immediately empathize with the suffering and thus become rooted in vibrations of sadness, grief, helplessness, hopelessness, anxiety and anger. We immediately put ourselves in other’s shoes and imagine the suffering they must be going through, and in this projection become rooted in suffering ourselves.
It’s the very nature of our being to empathize with the suffering of the outside because of the strong element of sensitivity in our being. When you take on the suffering of others by empathizing it within you, you become rooted in a low vibration yourself and from this place it’s not really possible to allow the inflow of well-being into your reality. There are many people who are so enamored by the suffering of the outside that they end up attracting suffering in their own reality owing to the low vibration in which they start dwelling on constant basis.
When there is space of awareness in you, you can be sensitive to the suffering of others while also retaining your vibration of wholeness which allows “wise” actions to be taken, which also allows healing to come forth from you towards your external reality and thus makes you a channel of wellness. If you are lost in the suffering of others, there is no space in you through which wellness can flow into your external reality and hence you are not really being a channel that’s working towards alleviating suffering rather you are perpetuating it through your unconscious focus on it. In the space of awareness, you will be able to empathize with people while also retaining a space of wisdom/wholeness that allows for a positive movement of healing in your reality, it also ensures that you don’t attract a negative reality out of your focus on suffering.
When you are rooted in your inner wholeness, you don’t become “uncaring” or de-sensitized towards the external world, neither do you try to “ignore” or deny the suffering that’s present. It’s just that from this space you don’t move from a place of suffering yourself, you move from a place of wholeness – this is the only place from where any true solution can come into our reality to alleviate the suffering present in human consciousness as a whole.