Be Easy On Yourself

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The non-physical energy forms like “thoughts” are easy to create and experience, because their creation is instantaneous, but to allow physical manifestations like a stable mind, material abundance and physical wellness involves “time” because there needs to be a condensation of energy to manifest something physically. Condensation of energy, to create a physical reality, takes time because it’s a linear “process” involving constant movement of energy in one direction.

Manifesting a stable mind, which is not prone to constant negative vacillations, is one of the most essential manifestations for a human being who wishes to experience a reality of well-being on consistent basis. However, if your present reality involves a mind/brain that is mostly prone to negativity, then it is bound to take some time before the physical manifestation of a mind that’s stable in its alignment with the positive. It’s very important that you be patient with yourself, and allow the time span for the movement of energy to manifest your physical reality.

It’s not possible to manifest a positive mind overnight

What happens biologically is that the brain builds “neural pathways” which are mostly like thick ropes that keep gaining strength each time a pattern of thought is given attention or interest. If you’ve spend many years giving attention to negative thought patterns, there would be a presence of strong neural pathways in your brain for these thoughts. Also, the brain has the tendency to repeat the thought patterns which have a strong neural pathway, thus it becomes a cycle of reinforcement where the pattern which is strong becomes stronger each day. If you’ve been inclined to negative thinking for a long time, it’s bound to have created a strong neural pathway in your brain, and once make a conscious shift towards positivity, it will take time before the old pathways are brought down and new pathways are built.

A lot of people get frustrated that in spite of knowing the toxicity of negative thinking their mind seems to keep generating negative thoughts. But scientifically, all that’s happening is that the mind is repeating thoughts based on the “old” neural pathways, even though there has been a new understanding in your consciousness. The more you stay committed to your alignment with the positive, the more your mind would start building pathways for thought patterns of positivity. It’s a steady process which happens on a daily basis. Also, as you stand dis-identified with the negative thoughts, your mind will slowly break down the neural pathways that were associated with these negative thought patterns.

For a while your mind will swing back and forth between being strongly negative to being positive, as you start committing consciously towards letting go of the negativity in the mind. This is the time you need to be “easy” on yourself and be patient with your mind instead of getting angry with it for being so slow in letting go of negativity. Remember that you were in a habit of being unconsciously identified with several negative thought patterns for many years, so you must allow atleast a few months before your mind can let go of these patterns. It’s almost like breaking out of a strong addiction.

The start of a positive cycle in the mind

At some point in your journey towards aligning with positivity, you will notice that you not longer need to make a conscious choice anymore because your mind seems to be “auto tuned” to being aligned with positive thoughts. You will also notice a cycle of positivity setting in with your reality reinforcing positive thought patterns and the strong neural pathways, in your mind, for positive thoughts, causing repetition of positive thoughts constantly in your thought space. It will be like your second nature to have an outlook of positivity towards life, and you will feel amazed at the ease with which realities of well-being and abundance flow in on a constant basis.

It’s normal to feel a little skeptical or cynical about the power of positive thinking especially when your mind is rooted in the habit of looking at life through a negative lens. Skeptism and cynicism (thoughts of doubt) are usually the main forces that keep you from making a strong commitment towards positivity (or towards letting go of negativity through staying in a relaxed dis-identification). A lot of people, after practicing being consciously positive for a bit, start doubting the effectiveness of this practice when they don’t see immediately results happening in their reality.

What needs to be understood is that a consistently positive reality can only manifest when you have a consistently positive mind, and a lot of your desired realities can only manifest out of a consistently positive mind state – a vacillating mindset cannot create a consistent reality. And it takes time to allow the manifestation of a consistently positive mind even from a biological stand-point. So be easy about it and remember that each day is a progress towards this state of being. Usually one should be able to see some form of consistency within a period of 8 months when one stays committed to dis-identifying with negativity.

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  1. M

    I can relate to this … But it isn’t that easy to ‘be easy on yourself’ …. There is relief in knowing that it can’t really get any harder … Thank you for this insight.

  2. Abhyasi

    Thanks Sen for very informative article.

    What’s the difference between staying at relaxed awareness /openness to whatever comes to mind (any low vibration feelings/thoughts) against letting go of any negativity (mostly negative thought pattern). Could you please advice?
    If I understand this correctly, I need to let rise whatever rise to mind (fear or any negative thought) and just watch it as open awareness; So what is that I am letting go? Please shed some light on my confusion.

    Thank you

    1. Sen Post author

      Abhyasi, when you allow something fully in you (be it a thought or feeling), it loses its hold on you because now you are no longer fearful of it. So to allow fully is the means to “let go” of negativity. If you try to suppress the negativity or try to get rid of it through some technique, it just sticks around possibly by taking new forms. Instead, when you allow it fully, in your awareness, it loses hold on your being – that’s how you let go of it.

  3. Jamie

    Hi Sen,

    I’ve been devouring your writings for a while now but haven’t posted till now. I have quite a few questions I’d be really grateful if you could answer. These keep cropping up during the day, especially when I do my daily “state of allowing”.

    1. You say in several articles that a life in alignment is “effortless”. This is far from my lifestyle atm. I have quite a few commitments, all of whom involve some measure of effort, will-power and self-discipline to accomplish. My question is, should everything I do from day-to-day be effortless? If that were so I would drop a lot of these activities but in doing so I would flunk out of university, quit exercise and a whole host of others. Part me is terrified at the prospect of surrendering completely to my desires. If I was left completely to my own devices I would probably sit around the house all day, eating junk food and playing video games. Should there a be a transitioning period where I practice allowing but continue with prior commitments, or would I be delaying the whole process and would be better off doing only what pleases me from moment to moment?

    2. With regards to positive thinking, should this be a concerted effort (something against the doctrine of allowing) where I “try” to have a positive mindset or should I continue just allowing thoughts and feelings to arise?

    3. I’ve noticed over the past few weeks a lot of apathy in my mood. My motivation for things has been sapped and a lot of the time I feel pretty deadened without my former reservoirs of will-power. I had always had a drive to do things but I now realise it was from unhealthy sources: fear, competition, approval etc. which although not creating a lot of happiness did at least give me some sense of accomplishment. Now however this drive to seek out new things has dropped off and I have no idea what I’m going to do with my life. I feel cut adrift with a cloud of uncertainty hanging over me. I practice just allowing but I’m worried for the future and whether just allowing will lead me to doing nothing. Over the weekends when I have few responsibilities I find myself sleeping in, eating badly and binging on computer and smoking a lot. These were all habits I had cut out but have crept back in from this state of allowing. Have I confused this state of allowing with the path of least resistance bordering on hedonism?

    4. How long would you say these feelings of lethargy last? I’m currently waiting for inspiration to take hold of me from this state of allowing but so far it’s simply let me indulge and do very little.

    5. I’m still a little sceptical about simply allowing. Say for example you were to advise a heroin addict about the philosophy of the practice of allowing. Surely when a urge/desire/need, call it what you will, arises in the addict, telling this person to allow all desires would be a profoundly bad advice which may even lead to their death. Surely acting on all impulses would lead to many many negative consequences. Another example which would be harmful not for the person involved (at least not directly) but for another would be the case of a paedophile. In this instance, the sexual predators “natural proclivities” would lead him to sexually assault a minor. This in turn would cause irreparable mental scarring for the victim. Was it the child’s fault for attracting this crime upon them, since negative attracts negative right? Shouldn’t the paedophile have resisted his desires? This line of questioning may all stem from a misunderstanding on my part but any light you could shed on it would be great.



    1. Sen Post author

      Jamie, to answer your first question, what I meant by the pointer of “effortless” action is simply action/movement which is free of being driven by motivations that are not aligned with balance – like being motivated from a place of fear/external-pressure, lack, hatred (trying to prove yourself) or even some idea of selflessness (Btw I no longer a pointer like “effortless action”, it was just a pointer I used in the older posts, and I saw how it can create confusion or ambiguity so I stopped using it). Action obviously involves effort, it can involve organization, planning and execution, it can involve a certain discipline, however, if the motivation is coming from an “aligned place” none of this feels like a “struggle” rather it feels like something that you “want” to do because it feels right to you. Only you can know if your motivation is coming from an aligned place or if it’s coming from a place of imbalance/unconsciousness of some form. In a state of higher awareness (which naturally sets in during the state of allowing) one cannot move from a place of imbalanced motivation, it just doesn’t feel aligned and you are now deeply aware of this mis-alignment because your higher awareness – you can’t delude yourself anymore from this place of awareness. There is usually a transition phase where some of patterns of your old reality, which was based on unconsciousness, start dropping away so that they can give way to a different way of living that aligned with your current awareness. The transition phase is temporary, and during this phase you can feel as if you are losing your drive and being clueless, feeling meaningless etc, but there will be an return of focus soon enough when momentum of the past patterns is released. You may continue doing the same things on the other side of the transition, like working at your job, going to the gym, hanging out with your friends, shopping etc, however there is a different energy, a different outlook and motivation that drives you, it no longer comes from an imbalanced place.

      To answer your second question, don’t bother with “positive thinking”, just allow what arises to arise, in thought or emotion. Eventually, from this state of allowing, you will automatically reach a place of alignment, which is a state of being balanced towards the light and dark nature of life/reality, so your thinking will become rooted in wisdom or what I call “reality-based thinking” – it’s different form some scripted positive thinking (which may be imbalanced towards light nature). Again the very pointer of “positive” was something I used in the older posts, which I don’t use anymore because it creates confusion, I currently use the pointer of “reality-based thinking” or “alignment with life”.

      With regards to your third question, there are certain habits which get instigated from some imbalanced energies within (imbalanced emotional/mental momentum acquired in the past, possibly even a past lifetime, or from your gene pool), it’s possible to suppress these habits through force but while doing so one does not release the imbalanced energies that were driving it – such a forced suppression can work for a while, but the imbalanced energies keep getting refueled by this suppression (also some new imbalanced momentum gets created because of the attitude of suppression). So, suppression is a very short term fix, and sooner or later the momentum will hit a threshold, and then it can’t be avoided. During the state of allowing, these suppressed imbalanced energies will come up, to be released, and when they come up it can feel like they are taking control – you will simply have to use your awareness to see the presence of this energy and how it’s driving certain behavior, and you can allow the movement of this energy in you without necessarily becoming identified with it and taking action in its wake. These energies will soon get released if you simply stay in this state of aware allowing without identification. Even if you do get identified with it, now and then, it’s fine, you don’t have to feel very guilty about it, one can get drawn into the momentum during the release, but the whole commitment has to be towards “aware allowing without identification”. This is just a part of the transition phase of release.

      To answer your fourth question, if you commit to a state of total allowing (allowing without identification or suppression by using your awareness/observation-capacity to see through all the imbalanced momentum that arises) the release gets done with in the minimal time frame, of course the time would still depend on the load that you are carrying personally – it’s personal to you. I talk about a product called Brainev in the post Eliminating Anxiety, which can be very useful and effective in releasing momentum of imbalance in the brain by training it with simulated balanced brain-waves – dealing with the brain momentum is usually the biggest change of the release phase, and using Brainev can facilitate this process in a big way and thus cut short the time needed for the release.

      To answer your fifth question, I am not sure if you’ve really understood the pointer of “allowing” – it doesn’t mean “go with the mind and do what it says”, it means “allow the mind/emotion, but in your awareness, without becoming identified with it”. The state of allowing is an “aware” process, it’s not about becoming lost to the past momentum, it’s about releasing the past momentum by allowing it without identification. I guess a better pointer is “aware allowing” which implies don’t suppress (so that a release a happen) but don’t get identified with what arises, to do so one needs to have some “awareness”. This is not some “free ticket” to recklessness, this is an “inner process” of releasing the inner momentum of imbalance.

  4. Michael

    Sen, you say in a few of your posts that it will take 6-8 months of allowing to be able to sense any real peace, and possibly even longer to start becoming a deliberate creator. Since BrainEv is a 6 month product, how much time does it cut off of the total time?

  5. Sarah

    Hi Sen,

    Thanks for your posts. I feel I have been going through the phase of release for many months but only now I feel I am really able to ‘get’ the allowing process. I’ve noticed that when I have some really negative thoughts/feelings and I allow them, it is a different sensation than being pulled in by them – but that it feels more ‘painful’ and uncomfortable. It is almost as if I feel that the new me is being physically pulled away from these thoughts and that this detachment is physically painful and its almost like a death of that way of thinking. I found that if I sat through this painful process it actually cleared out the negative thought patterns fairly quickly. Is this a familiar sensation to you? Does it feel emotionally and physically painful when old neural pathways are being deconstructed?

    1. Sen Post author

      Sarah, it does feel emotionally/mentally uncomfortable, but it’s no different from the withdrawal pains while going through a physical detox for an addiction. The past momentum is like an addiction in the being owing to the unconscious identification that was bestowed upon it, and the state of allowing instigates a “release” which can feel uncomfortable because it’s eventually a process of being pulled away from the pull of imbalance.

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