The Cause of Feeling Meaningless



If you are feeling meaningless the cause is always the same – you are not living the life you truly intend at this moment and may have come to a conclusion that it’s not possible to have that life. If you had a hope that your life is moving towards your intended expression/experience, you would not feel meaningless – it’s when you lose all hope that meaninglessness sets in. We try to suppress this feeling of meaninglessness through various preoccupations – entertainment, work, spiritual experiences etc, but it doesn’t ever go away. The only way to really bring an end to this feeling of meaninglessness is by looking within yourself to see what you really desire and stay true to this vision by allowing yourself to trust in its fulfillment – the first part of detecting what you desire is crucial but what’s really challenging is to hold on to its vision without opposing it with your mind’s conditioning. In fact, the whole reason for letting go of the mind’s momentum (releasing the hold of negativity), through the phase of relaxed awareness, is so that you can hold the vision of what you desire without being opposed by the mind.

If you want to see how much resistance your mind has towards the vision of your heart, just try to hold this vision in your mind for a while and see how many opposing thoughts get thrown up. The thoughts can range from cynicism, doubt, hopelessness, anxiety (fear towards change) or just random negativity that goes on in your mind. When this happens we naturally let go of the vision because we believe the mind’s opposition (out of our habit of trusting the conditioning of the mind over heart) and then move on to live in this sense of meaninglessness. For your vision to manifest your mind needs to be a co-operative component to it which means it should either support the vision or at the very least it needs to drop the resistance – the only way this is going to happen is when it loses its momentum of negativity.

Negative momentum dies away in the space of awareness

It’s not complex at all, if you want to keep it simple – to hold a space of awareness just means to not give “belief” to the negative thoughts and just stay as the observing space. If you say it’s tough, I would say do it more until you get used to it, until it becomes natural to you, until you gain stability in this space. There is a huge difference between not giving belief to a negative thought and trying to “suppress” a negative thought, and there is a huge difference between “allowing” a negative thought to happen in the mind and “wallowing” in a negative thought – the former requires awareness, the latter is an act of unconsciousness. It takes some stability in awareness before you can stop giving belief to the negative thoughts in the mind, especially as you sense that they are just “conditioned thoughts” of a fear-based thinking process – the thinking mind is really not a big deal if you don’t make it into a big deal, it’s just a machine and it’s supposed to work for you not against you, but it can only work for you when you are conscious enough to stop being a slave to all its perceptions and when it loses its strong momentum.

If your mind has a high momentum of negativity, it’s will naturally feel overwhelming, initially, when you try to stay as a space of awareness – this is because thoughts are magnetic (attraction based) and hence pull your awareness. The higher the momentum of a thought, the more repetitive it is, and the higher its pull. OCD by itself is not an inherent disorder, it’s simply a normal mind in which a certain thought has been given so much unconscious attention that it has gained a huge momentum. Scientifically the only way to allow a thought to lose its hold on you is to allow it to die away by staying as a space of awareness (observe without showering belief). At one point, when the thought has lost most of its momentum, you don’t even need to stay aware, you can just be and it won’t affect you. There are no short cuts however, and you need to give the time that it requires, and the time totally depends on the past momentum the thought has.

The evidence of the reduction in the negative momentum of your mind is in the sense of freedom that you feel, if you are feeling overwhelmed by your mind’s movements it shows it has a huge momentum. Another strong evidence is when you hold your heart’s vision in your mind and can sense no real resistance coming from it – this ascertains that your mind has lost the momentum to oppose your vision. Only at this point can you be certain that you are co-operative to your vision’s unfolding.

Trusting your vision and holding it in your focus

In many cases you may not know the exact physical specifics of your vision, and would just have a “feeling” for it, and this is enough, if you can just trust this feeling and stay true to it. For example, you may have a feeling that you want to do something creative that’s enjoyable, but don’t know the exact specifics of how to go about it, or even what it is that you want to do, and so if you can only hold on to that feeling, the knowing will arise from this space at the right time. You may have a feeling for the type of relationship you want to share, and if you stay with this feeling you start becoming a match to this reality where you attract such a relationship. Another example would be that you have a feeling for a certain lifestyle that you want to lead but have no idea how to create it from your present situation, you just need to stand true to that feeling and the required understanding starts coming in. If you ignore that feeling, or suppress it out of doubt or cynicism, you are no longer a match to receiving this understanding or guidance from within and outside.

In many cases, people get into action too soon instead of getting a real sense of their inner guidance. This is because it’s easier to just be engaged in activities (in a society that appreciates being busy or the pretence of it) than have the openness to sense the inner inspiration. The mind in its fear likes to keep itself distracted in activities, even though these activities may be taking you in an opposite direction of where your vision lies. So it’s important to first hold your vision in your focus, without resistance from the mind, and then be moved from the inspiration that comes forth from within.

To allow the resistance to ebb away is crucial to allowing the unfolding of your heart’s intent, and if you just keep yourself distracted all the time you may not even sense the amount of resistance you are carrying within you towards your vision. Feeling meaningless is a “red flag” telling you that you are resisting your heart’s intent, and if you fully allow this feeling (of meaninglessness) to arise in you, instead of suppressing it, you can sense the inner intent/vision that wants to be realized.







26 Comments

  1. Chetana

    Dear Sen,

    I was stay-at-home mom for the last 3 years and just 2 weeks ago, out of whim, i applied for a job and got called for interview and then got another request to send my resume –it is a good thing in the current job market to have these chances and i feel happy and grateful. But i am also sensing a fear in me, that both these leads may not actually realise in a job. Where is this fear coming within me. I am feeling the fear without judging it, trying not to judge it. What is good way to understand my fears and reason behind my cautiousness? I want to be able to just accept the good things in life gracefully without doubting myself, feeling fears that it will all come to naught or fear jinxing my good fortune in someway. Advice please.

    Thank you and in gratitude,
    Chetana

    1. Sen Post author

      Chetana, as long as the mind has a momentum it’s bound to have a grip on your being, the intensity of the grip depends on the momentum it has. Fear is a dimension in the mind, and the mind will normal create fearful thoughts about the future where it tries to project “how things should be”. The more momentum the mind has, the higher the grip of these fearful thoughts on your being. The pointer is to stay allowing of this resistance of the mind and understand that it’s only a matter of time before the mind momentum slows down as you are becoming more and more stable in your being.

  2. Johnny

    The commentary about the believing of negative thoughts is so true. You cannot stop them and if you try you will dig yourself a bigger hole. you must see them as just thoughts especially the negative ones and see them as some story with very limited facts and evidence. you need to see your mind as a machine that is programmed to anticipate danger and avert crisis’s.These anticipated dangers are a throw back to a time when we needed to jump at shadows to survive. We no longer need to do this so we need to ignore the mind and just wing it. Living with the sense that I am open to any experiences without predicting disaster is truly living!

  3. Jim

    Sen, I get the idea of holding a space of awareness to allow any negative thoughts to dissolve by not energizing them with belief, but where am “I” during this process? Am I not simply a belief held in my mind? And if I stop believing in this mind generated self I no longer exist?

    1. Sen Post author

      Jim, if you are asking yourself “who am I” – the answer is two fold, you are the “brain” (which is basically the center of this body) as this physical aspect and you are also wholeness of “life” (because life is all there is). You as the brain is connected with you as the life, of course the brain is just a creation of life made out of life-energy.

      So in simple words, you are the brain as this physical form. As the brain you reference yourself as “I” or “Me”. I never said you need to stop associating with the “Me” thought, I just said let go of negativity that you are carrying, stop believing in negative patterns of your thinking so that you can have a better experience of physical life, so that your “Me” can have a good experience. The way to let go of negativity is to allow yourself to just stay aware of them without giving belief to them (you being the brain). When you are aware, you are not lost in your conditioned thinking, and hence are connected with a deeper intelligence (what I call space of being, space of life or space of awareness). In this space of awareness, you can start letting go of giving fuel to negative thoughts that you are holding in yourself. Remember that negativity is personal to you, and you need to detect your own negativity, the patterns that are blocking “you” from having a positive experience of life – there is no universal standard for negativity, it’s a personal thing.

  4. Jim

    Sen, you say to “stop believing in negative patterns of your thinking so that you can have a better experience of physical life, so that your ‘Me’ can have a good experience.” Shouldn’t this also apply to positive patterns?

    1. Sen Post author

      Jim, the way I define negativity is the thoughts that create resistance in your being, and when one is aware and is not lost in being unconsciously identified with negativity, it starts losing momentum and thus you start becoming more and more resistance free to allowing your life-stream’s wisdom and well-being. The way I would define positive patterns are thoughts that don’t create resistance in your being and are conducive to your joy, such as thoughts of self-acceptance, openness, relaxation and inspiration, in fact positive patterns start incrementing as you start losing your negative momentum. To not be aligned with your positive patterns of thought is just another form of negativity.

  5. Jim

    Sen, you say that as my “physical aspect” I am my brain. Where does the heart fit in as a physical being?

    1. Sen Post author

      Jim, when you (as the brain) are lost in negative perceptions, lack-based beliefs and fear-based movements, you create a lot of resistance towards being receptive to your heart’s call. The heart is your guidance (like a wise advisor) towards your natural expression, it has intelligence that can guide you towards living a life of alignment, but it’s upto you if you listen to your heart or be engrossed in a disconnected living. You can even take “heart’s wisdom” as a metaphor for the higher intelligence or the intelligence of your life-stream, if you (as the brain) are too lost in your negative/limiting thoughts you obviously have no space to allow this intelligence to guide you. The way your heart communicates with you is through “feelings”, intuition and inspiration, but you can easily discard its communication because it’s never “forceful”, life does not impose its guidance on you, it’s only an invitation which is always available if you decide to accept.

  6. Jim

    Sen, so who we are, as human beings, is twofold; I am my “brain” and the wholeness of “life”. Still confused on the brain part though. Chopra says to ask yourself, “Who is the I who says, “I have a brain?” His answer is awareness or consciousness. If this is true, then what is consciousness? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this. Thanks Sen.

    1. Sen Post author

      Jim, if you keep it simple your will notice that the “I” is always coming from your brain, when you are asleep there is no I, it’s only when the brain is awake that there is a sense of I. Actually the brain has two parts – the thinking part or the “mind”, and the “Awareness center” – so basically the brain has the capacity to be aware of itself, of its thinking. So Chopra, might be calling this “awareness center” as the real I. Of course, you also need to realize that since there is only life-energy, and everything is life-energy, the true “I” is life itself, and life is “conscious energy”, that’s why it’s called the one consciousness or one being. When the “awareness of your brain” is not lost in the thinking mind altogether, it has the space to connect with “awareness of life” (specifically the awareness of your life-stream, which is focused on this body). So the “awareness of your brain” can connect with the wholeness of life when you relax your awareness from being lost in the “mind” (thinking part) of the brain. You can read the recent post – reducing mind momentum, the subsection “what is awareness”, it may give some insights on this topic.

      The word “I” is created only in the brain, and you can sense that your “I” has a personality always, this is because it’s coming from the brain, and hence has the brain’s natural personality. A lot people get too spiritual and get into “imaginations” in their desire for the sense of extra-ordinary. To have clear picture of reality, it’s important to stay with the ordinary, and see the obvious.

  7. Stella

    Hi Sen,
    I have only just found your site- so many questions to ask(!) however I wonder if you would offer some advice on this topic?
    I feel totally meaningless, I have no desire to “do” anything,if we are just pure awareness- which I “get” intellectually- then what`s the point of doing anything. I realise that sounds really gloomy, maybe I have spent too long wallowing in self pity, also the teachings of Ramana Maharshi, Osho, Tolle and on and on- and it has left me kind of questioning the whole business of life. I find absolutely nothing sparks my interest, I have no ambition, no nothing. This must make me sound like a depressive person, but really I`m not, truth is I haven`t a clue who I am any more. How to I get interested in life, and people? Hope at least some of this makes sense : )

    1. Sen Post author

      Stella, if you are honest with yourself you will sense that your heart does have desires in the domain of physical life, it may be that you feel confused about how to manifest these desires or how to live these desires, and hence you are just looking to avoid the desires so that you don’t feel the pain of it not manifesting. The only meaning for life to take “physical form” is to experience and express in physicality, nothing more, there is no higher meaning – it’s something you can recognize in your heart. You are an expression of life, in the intention of experiencing and expressing in a unique way – and you start true to this intent when you are aligned with your heart’s desire, you don’t need to know “how” it will manifest, you just need to align with it without resisting it, and this alignment will allow the manifestation to unfold and you will sense inspiration arising in you to take certain actions that allow this unfolding. What’s the point of manifesting? Because that’s where your heart wants to go, that’s the point.

  8. Stella

    You answered! Thank-you so much, here`s me saying I am not interested in people, and yet when someone shows a little kindness, as you have done, I am moved to tears. I think( and I do too much of that… thinking) perhaps I am afraid, I have been trying to avoid life, because I get scared, because a lot of things have happened, and it is difficult to break old mind patterns.
    But, I am so happy to have found your site-from my heart thank-you.

    1. Suhasini

      Stella, Don’t worry, you are not alone in this pursuit to find meaning for life!! I guess, this is a phase one goes through before getting clarity. I was feeling like this for few years. Sen sheds 1000 watt light in the path. Follow your heart.

  9. Stella

    Thanks Suhasini- I have been feeling like this for about 3 years now- as I said, I do think too much! However , I am grateful to have found this place. I like Rumi,I find his poems often resonate with me:
    ” There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled.
    There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled.
    You feel it, don’t you?”

    Thanks again, and thanks to Sen for the reply.

    1. Rina

      Hi Stella, Id like to comment about this too. I have been feeling like this for a couple of years as well and lately I suffered a severe breakdown because of it… But there is hope, and u do have things inside you. You enjoy beautiful poetry by Rumi (thanks for posting that verse).
      I actually have been feeling the same, that I don’t have interest in people OR things. But I realized that I only feel this way because at the moment I am lost. When you find yourself within and ‘kindle that candle’ I’m sure that life will become much more passionate.
      And this is a good place to start ( I am also new and find it very helpful).
      Just relax and don’t judge yourself for how you’re feeling (or not feeling). This has helped me a lot.
      Good luck.
      Rina.

  10. Stella

    Hi Rina,
    How kind to reply, and how perceptive of you to say “don`t judge yourself”- of course this is exactly what I do- I suppose we all do- to a certain extent, the ego /the mind whatever.
    I don`t remember what I was “googleing” when Sen came up- but I am glad he did, it doesn`t feel so lonely now.
    Here`s another one from Rumi
    “The wound is the place where the light enters you”
    Thank-you again.

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