You may say that your mind is addicted to negative thinking, but in truth it’s “you” who is addicted to negative thoughts. The “mind” only responds to your vibration and interest, in other words the “mind” does not have a life of it’s own but it does gather momentum from your attention. Through your constant attention to negative thoughts, you have given a lot of momentum to the negative thinking in your mind, and now it feels as if your mind has a life of its own and that it’s thinking negative thoughts constantly. The first step towards freedom from negative thinking is to become “conscious” of your own dysfunctional movement towards feeding negativity.
You don’t become a “realist” by thinking negatively
Most people defend their “habit” of thinking negative thoughts by stating that they are being “realistic”. They feel that they are only being “truthful” when they think negatively about their life and the world in general. Some even feel guilty about thinking a positive thought, or a thought of well-being. The truth however is that whenever you align yourself with a negative thought, you align yourself against life, because life cannot support you in a negative thought.
The reason you feel “bad” when you think a negative thought is because in that moment you are pulling yourself away from the vibration of life (or the wholeness of you). When you are disconnected from the vibration of life (which is based in love and joy), you end up creating a reality that is based in fear and lack. So when you are thinking a negative thought you are not be a “realist” you are just being a “hinderer” of your well-being.
Negative thinking is a habit
Like any addiction, negative thinking gathers momentum with daily use. You may be a person who has been predominantly thinking negative thoughts since your childhood, so now you’ve become deeply addicted to the habit of negative thinking so much so that you start feeling a loss of “identity” when you try to align with joy or love. This is a highly dysfunctional addiction because it causes you to stay disconnected with life itself, and hence it keeps you rooted in a reality which perpetuates suffering.
Just to see this dysfunction in you is enough to create a “shift” within. You have to be willing to let go of your “defensiveness” and acknowledge that your negative thinking is the only reason for the negative reality you are living in. Stop coming up with excuses to defend your addiction to negative thinking.
When you start becoming more and more conscious of this dysfunctional habit in you, it starts slowing down in momentum. You can consciously move your attention away from the stream of negative thinking in your mind (which has a momentum to it), and stay alert so that you are not pulled in by the momentum. With time, the mind will start losing the momentum that it had gathered. Once the mind loses its “negative thinking” momentum, you will be free to think in the direction of your desires, and thus align with the vibration of joy (which is the vibration of life).
Letting go of negative thinking can feel like a loss of identity
The mind does have a huge momentum and so it takes sometime before it slows down and eventually dissolves all patterns of negative thinking. Be patient with yourself and allow this process to happen. It can take a few months, or even a year, for the mind to fully dissolve the momentum it had gathered due to your attention to negative thinking. It’s very normal to feel a sense of “disorientation” when the mind starts losing its “familiar” patterns of negative thinking.
A lot of people feel a sense of “loss” or emptiness when the mind starts dissolving its old patterns of negativity, as they stop feeding it with their attention. There can even be a lot fear associated with moving out of the familiar domain of negative reality. One has to be rooted in the knowing that the dissolution of negative thinking is ultimately going to result in the creation of a positive reality, a reality aligned with your true nature of love, joy and peace. When you are grounded in this truth, you can make this transition quite easily.