Self hatred is a highly toxic form of thinking because it directly resists your well-being. When you have thoughts of inferiority about yourself, or when you feel undeserving/unworthy, it’s a form of self hatred because through these thoughts you are undermining yourself and not valuing who you are. Always remember that who you are is a unique expression of life, and there is no-one like you in this whole universe, and the very reason for your presence here in this reality is because life choose to express as you to fulfill a certain expression/intention. Your uniqueness is evident, not only in the way you look externally, and the unique aptitude/attitude you possess, but also in the way you perceive reality in your mind through the unique make-up of your brain. All forms of self-hatred arise out of comparison, and the only way to stop self hatred is to acknowledge your uniqueness and avoid trying to meet up with someone else’s standards.
Let go of comparisons and be yourself fully
It’s fine to learn from others or desire a certain trait that you admire in others, but this should not happen at the cost of feeling inferior to someone else. You are second to no-one, and life does not look at you as being inferior to anyone. To life you are as valuable as any other living being, and it rejoices in your presence because you allow life to experience itself in a unique way through your physicality. So stop negatively comparing yourself with others around you, though it seems like such a normal “habit” with the mind which is so prone to judging itself and others.
Only when you accept yourself as you are, and fully embrace your natural way of being, will you be able to allow your unique expression to unfold. You will notice that you have certain preferences, likes and dislikes, inclinations and desires, and way of perceiving reality, that in combination make you a very unique “creator” of thoughts and thus a creator of a unique reality. The uniqueness of your way of thinking allows exclusive realities to be created through you, if you allow it to happen.
Don’t try to “fit in”, create your own reality
If your brain has the capacity to desire a reality that you wish to experience, this universe has the capacity to bring this “imagined reality” into physical manifestation. All it requires is that you believe in your dreams, and know that it will be manifested no matter what your circumstances may be right now. Don’t doubt the fulfillment of your dreams, and don’t try to “fight it out” to manifest it, just relax and follow your heart’s calling (aligning with what feels good to your being) and life will take care of orchestrating the manifestation of your reality. You can only hear your heart’s call when you let go of self-hatred, when you let go of trying to be like others, when you let go of trying to “fit in” to a model subscribed by the society.
It’s usually the people who have a highly unique outlook towards life, the pioneers of new thought, who feel the most “out of place” because they don’t seem to fit in with the “herd mindset”. It’s common for people end up judging themselves, imaging that there is something wrong with them, developing strong patterns of self-hatred. If you have such thought patterns active in you, it’s important that you realize your value in this life and understand that you are perfect just the way you are – all that’s needed is that you let go of this negativity to start experiencing the well-being and abundance that life wants to express through you.
When you understand that all you need to do is align with yourself, that you don’t have to fit into to the model prescribed by others, you will be on your way to expressing your own unique reality. At every moment the pull of your life stream is calling you towards the manifestation of the realities you intend to experience, and you only need to let go of holding on to the negativity of the judging mind to merge with this pull. Follow your inspiration, follow your heart, and be assured that life will take care of you plentifully – have trust in the fact that who you are is ultimately the one universal consciousness in this unique form and it’s your birth right as who you are to experience abundance of every form.