Whatever you appreciate in your reality will keep “appreciating” (growing) in your reality because whatever you give attention/focus to gets attracted into your experience. When your focus is on appreciation, you will find that your reality seems to give you more and more opportunities for appreciation.
Appreciation is a mindset which can be developed quite easily with practice. A lot of people unconsciously develop the mindset of “complaining” rather than being appreciative – look at your whole day and determine what percentage of your thoughts were appreciative and what percentage were critical/negative – it will give you an idea of what you are attracting more into your reality. If you are mostly critical/negative about things around you, life will seem to bring you more and more circumstances that give you reasons to be critical. While if you are mostly appreciative of things around you, life will seem to bring you circumstances that give your more opportunities to be appreciative. There is no getting around the simple truth that external reality will always mirror your inner state of being.
Avoid being critical of yourself and others
If you have the habit of being self-critical, you will notice that you are also critical of others and things around you. No matter what the circumstance be, you will notice your mind looking for reasons to criticize and complain. Any pattern which is repeated for a while becomes ingrained in the brain and becomes “repetitive” at a subconscious level. So when you develop the pattern of complaining, there will come a point where your brain becomes “attuned” to complaining almost at a subconscious level where you don’t even seem to have any control over the thoughts of criticism and resentment that arise.
The habit of being critical got developed because you were quite unconscious of the toxicity that it was creating in your energy field. But now that you are getting more and more aware of the influence of negativity in your reality, you can start dis-identifying from this pattern and start inculcating a patter of “appreciation”. It may seem difficult to appreciate things if you’ve been a critical person for long, but it gets easier with practice and in time it will be your second nature. Start first with letting go of the need to be critical of yourself, and then move towards avoiding being critical towards other people, while also looking for reasons to appreciate your reality and yourself more and more.
Develop love rooted behaviors
Hatred is a highly toxic thought form because it’s completely opposite of your natural vibration of love. Appreciation is rooted in love while criticism is rooted in hatred. When you hate on others, you will see others hating on you more often. When you are appreciative of others, you will see others being appreciative of you. But don’t expect others to change first and become appreciative of you, because that’s not how it works – it’s you that needs to change first and become appreciative, the external reality will follow your lead.
If you find it really difficult to find reasons to be appreciative of your life presently, then don’t try to force thoughts in your mind and just relax. It’s enough if you just let go of being critical, even if you don’t feel appreciative – just be neutral for a while. Understand that complaining, and resenting, does not change the flavor of your reality to positive. The only way to make a shift towards positive reality is to let go of hate rooted behaviors and embrace love rooted behaviors. Complaining, resenting, criticizing, are hate rooted behaviors while appreciation, acceptance, gratitude are love rooted behaviors. The more love oriented you are the more your life becomes rooted in abundance and well-being.
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