Your priorities in life play a huge role in attracting your reality. In a simple sense, your priority defines what your “focus” is on, and your focus is the signal that attracts your reality. If you sense that your life feels disorganized or chaotic, it’s an evidence, or proof, of the fact that your priorities are messed up, in that you are either totally confused about what your priorities are, or you are giving priority to things that don’t serve much value in your life. Your priorities are defined by the choices you make in your daily life, so it’s not something you write on a paper, but it’s something you execute in your daily behavior. If you want to attract a reality of ease, abundance and wellness, your first priority needs to be towards your own alignment with your joy/well-being – there is no getting around this truth.
The mind can produce several excuses why you can’t make your own joy the priority of your life, usually the excuses lies around the line of – “I have too many responsibilities to prioritize my joy”, and this is of course true in the life of a person who has never prioritized his/her joy. It’s also important to understand that in the absence of wisdom, there is a possibility that there is an imbalance towards joy which again leads to disorganized and depraved life. However, such a lack of wisdom is an indication that you’ve still not made your well-being your priority and hence are unconsciously lost in over-indulgence. The biggest step you can take towards moving towards alignment with your well-being, is by taking the time to be with yourself, to understand your mind and your state of being, so that you can consciously let go of patterns of dysfunction.
What is your focus in your limited waking hours?
We usually have 15 waking hours in our day (given that most people tend to sleep for at-least 8 hours) and this limitation in time entails that you can’t have unlimited options of involvement. So what you prioritize defines how you experience these hours and how much these hours bring well-being into your life. If you start your morning in a hasty daze, end up in the office driving in a frenzy, work in a state of disharmony, eat unconsciously and then spend the evening getting drunk to forget the whole day – you’ve basically prioritized a hectic lifestyle over a lifestyle of well-being. And overtime this lifestyle starts eating up into your health, relationships and creative expression, leaving you feeling burnt out – usually the compensation most people undertake is to fix a vacation for a week, which is usually just as hectic (if not more), after which they get back to the rigor of their hectic lifestyle.
Circumstances are created by your focus. So it’s not the circumstances that define your priorities, it’s your priorities that have defined your circumstances. So to blame the circumstances for your inability to prioritize your well-being, is a totally skewed way of looking at life. Every moment you have the opportunity to make a conscious choice in the direction of your well-being. It could be as simple as taking 10 minutes to center yourself by pausing in your work, and just sitting in a state of relaxed awareness, regaining your composure and working at a more relaxed pace. It may seem as if the outside world is putting pressure on you, but the truth is that you are the one who is putting pressure on yourself and the outside world is simply reflecting your mindset.
A few pointers on consciously prioritizing your well-being
When you are aligned with your inner wholeness, by letting go of the momentum of negativity, you are automatically guided towards the right choices, on a daily basis, that are in alignment with your well-being. However, if you are in the process of coming to a place of inner wholeness, it can help to make these few conscious choices in your life to expedite this process.
Don’t start your day in a frenzy – The way you start your day usually defines the tone of at-least the next 8 hours, if not the whole day. If you start your day in a forced frenzy, you’ve already exhausted most of your limited energy for the day. The best way to start a day is in a slow paced manner, allowing the body to adjust to the waking state.
Biologically, all your body’s functions are in a state of lowest efficiency first thing in the morning – the body temperature is low, muscles are cold, lungs are functioning at a much lower efficiency, your body is in the process of detoxing and there is a lower energy in your body since it’s been 10 hours from your last meal. It takes a while before the body adjusts to the waking hours. Be easy on yourself in the morning, and give yourself at-least 30 minutes of relaxed time before getting involved in activities.
Feed positive data into your brain – By its very design the brain, being a neural network, keeps rotating the data you expose it to for a few minutes, if not a few hours. So it’s very important to not feed it negative data first thing in the morning, else you just end up setting a negative tone for the day, especially when there is already a negative momentum running in your brain.
If it’s not a necessity, avoid reading the newspaper or watching the news first thing in the morning, you are very likely to read or see something negative that gets stuck in your brain. The better use of your time should be to enjoy a brisk jog or a walk, or workout, which defines that your bodily well-being is your priority and life responds to this focus by ensuring your good health. It’s also a huge advantage to listen to, or read, some positive information for a few minutes in the morning, which can start a cycle of positive thinking in your brain.
Feed your body with wholesome nutrition – Start your day with a focus on eating or drinking something nutritious rather than pumping your body with “pep up” drinks in a bid to accelerate it. It’s scientific that the quality of food you eat defines the moods in your brain – actually, the truth is that your state of mind attracts the type of food you eat, a negatively oriented brain usually makes choices towards foods that are not healthy for the body, which in turn just amplifies the negativity in the brain owing to the toxicity in the blood.
Eating foods rich in antioxidants, first thing in the morning, is the best way to supply your brain non-toxic nutrition – fresh fruits are some of the best source of anti-oxidants, and they also supply easily digestible carbohydrates which supply the body with immediate energy to spur your morning activities. Making a conscious choice towards eating wholesome foods, is a direct indication that you have your well-being as your priority – and life responds to this focus by bringing you resources to help you make better choices with respect to the food you eat.
Allow a creative expression in your work – It’s quite possible that your mis-alignment has caused you to attract some work that does not feel aligned with your joy, or natural expression. However, for the time-being, you need to bring a positive approach to your current work so that your positive vibe can attract better working conditions and a more suited vocation. It’s all about setting your focus on being aligned with your joy, irrespective of the current situation.
Your brain has a limited capacity for output and if you expend it on activities that are not of useful value, you are simply wasting your energy and thus not prioritizing your well-being. The brain naturally enjoys creative expression in work and when it’s not cluttered with useless data, it can focus better on the creative expression alone. A lot of people start their work hours lost in distractions rather than allowing a clear focus on expending their energy towards creative expression. As a human being, it’s natural for you to be drawn towards a creative expression, as a part of your natural makeup, and there is a joy when you produce quality work; it feels highly fulfilling in your being. Whatever be your current work situation, find a way to reduce your distractions and focus on using your working hours to be a channel of creative expression.
Don’t be lost in activities – Ultimately, life is not just about expression, it’s also about experience. If you become lost in your expressions (like your work), you can easily become unconscious towards savoring the experience of your journey. It’s so common to see people become drones, or worker bees, with little awareness outside their work – they don’t leave their work even while eating or spending time with their children, there is always a mobile device that keeps them connected to their work. This is not so much the nature of their work, rather the nature of their unconscious choice.
If your waking hours go by in a daze of work, you are basically telling life that you don’t really care about savoring the experience of your physical journey, and thus your personal well-being is not your priority. The reality you attract under such a focus is mostly a reality that’s aligned with stress, frenzy and fatigue. You might be involved in doing a work that you thoroughly enjoy, but if you have no life outside your work, it just means that you’ve narrowed down your perception of life and are no longer moving in consciousness but just in daze of being lost in your expression.
Basically, when you start taking the time to be with yourself (without distractions), to get a sense of your state of being, and listening to your heart, you start becoming more conscious of your life, which allows you the invitation to make a conscious choice towards letting go of patterns that are no longer in harmony with your well-being and thus become receptive to inspirations that help you create a positive reality.