Everything that is born is subject to growth, in fact life as a dynamic energy movement is always in a “forward” motion. There is no regression or “going back” in life, it’s always growing forward. As a human being, your body keeps growing or aging in a forward movement – infancy, childhood, teenage, adulthood are some very general terms which can be used to describe the growth phase of a human. Once you hit adulthood, you keep growing as an adult in maturity, wisdom, intelligence and character.
There is the “physical” growth of the body, and then there is the “mental growth” of the mind. The physical growth of the body is mostly inevitable because it happens at a cellular level (though it is quite possible to resist certain physical growth through resistant thoughts), however the “mental growth” required to match new/forward realities is what a lot of people tend to “resist” because of the tendency of the mind to cling to old identities. When you are not in resistance to this transformation/growth, your life seems to keep moving in a dynamic way towards new realities and experiences, but when you are in a place of “resistance” towards this growth you start feeling stuck, confused and out of sorts, and your reality starts feeling conflicted and incongruent.
What causes resistance to your inner growth?
Different realities require different “mindsets”. The reality that you lived as an infant or teenager required a far different mindset than which is required to lead an adult life. But a lot of people (their minds) are not willing to let go of the old mindset/”self image” and thus not allowing the growth towards a different “mindset” required for the new realities and experiences. If you get a feeling that you are being “immature”, it could well be a wake-up call for you to let go of your old mindset and allow a transformation of your mind towards a new maturity.
Transformation of your mind would take place on its accord if you just allow yourself to let go of your old identities, self-image, outlook and beliefs, that you know are no longer congruent with the type of reality you wish to experience. You literally need to just “let go” of them and allow the “new” mindset to come in.
A lot of people tend to carry their “childhood” identity through out their entire life and thus resist a lot of growth and expansion which was their due, and thus feel stuck and unsuccessful through out. Your childhood identity was present, and useful, when you were a child, your teenage identity was useful as a teenager, but these identities will be totally incongruent in you as an adult – and yet it’s so common to see people carry their “child” identities in them and try to negotiate their adult life through this old self-image and mindset.
Are you holding back on your growth?
See if you can identify with any of the patterns below.
- In your dreams you appear mostly as a adolescent boy/girl who feels helpless or scared
- You feel scared/insecure, and out of place, in the company of adults in general
- You constantly get a feeling that you are not as mature as you wish to be
- You are referred to as being “immature” by people around you
- You wish to experience certain realities but your mind feels a lot of fear about it (similar to a child who is afraid of the dark)
- You have phobias in you that don’t feel normal to you as an adult
- You are intensely scared of standing on your own shoes and dealing with some “practicalities” of adult life that you know are inevitable for the reality you wish to experience
- You constantly feel like a child within, rather than feeling like a mature adult
- You are constantly looking for emotional support from outside rather than having the maturity to find your own support within
- You see yourself throwing tantrums for small issues and being “difficult” in order to seek attention
These are just some small pointers to help you identity the “child identity” within you that may still be holding a major portion of your human consciousness in spite of you being an adult “physically”. To have the positives of a child like being passionate, enthusiastic, heart-oriented and aligned with love, are of essence because these positives are aligned with your true nature – but to carry on holding to the negatives of a child-phase like feeling dependent, emotionally immature, overly anxious and unstable, are patterns that will constantly resist your expansion towards newer realities that you wish to experience.
Growth happens as soon as you allow it
You don’t have to “work” (through physical action) towards gaining maturity, you can simply allow the maturity to come in by bringing in a deep awareness to patterns in you that no longer feel congruent to who you’ve become or who you want to become. A deep “awareness” of the incongruent mindset, self-image and identity-structure is enough to start a transformation that creates an inner growth. Awareness automatically implies that there is a level of “dis-identification” now, and this brings in the space for a new intelligence to work and for a new “programming” to come through from the movement of your life force.
The genetics present in a human undergoes a change whenever he/she allows a transformation or inner growth in their mindset, this causes the creation a human who is more evolved than the genetic pool he/she came from. You are not limited by your old genes, you are not limited by the programming you inherited from your culture or society, you are not limited by your up-bringing, neither are you limited by age, intelligence or resources, the only thing that will ever limit you is your inability to allow a inner transformation to take place by letting go of identification with old identities which are no longer congruent with the new realities you wish to experience.
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