Wisdom-based thinking is far superior than any form of “forced” positive thinking. Wisdom-based thinking is most natural to the being that you are (it’s the natural intelligence inherent to life-energy), however this natural mode of thinking is only available, seamlessly, when you are in a state of balance – when you are imbalanced towards light nature, or dark nature, it’s difficult to have wisdom-based thinking on a consistent basis. All it takes to navigate your life in a wholesome manner is to be connected with wisdom, and all it takes to create imbalanced life situations is for one to be driven by deluded/imbalanced thinking – there are no secrets. The good news is that wisdom is the most natural form of intelligence that’s available in your being, and you will have consistent access to wisdom when you are no longer clinging to an imbalanced way of thinking (light or dark nature imbalance).
Why do we avoid the natural state of being? Why is it that we tend to become imbalanced towards a certain nature, either light or dark, as soon as we become physically focused? The truth is that becoming imbalanced in thinking is very normal when you are operating on a physical plane with a physical body. Physicality is the most challenging form of living – to have a body, to deal with mortality, to deal with diversity, to deal with the brain (its survival tendencies and internal/external conditioning), to deal with the heart (its attractions and anxieties), to deal with the time lag between manifestations (to deal with time in general), to deal with the constant pull towards growth, to deal with external influences, to deal with your drives, to deal with laws etc has to be the most challenging journey a soul can ever take. Given these factors it’s totally normal to lose your awareness to the pull of physicality and become unconsciously driven by it, leading to the development of a certain imbalanced momentum towards some light and dark natures of living, like over-sensitivity (imbalanced light nature) or greed (imbalanced dark nature).
The problem is that a state of imbalance is not conducive towards a connection with wisdom and hence it becomes a vicious cycle of creating more imbalance due to lack of wisdom. The breaking point usually is when we reach some form of threshold, with respect to suffering, after which we become receptive to wanting a freedom from the imbalance, which prompts us to question our unconscious behaviors – this questioning of unconscious behavior is what is called awakening of awareness. This moment of disconnection, from the pull of the imbalanced momentum, is all it takes for your awareness to connect with wisdom inherent to your being, this connection with wisdom can spark an inspiration in your awareness which never leaves you until it takes you towards true alignment in the form of inner wholeness/freedom – this journey towards conscious balance, once sparked, becomes an unrelenting movement until it finds its destination. Of course, finding conscious balance, as a soul, is not an ending rather it’s a new beginning to a different way of experiencing life with a steady access to wisdom.
Wisdom stems from the state of allowing
The state of allowing is simply about an openness in your being where you are not trying to suppress, and are not unconsciously identified with, either the emotional movement or movement of thoughts. You can look at the state of allowing as a form of “intelligence”, a different approach to thinking, a means to connect with wisdom, a channel of becoming receptive to a balanced perspective – it’s a very practical way towards bringing in a maturity in your being. Once you start connecting with this state of allowing (even for a few minutes a day) it starts bringing in more and more wisdom into your life, this wisdom can come in the form of insights from within or in the form of being guided towards a source of understanding/solution on the outside. In my own experience, I’ve known that the state of allowing is all it took for me to start gaining a deeper understanding of life, sometimes this understanding would come from within towards questions or confusion I had, sometimes this understanding would come from a certain event/interaction that took place and sometimes the understanding would come from a random source of information/knowledge on the outside that I felt guided towards.
When you try to live your life on the basis of following some fixed strategies or techniques there is a tendency to become “rigid” in your movement, and this rigidness blocks the fluid intelligence of wisdom that is available on a moment to moment basis. It’s very normal for the mind to ask for a technique because there is a sense of comfort in holding on to a technique – but this sense of comfort comes at the cost of becoming dependent on the technique, and thus being rooted in a sense of rigidity. A true sense of power/freedom can only come in when you no longer feel the need to cling to a technique to live your life, rather you feel totally confident in the intelligence/wisdom inherent in your being to navigate life on a moment to moment basis. The state of allowing is not a technique, though the mind will try to make it into one. The state of allowing is an openness that allows you to be free of the influences of emotions or conditioned thinking, so that you have access to a space that allows a fresh intelligence which is valid/required for your current situation, which is what wisdom is. Always remember that wisdom works on a moment to moment basis, don’t try to cling to a certain wisdom that you got in a moment, don’t try to use a past wisdom/realization to deal with your present – if you do that it means that you are becoming “rigid” and trying to navigate life through a technique.
The state of allowing is not a passive surrender
There is a lot of importance given to the state of surrender, in spiritual teachings, and the reason is simple – the state of surrender allows your awareness to dislodge from struggling with the mind (with thinking) and thus allows the space for wisdom to start operating. However, the mind can soon start making “surrender” into a technique and tries to get passive in life – the term surrender can have a meek connotation to it and can be misinterpreted by the mind to be a pointer towards becoming passive or imbalanced in the light-nature of being selfless. This is the reason why I stopped using surrender as a pointer (which I would have used in some old posts), and I use the pointer of the state of conscious allowing as a state of fearless being, it’s a state of true power, a state of connecting with inner freedom, it’s not a trance like state of becoming passive and detached from life. Also, the state of allowing is an inner work where you find inner freedom from the pull of emotional/mental momentum, it does not mean that you become allowing of people to run over you on the outside or you become allowing of outside influence to dominate your life, that’s just meekness.
To be rooted in state of surrender can be a technique of the mind, and it becomes evidenced in the fact that you feel more victimized when you cling to this technique as your way of living. The teaching of “If someone slaps you, turn the other cheek”, if used as a technique, can have some highly negative consequences, the teacher might have given this teaching from the wisdom that served him/her, but the student who takes up this teaching as a technique can end up using it in the wrong situation (without allowing his/her own wisdom) and thus end up facing a negative consequence. I remember being influenced by the teaching of “compassion” (during my initial sojourn with spiritual teaching) to the point of using it as a technique to live my life, with some imagination of “egoless” living attached to it, suffix to say that it didn’t auger too well for me. However, this experience allowed me to see the futility of using techniques, or making a teaching into a technique, no matter how well-intentioned the teacher may be – I realized that I had to stand upon my own wisdom rather than trying to incorporate the wisdom-based teachings of some teacher which might have worked for his/her life.
It’s important to understand that you have a personality of your own, not only due to the brain/heart of your body but also from the being/soul that you are, and you have to work through this personality rather than trying to force a certain way of being through using a technique of emulating/copying someone else. Your personality can always change, can evolve, can grow, but only when you start being true to yourself in the present place of where you are – if you can’t be true to yourself in your present state, you cannot grow in a true manner. Trying to mold your personality to fit in with some imagination you have of the “right personality” is a recipe for more inner conflict and pretentious living – I am sure you’ve seen people try to take on a certain fake personality to project a certain image to the outside. The truth is that there is no such thing as a “right personality”, or one right way of being. In many scriptures, Gods are presented to have different personalities, if you take God to be an evolved soul it’s an indication that no matter how evolved you are you will always have a personality of your own – you can bring a balance into your personality but don’t try to fake an image of what you are not. Wisdom always operates in a unique and personal manner, totally personal to your being, to your personality. The state of allowing is not about surrendering your personality, rather it’s about allowing a true connection with yourself while releasing the patterns of imbalance that may have crept into you.
Using your physicality to grow in wisdom
From one perspective, you can see your physical journey, with your current physical body, as a temporary experience of consciously bringing in balance while you are in your physical focus. The experience of consciously bringing in balance is a deeply rewarding one and it enables you (as a soul) to grow in the understanding of what balance truly is, thus becoming a more evolved/wiser being. You may be born with a brain (the physical mind) that has strong imbalances towards certain dimension(s) (out of the six dimensions of love, joy, fear, hatred, boredom and sexuality) and it affords you, as the soul/being focused on this body, the opportunity to bring in conscious balance to it. When you look at it from this perspective, you realize that your body is just a means for you to grow as a soul in your experience with bringing in conscious balance. This experience will serve you in your evolution as a soul. Instead of looking at the imbalances as a negative start looking at them as your opportunity to evolve as a being through connecting with wisdom to bring in the balance. As you accomplish the task of bringing in balance, consciously, to your physicality, there will be a sense of a real achievement/growth in your being – a real appreciation for yourself as a conscious being.
It makes a huge difference when your perspective towards the “negativity”, in your mind, is not one of fear and hopelessness, but is one of looking forward to working towards bringing in a conscious balance. I remember, at one point, I started enjoying this process of working towards bringing in a balance to my mind, to my mental/emotional momentum – the enjoyment was because I could clearly see that I had the power to bring in the required balance, irrespective of what the negativity was. When you sense this power in you, there will no longer be a sense of helplessness towards your mind or towards life. The practice of the state of allowing gives you this sense of this power that you have. When you know that you can allow a feeling of fear within you, without becoming identified with it, you realize the power that you have to go beyond the pull of emotional/mental momentum and thus release its force/grip – as you develop this capacity, you also become confident, as a being, about your power to bring in a balance consciously.
No matter what challenge you are facing in your physical life, currently, just remember that it’s an opportunity to work at bringing in a conscious balance. Imbalance creates suffering, balance creates wholeness – so if you are suffering it’s an indication of a certain imbalance (either in your thinking or in your emotional momentum or both). The imbalance could be present in you as a being (possibly from your past lifetimes) or it could be present in your physicality (body/brain) through the genetics or external conditioning, or both. You would need to use the opportunity you have, in your current physical journey, towards finding a conscious balance in yourself (as a being) and/or working towards bringing a conscious balance to your body/brain through connecting with your wisdom. The more you access wisdom, the wiser you become as a being, and your physicality can act as a “catalyst” that prompts you to connect with your wisdom thus helping you become a wiser being.
So how does one know if there is an imbalance? Basically from the suffering it creates or the sense of conflict that it creates within you. Of course it’s easy to be denial of the suffering, or in denial of the sense of inner conflict, mostly when you are leading an unconscious life of being lost in your mind momentum, lost to the external noise/distraction. You can always sense an imbalance if you are willing to be aware of yourself, if you are willing to take the time to connect with your space of being. Wisdom is inherent to your being, it’s just that you lose touch with this nature when you are lost in the noise of thoughts, emotions or mind momentum. The wisdom of your being will immediately detect an imbalance, it’s just that we can then choose to ignore it, suppress it or deny it, until the imbalance keeps growing in momentum and becomes a force that seems like a huge challenge to deal with. However, no matter how much momentum a certain imbalance has, it’s possible to bring in a conscious balance – this power is present in you as a being if you make a choice towards it, a choice towards being more aware, being more connected with the sense of wisdom inherent to you. The practice of the state of allowing is the portal towards this connection.