Whether it be in a man or a woman, the mind can be sensed as a “male energy”. In the context of this post, by “mind” I am simply referring to the thinking part of the brain. There is sense of “toughness”, rigidity and strength which is inherent to the way a mind functions, which is what I am labeling as “male energy” for the sake of reference – I am not saying it’s good or bad, it’s just the way it is. Men and women are both capable of having a strong male energy in their being when they are brain oriented. Women, in most cases, are more connected with their heart but by being influenced by the rigors of the modern day they’ve also develop patterns of being brain oriented and hence, presently, many have developed a high male energy in them – which is easily one of the reasons why a lot of relationships fail in today’s age because of a lack of “female energy” in the relationship, there is just a strong male energy component on both sides which causes an imbalance.
One can easily sense that life-energy is “female energy” – it’s akin to love/joy, playfulness and innocence, and if you don’t sense it that way, it’s mostly because you are too rooted in your brain and are trying to understand this life-energy through your “technical thinking”, instead of sensing it in your heart. Life-energy is sensitive, innocent, loving and playful, and your “heart” is made in the image of life-energy. It’s seen that the “heart” is the first organ to develop in a fetus, and its wisdom is what co-ordinates the development of the rest of the body. You can be brain-dead and still be alive, but you can’t heart-dead and be alive. The heart is the first expression of life-energy as a body, and it contains the intent of life-energy in that body (your natural expression).
In a person who becomes strongly mind-dominated, life-energy cannot express freely, because such a person lacks connection with the heart. However, the mind is needed to give security to the life-energy/heart for it to express in this physical realm, and if you don’t have a “stable” mind your heart cannot express freely either. This is the balance, between mind and heart, that is needed for a harmonious life – the heart needs a “stable” mind to feel secure enough to express itself, but not a “dominant” mind that’s too cold to allow heart’s expression or a fearful mind that’s too closed to allow the heart’s expression.
The interplay between heart and mind
The heart contains the intent of life-energy in this body, the way life-energy wants to express itself through this physical form. However, this is a physical realm and it has its challenges – there is a survival aspect that comes into play and the mind naturally stays on the guard all the time, especially as we keep growing into adults. As a child, our mind was not very developed and most of us lived our expression quite freely as the vibrant life-energy, even if our environment (filled with mind-oriented people) was not very conducive. At one point, most of us learnt to suppress our heart and became more brain-oriented in a bid to survive in this world, because we started perceiving the hardships of life and started “toughening up” to handle it, thus becoming imbalanced in “male energy” – this is true for men and women both.
For life-energy to express in this physical realm, through a physical body, it needs to be given a “wholesome” environment within, in which it can blossom. A hardened mind cannot give such an environment neither can a fearful mind give such an environment. Only a stable mind, which is not very fearful and is also not “insensitive”, can provide a conducive inner state of being for life-energy to start expressing its creativity freely. Every human being, who has provided such a conducive environment for their heart/life-energy to express itself, has been a harbinger of well-being, originality and creative abundance in this world in their own right, because life-energy is not only a strong force of creativity but is also a strong force of well-being.
It’s like the feeling a girl gets when she is with a guy who provides her a sense of security – she immediately becomes playful, innocent, loving and joy-oriented, bringing a sense of light-heartedness and cheer into any environment she is in. The same girl if she is with a guy who makes her feel insecure would go into her shell and not express her true self. Life-energy being “female energy” has this same behavior – when the mind gives it a stable/secure state of being, it starts expressing itself in all its grace, bringing a lot of playfulness and abundance into life. When the mind is insecure, anxious, struggle-oriented, or, hardened, closed and hostile, it creates a vibration that is not conducive to allowing the heart to start expressing, and hence prevents life-energy’s creative influx from coming through.
The phase of letting go of the mind momentum
In most cases, after so many years of living in a disconnected manner, the brain obviously has a lot of patterns of resistance running in it. There is also a lot of accumulation of low-vibration energy, created by mind’s fear/resistance, in the body. To make such a brain come back to “wholeness” one needs to let go of it for a while, so that its momentum can start coming down and the plethora of negative patterns running in it can lose their intensity.
By “let go” I literally mean just don’t be rooted in the brain (which includes not trying to force positive thinking) and for a while allow your awareness to just rest outside it – you can watch the brain as a detached witness but don’t buy into all its arguments, cynical thought-patterns and fears. It’s tough initially to do this, mostly because the brain has so much momentum going for it, and because you’ve been addicted to being brain-oriented (so much that you are scared of any other way of living), but if you can feel the “disconnection” in you and you want to come back into wholeness, there is no choice but to go through this small phase of discomfort of letting go of the brain till its momentum slows down. Allow yourself the time and space to go through this phase, there is nothing more quintessential than to live out your heart’s expression else you just feel disconnected all your life.
When you do start letting go of the brain, you will notice that you no longer have the energy to pursue actions that came from the place of disconnection/struggle, you also sense that you can’t sustain realities that are not really congruent with your natural expression (which you were sustaining through force and anxiety). This is how your external environment starts becoming conducive for your heart’s expression to start unfolding, for your life-stream to start manifesting the intent in which you were born, which includes aligned work (creative expression), relationship, health and life-style as an ongoing unfolding.
As your brain loses its negative momentum, it starts becoming more wholesome, there is a sense of courage, not a “violent courage” but a “peaceful courage” where you feel open to allowing life – this is the perfect environment for life-energy to start unfolding its creativity through you, allowing your heart’s intent to flower through. You will know when your brain feels stable, it’s not something you can force, it’s something that happens on its own when you “consciously” let go of being lost in its negative momentum and allow its force to ebb away, it does require a “waiting” period because it’s a lot like waiting for a car running at 100 miles/hour to slow down after you release the accelerator. The brain will keep asking “how to let go of the brain”, and if you are caught up in this question you can never let go of the brain, something in you already understands this pointer of letting go, so don’t over-analyze it.